Hey everyone. I have been with my boyfriend for about 2 years and I don’t know if I want to stay. I don’t know if I love him or ever did. We got together pretty quick after I left my kids dad and he separated from his wife. I don’t know if we are together just because we couldn’t stand to be alone or if there’s real love. What brought this all in was the factor he’s changed like a complete personality change. He use to be fun, very affectionate, willing to do things, and good with my kids. Now he’s grumpy and short all the time, freaks out on my kids, doesn’t listen to what I say but gets pissed because he assumes what I said and it’s usually something negative towards him, he sleeps all the time, and gets pissed about the house not being cleaned yet he doesn’t do anything about it. I was cleaning every room throughly once a week and he would then go over the exact same thing and get pissed because something didn’t get done. He refuses to talk to me just walks around all pissed and will ignore me and won’t respond until I flip out and get ticked.
I don’t know what to do. Should I stick it out or just call it quits.
Sometimes I feel that most relationships are like this, maybe not so much of the moody part but how it’s not like in the beginning, when men make more of an effort to do things or go out. It’s like in the first few months or year, men want to try and conquer the women they like over. They go out of their way to impress you, have fun and everything but once they win you over and sort of go into a routine then they just get lazy after lol. That’s what I think. You should try and talk to him about it maybe he is depressed or stressed out lately and is taking it out on everyone. Hopefully it isn’t something else.
Well we spoke and I told him that I’m at the point of leaving. That I can’t stay in a relationship with someone who is like that with the kids. I was so honest to admit that right now, I am not attracted to him and I’m okay with him not being around. He has reached out and is getting in with a psychologist and he has been meditating/ drawing every night to help relieve stress. He stated he’s really stressed because of money and I told him so do something about it. Get a second job until his job is more stable since it’s commission only. He now has a second job and is following up on a lead for a potential better one. He asked me to give him until December to get his stuff straight and prove that he isn’t this that who he was when we meet and that first year is who he really is. 🤞🏻this is the start of everything getting better.
So they say, that at a year if you don’t see yourself married to the person you’re with, then you’re wasting your time.. it’s definitely worth having a convo about, maybe he’s got something going on that you aren’t aware of 🤷🏻♀️