So, I’m quite young. I will be 20 by the time my baby is born. I moved across the country away from my family with my…
So, I’m quite young. I will be 20 by the time my baby is born. I moved across the country away from my family with my boyfriend, and we’ve only been out here a few months and just found out recently that I’m pregnant. Does anyone have any tips on how to tell my family? I’d like to wait until after my first doctors visit which will be around my 8 week mark. I may even wait til I’m out of my first trimester. But my big hold up is that when I tell my family it’ll be a bunch of drama that I don’t want to deal with. I feel like they’ll give me a bunch of negativity and honestly it makes me not want to tell them at all. But I have to, because I’m very close with my family. And it’s been killing me not to be able to talk to my mom. What do you guys think?
Bri·
Мама двоих (1 год, 2 года), ждёт третьего
I was in a similar position, I was 19 going on 20 when my first was born. I was scared and nervous to talk to family. My family found out because I got super nauseated and they were like it's early but your decision. My bf waited until I had my ultrasound photos to tell his side and they were saddened he waited so long to tell them about it. Sometimes family will say the wrong things or make you feel bad, but they're are other times they walk alongside you and help you. I would find the perfect time and follow through with it. It's easier once it's over but at the very least you get closure to your stress and nervousness.
Dyana··
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Yeah that makes sense. I just don’t know when the right time is given everything that’s been going on. I left kind of abruptly and my family still hasn’t gotten quite used to it. But thank you ☺️
Bri··
Мама двоих (1 год, 2 года), ждёт третьего
it can be frustrating to family, but you do what you have to. This is your life and you get to decide how things go. If you want to include them in your new family or not. I don't think there really is a "best time" but what ever you decide is the best time for you. If you need to wait, or think on it do so. If you want to spring it out, or surprise them with a gift/card/game/etc. Then that's your choice. They have tons of ideas of different kinds of reveals, it could make it easier on you, some are tear-jerkers, others make you laugh, catch them by surprise. It Will ease the tension for everyone if you do something like that. :) btw congrats on the pregnancy and I wish you the best of luck.
Dyana··
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that’s a great idea actually. Thank you so very much 🙏🏼🙏🏼💜
Corinne·
Многодетная мама (5 детей), беременна
Honestly, ppl gonna give you negativity no matter what mama in anything you do in life... one thing I've learned is if YOU are happy then dont matter who Shoots you drama, just let it in one ear out the other... my husband's family HATE me and all Ive heard for 8 yrs is drama and negative. We cut them out our life bc its about us building a family and US being happy. Once I figured out how not to let the drama and negativity affect me then I was and am one happy person no matter what. I tell my family when I am out of the 1st trimester now, bc I had two miscarriages and I was tired of building the happiness and having to break the sadness to them. Thats just me though.
Dyana··
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🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 Amen to that. Thank you so much. I intend on waiting til I’m out of my first trimester for sure. I’m just so nervous because I’m very close with my family and it’s not going to be easy for me to cut them off. I will if I have to, but I don’t want to by any means. But you are 100% right on that.
Corinne··
Многодетная мама (5 детей), беременна
not necessarily cut them off but when they come clapping their mouths on the negative stuff about you, your old man, your life, your choices.... then be like mama, daddy who ever I love you all to pieces but please keep the negative away and if they cannot then cut the conversation short. Let them know your happy, its what you want and tell them if they love you like they say they will accept any of your choices. If you want them for anything tell them they will be the first ones you call.
RULE #2 Keep you and your old mans relationship probs or what have it to yourself, it only makes the drama and the negativity worse... I learned that the hard way with my ex husband of 8.5yrs(high school sweetheart puppy love) and my now husband of 8 yrs.
Dyana··
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@beachcutie0808, oh definitely you’re right about that. No relationship probs to the fam lol. And yeah that makes sense. I guess I’ll just have to be stern with them if they try anything. It won’t be easy to deal with but definitely worth it