Just need to vent for a second.
I’m really over being a SAHM. I just can’t do it anymore. Honestly it’s mainly hard for me because of how damn lonely it is. My boyfriend works 12 hour days so I watch my son from when he wakes up to when he goes to bed. By the end of the day I am way too tired to even attempt to have a social life and see my friends or even spend time with my boyfriend who lives with me so I usually just go to sleep. I feel like I have no time for myself or my relationship anymore and I’m going a little crazy. I just REALLY miss hanging out with people my age. Don’t get me wrong I’m so grateful that I am able to stay home and watch my son but for me staying home all the time has put a huge toll on my mental health. Being at home has always made me anxious since I was a little girl. I always have liked to get out of the house and go on adventures and do fun random things. But since I got pregnant and had my son I can’t do those kind of things anymore and I really miss it😭😭 my boyfriend and I we would used to just get up and drive to another state hours away just because we were bored, and now were just home all the time. I feel like I’m losing myself and idk what to do. I would love to be able to go out and do something fun but I don’t have the time or money or a babysitter to do so.
If you took the time to read this whole thing then thank you for listening, I just needed to get that off my chest
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What about going out on little adventures with your son? Do you drive? You can explore new parks in your area, go to library events, nature walks, etc. Your baby will enjoy it as well. Does he work everyday? Why don’t you guys plan to do something “new” at least once a month.
The librZry has an event for his age group but it’s right when he goes down for his nap 😓 I can’t really go to many parks bc of a huge measles outbreak in a specific group of people in my area that LOVEEE to go to the parks in my town. We’ve been going on some walks around the neighborhood but that’s getting boring and there’s no trails around where I live. And yes he works Monday through Saturday he’s only off one day a week which is sundays 😭 and he’s gone from 5:30am to sometimes close to 8pm.
I've lost myself since being a stay at home mom. I mean I get me time but still lost myself. I'm definitely not the same person I was and I don't even feel like it. So you're not the only one feeling this way, it sucks
100% agree. My boyfriends really good about letting me have a break the problem is I never know what to do bc I’m not the type of person that likes to be alone. I would rather go do something or hang out with friends but now with my son that makes it so much harder to do and sometimes impossible. It just really sucks sometimes. I love my son so much he saved my life I wouldn’t trade my life now for the world I just wish I had more friends that understood idk😭😭
Go for a walk take your son to a park, a lot of libraries have activities for babies and toddlers during the week barns and nobles does too look on Facebook join a mommy group in your area. Trust me I was a stay at home mom now I work sitting around isn’t going to fix things if you miss going out then alter your life so you can take your son. Your boyfriend works 12 hours a day yes help would be nice is it realistic nope my boyfriend worked 12 hours grave yard so not only was he gone all night he slept pretty much all day and I was on my own battling PPD horribly in a state I knew literally 1 person my boyfriend that was it so I know and honestly they only way to fix it is to make your life more kid friendly
Yeah I try to take him out during the day but it’s just been so difficult lately he always throws a tantrum or something when we’re out and then we have to go home 😭 I just wish I had some mom friends but I have a lottt of anxiety since I had my son so making friends isn’t always easy for me on my own.
I completely feel the same way. I’m home all the time. I was just telling my fiancé that I just want someone who will go to Walmart with me or something. Come over because they are bored. But I sit here all day with my boys. I love them dearly but like it’s depressing that I have no friends. Me and my man would go to Niagara Falls for the day for the hell of it. Now it’s like a struggle and a half to go to the grocery store. But I love my boys and wouldn’t trade them for the world. Just a little break is what we need.
Yessss me too I wish I had a friend like that😭 it would be so nice to hAve company instead of being alone all the time. And that sounds like me and my boyfriend, we would do crazy things like that too. We haven’t even been to the grocery store together in months 🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️
Girl same here! My fiancé keeps telling me to hang out with our neighbor who is 15 like really I’m 24 I don’t want to hang out with a 15 year old and he’s working with my dad so I’m home by myself with my son and every time he comes home I get really irritated he keeps telling me to have to time to myself but I don’t know how plus with the baby and me struggling to keep my milk supply up it’s very stressful for me but he thinks it’s a simple fix 🙄
15? Oh yeah I don’t blame you for not wanting to hang out with her lol. I TOTALLY understand not knowing how to have time to yourself, every time my boyfriend takes our son so I can have a break I’m always like ok what do I do now 😂🤦🏼♀️ he tells me to get out of the house and go somewhere but idk where to go bc I never leave the house anymore so I never know what to do when I leave!!! And mama I give you major props for trying to breastfeed and trying to keep your milk supply up! That happened to me and I just gave up because breastfeeding was driving me crazy. You are doing an AMAZING job mama❤️
@babybump21, thank you!! Breastfeeding is really important to me so I’m trying to go as long as I can and yeah there’s not many places to go by myself especially with this heat ohh hell no 😂
I’m with you I’ve been a stay at home mom for a year and I’m pregnant with another baby my fiancé works crazy hours my family I barely see I have no friends it’s usually me and the kids that’s it I have no one to talk to my fiancé has all these friends he talks on the phone with or can go hang out with I’m in my apartment all the time my sister is the only one that comes over once a week no one invites us to anything people have become so fake since I had my second child my fiancé doesn’t get how alone I feel I cry in the shower I get depressed my fiancé never just wants to go out cause he is exhausted from work I love my kids but I need a break
You deserve a break mama!! Maybe ask your fiancé if he can bring some friends over instead of him going there so you can have a little break? Nobody invites me or my boyfriend to anything either, everyone assumes we won’t come🙄if you ever need someone to talk to feel free to PM me ❤️
@babybump21, I really don’t like any of his friends like that and I’m all about loyalty all his friends to me seem like they use him and I tell him that all the time
@jaelei, oh really I’m sorry:( maybe mommy’s & me classes so you can get out of the house and meet other moms??
I'm in a similar situation, except my husband works from home, but since I don't know how to drive yet, I'm home with my son all the time. What about family? Grandparents? What about driving somewhere just you and your son? I'm planning to do that once I get my license. I'm with you in my thoughts and if you need someone to talk to, pm me. ♥️
Thank you mama!! And I do have family that lives around me but they all work so I don’t have anyone to help me out during the day or even talk to. I try to get out just my son and I but it’s hard sometimes by myself so I don’t do it much.
I feel you girl I feel the same exact way! Iv cried so much because I’m stuck. My bf has a awesome social life because he works. We live 8 hours away from friends and family so I have nothing to keep me busy. I love my daughter to death but honestly I’m still going nuts.
Oh wow 8 hours?? If you ever feel lonely or need someone to talk to feel free to PM me mama ❤️
I completely get where you’re coming from. I’ve been a SAHM now for about 2 years and things have reaaaallly took its toll on me.
I never realized how lonely being a SAHM is until I was one, everyone always says how lucky I am but I don’t feel that way 😓
Your feelings are completely understandable.
Remember when it comes to being a sahm you absolutely can not forget about yourself. Whether it's a nice bubble bath with a few candles lit while playing some jams, finding a hobby or simply napping when the little ones are resting..make time for you😉 and make sure you inform your husband what is needed for yourself. I'm sure he'll understand.
Your feelings are completely understandable.
Remember when it comes to being a sahm you absolutely can not forget about yourself. Whether it's a nice bubble bath with a few candles lit while playing some jams, finding a hobby or simply napping when the little ones are resting..make time for you😉 and make sure you inform your husband what is needed for yourself. I'm sure he'll understand.