@ladyfreyja, this isn’t healthy sis.

It comes down to if this how you want to spend the rest of your life.If yes then you kind of can’t complain about it and if not then you have to do something to change it.

This isn’t healthy dear. Find a women’s shelter. Pack the kids up go there. Apply for emergency custody, spousal support, and divorce. The spousal support is because he is manipulating you to make sure you can’t work, in this way he is forcing you to depend on him for everything.
My husband is the only one who works outside the home. I have a debit card to our joint account. No I don’t make the money but I am the one who spends it to get groceries, clothes for the family, coffee when I want, gas for my gas guzzler suv. My husband may ask me not to go to events sometimes but other times I go alone or he goes alone. We all need a break sometimes. Adult connections are important to all humans mental and emotional health. If you are being secluded from your friends that is usually the start of getting you alone enough that an abuser can start physically abusing you.

You are being secluded, cut off from finances, and treated like a child. He is emotionally and mentally and financially abusing you. Next will be physical. At first it will be ‘oops I didn’t mean to slap you, but you shouldn’t have said/done that to make me angry.’ Then it’ll get worse ‘if you don’t do this I’m going to —— you!’ Then he’ll start hurting you whenever he feels like something is your fault.
Please get out and seek help immediately.

That's a form of manipulation. I would reconsider being with him. If he ever gives you money, or if you somehow get a job, then save up and leave.

So basically what it comes down to is he is all but hurt because it was all too last minute but he still did not want to go anyway. He said I'd I made arrangements weeks ago for child care then it might have happened. Ok I got child care last minute lol kill me. And again I asked him about concert a month ago or so. But never gave me an answer. I think he was hoping I would forget about it, Because he never want to do anything

I just have no where to go at the moment because I have no job and no family. Oh also my car is still needing to get fixed, and that will not be in the road much longer anyway, it's super old and breaks down constantly. He says if I get a job I can't use the family car because it already has tuns of miles on it. We just got it used a year ago. So I don't even know how I would use my car that constantly breaks down to get back and forth to a job. Shit I'm not even allowed to go to my friend's house with the family car, I'd have to use mine

It comes down to if this how you want to spend the rest of your life.If yes then you kind of can’t complain about it and if not then you have to do something to change it.

I would still go and leave him with the kids. He don't want to watch his own kids then he probably should have thought about that when breeding them.

I don’t understand why your husband is dictating what you can and can’t do. You’re a grown ass women not a child

Sounds like mine lmao 😂 we need to hang out leave them to sleep together and I don’t mean that literally

@ladyfreyja, this isn’t healthy sis.

Can you take the kids to the sitters house and have your friend pay so you can go. Or just say you're taking the kids out? I would lie and wouldn't even feel bad about it. He sounds miserable and insecure don't let him get you down.

Would he really go out tonight alone, why not with you. Go out to the concert, you deserve it! It's hard when you are ready and then don't understand that.

Go out enjoy yourself regardless of him. He made his decision to not go. That doesn't mean you don't have to go.