I saw this a few weeks ago I had to share Stay at home mom (SAHM) depression.... The elephant in the room nobody talks about ☹ I mean, how DARE you complain after being gifted this opportunity to stay at home and raise YOUR own kids 🤦🏽 ♀ but it's not that simple. Of course we SAHM's are being grateful to stay home and raise our young BUT that it's literally all we become. No one talks about the isolation. No one talks about the loss of identity. No one talks about the loneliness. No one talks about losing your sense of self. No one talks about how you had to give up your career because it's cheaper for you to stay home. No one talks about how you cry in the shower because your day was overwhelming. No one understands why you're tired. No one understands why you're irritable. No one understands why you need a mental break. No one understands why you're so aggravated with your kids. No one understands why after you've been home all day, the house is a wreck still. No one understands why you just need 5 minutes with no one speaking to or tSng you. No one understands why you've lost your sex drive. No one understands why you're completely & utterly exhausted, after all, you just sit at home all day 😒 No one understands the feeling you have when you are told you don't have a "real job". Most of us were working women at one point. We got to go to a job and interact with other adults outside our home. We contributed financially to our household. (Shoot, most of us want some kind of side hustle or part time job because it would sure help with financial relief) We didn't feel like an endless maid. We got that break away (even though yes, work is a love/ hate relationship) that gives you space from the people you live with (children, spouse... Etc) because yes, EVERY relationship needs time away in it to not go crazy being around each other 24/7. That's not healthy. Contrary to popular belief... YOU👏NEED👏A👏 BREAK 👏 DAILY 👏 I can't tell you how many women I meet or know that say "oh, you have to much time on your hands" "I sure wish I could stay home, I wouldn't complain" good for you! I can guarantee you will change your mind 6 months in, unless you're wealthy and have money to constantly go do things. I once was you. I wished upon a star I could stay home with my kids because I wanted to spend all the time I could. I didn't realize what all came with being a SAHM. Oh but YOU chose to have those kids. YOU should've thought about that before having them. If you didn't want to go through all this YOU should've never had kids. & YOU said you want more???? Seriously.... Yup, heard those all before. Next time you hear or see a SAHM venting her frustrations, listen and make her feel like she's somebody. That her struggles are not invalid. You know just because she don't have a "real job"
Stay at home mom (SAHM) depression.... The elephant in the room nobody talks about ☹ I mean, how DARE you complain after being gifted this opportunity to stay at home and raise YOUR own kids 🤦🏽 ♀ but it's not that simple. Of course we SAHM's are being grateful to stay home and raise our young BUT that it's literally all we become. No one talks about the isolation. No one talks about the loss of identity. No one talks about the loneliness. No one talks about losing your sense of self. No one talks about how you had to give up your career because it's cheaper for you to stay home. No one talks about how you cry in the shower because your day was overwhelming. No one understands why you're tired. No one understands why you're irritable. No one understands why you need a mental break. No one understands why you're so aggravated with your kids. No one understands why after you've been home all day, the house is a wreck still. No one understands why you just need 5 minutes with no one speaking to or touching you. No one understands why you've lost your sex drive. No one understands why you're completely & utterly exhausted, after all, you just sit at home all day 😒 No one understands the feeling you have when you are told you don't have a "real job". Most of us were working women at one point. We got to go to a job and interact with other adults outside our home. We contributed financially to our household. (Shoot, most of us want some kind of side hustle or part time job because it would sure help with financial relief) We didn't feel like an endless maid. We got that break away (even though yes, work is a love/ hate relationship) that gives you space from the people you live with (children, spouse... Etc) because yes, EVERY relationship needs time away in it to not go crazy being around each other 24/7. That's not healthy. Contrary to popular belief... YOU👏NEED👏A👏 BREAK 👏 DAILY 👏 I can't tell you how many women I meet or know that say "oh, you have to much time on your hands" "I sure wish I could stay home, I wouldn't complain" good for you! I can guarantee you will change your mind 6 months in, unless you're wealthy and have money to constantly go do things. I once was you. I wish upon a damn star I could start home with my kids because I wanted to spend all the time I could. I didn't realize what all came with being a SAHM. Oh but YOU chose to have those kids. YOU should've thought about that before having them. If you didn't want to go through all this YOU should've never had kids. & YOU said you want more???? Seriously.... Yup, heard those all before. Next time you hear or see a SAHM venting her frustrations, listen and make her feel like she's somebody. That her struggles are not invalid. You know just because she don't have a "real job. ⚠ Thank you Momma's Tired for writing this! You definitely hit the nail on the head with this!!!!!
Since everyone is telling me to.. Here it is.. Well on mom life you stated your procedure was for a hole in your stomach.. But on instagram you "kicked cancers ass" and basically had throat cancer?.. I don't like liars!! Why lie?! I lost the people i loved most to cancer! That's not something to fucking joke about! I lost all respect for you! And if you really do have cancer why lie on mom life saying it was for a hole in your stomach?it just makes no sense to me!
~~~~A post stollen from Facebook. Thought some mommy's on here might need to hear.😊❤~~~~ Stay at home mom (SAHM) depression.... The elephant in the room nobody talks about ☹ I mean, how DARE you complain after being gifted this opportunity to stay at home and raise YOUR own kids 🤦🏽 ♀ but it's not that simple. Of course we SAHM's are being grateful to stay home and raise our young BUT that it's literally all we become. No one talks about the isolation. No one talks about the loss of identity. No one talks about the loneliness. No one talks about losing your sense of self. No one talks about how you had to give up your career because it's cheaper for you to stay home. No one talks about how you cry in the shower because your day was overwhelming. No one understands why you're tired. No one understands why you're irritable. No one understands why you need a mental break. No one understands why you're so aggravated with your kids. No one understands why after you've been home all day, the house is a wreck still. No one understands why you just need 5 minutes with no one speaking to or touching you. No one understands why you've lost your sex drive. No one understands why you're completely & utterly exhausted, after all, you just sit at home all day 😒 No one understands the feeling you have when you are told you don't have a "real job". Most of us were working women at one point. We got to go to a job and interact with other adults outside our home. We contributed financially to our household. (Shoot, most of us want some kind of side hustle or part time job because it would sure help with financial relief) We didn't feel like an endless maid. We got that break away (even though yes, work is a love/ hate relationship) that gives you space from the people you live with (children, spouse... Etc) because yes, EVERY relationship needs time away in it to not go crazy being around each other 24/7. That's not healthy. Contrary to popular belief... YOU👏NEED👏A👏 BREAK 👏 DAILY 👏 I can't tell you how many women I meet or know that say "oh, you have to much time on your hands" "I sure wish I could stay home, I wouldn't complain" good for you! I can guarantee you will change your mind 6 months in, unless you're wealthy and have money to constantly go do things. I once was you. I wish upon a damn star I could start home with my kids because I wanted to spend all the time I could. I didn't realize what all came with being a SAHM. Oh but YOU chose to have those kids. YOU should've thought about that before having them. If you didn't want to go through all this YOU should've never had kids. & YOU said you want more???? Seriously.... Yup, heard those all before. Next time you hear or see a SAHM venting her frustrations, listen and make her feel like she's somebody. That her struggles are not invalid. You know just because she don't have a "real job. ⚠ Thank you Momma's Tired for writing this! You definitely hit the nail on the head with this!!!!! And @jyldyzbekova_art
When you and your man start talking about using condoms after the baby is born & then look at each other & bust out laughing 😂
Blue IsMyColor·
Мама троих детей
I’ve been a SAHM for almost 11 years and it can be so hard. Sure, it’s rewarding and great to be able to be there for your kids all the time, but it’s so easy to lose your identity. Most of the time I feel like I’m “just a mom”. I make sure to make time for myself everyday to do something I enjoy, if the house is messy, I don’t care, it can wait. I just wish I could find some friends to hang out with and have play dates. It’s tough not having mom friends.
LaShonda··
Where are you located?
Blue IsMyColor··
Мама троих детей
@umikoarir2018, middle GA
Cmjohnson3047·
Fact facts and more facts!!!!!!! 👏👏👏👏🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌😥
Mapechula·
Мама сына (1 год)
Beautifully stated. Its a blessing, but such a challenge as well. Especially as you stated, keeping your identity and how isolating it can be.
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I was a SAHM a few years back and the cabin fever was unbearable. I needed friends, real friends, other than my kids. It was super stressful. SAHM’s are another type of superhuman 🥰
Kitty Moore·
Love this
LaShonda··
Thank you!
SB·
I love this. If I’m ever complaining about my day with the kids and how hard it was my husband always tells me “well this was your dream. To stay home.” And it totally was. But I do feel alone. There are days where the only people I talk to all day are the kids. And that’s just not enough.
c. g·
Facts i been a stay home mom for 3 years .
Chels Z·
I love this and totally agree. I went back to work from home some just to have something that I do for myself. I definitely felt like I lost myself in a sense once I quit my job and started my life as a SAHM. Don’t get me wrong through, I love my kids and appreciate the fact I have the opportunity to stay home with them.
X·
Absolutely!!!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 I love being blessed enough to be able to stay home and give up on my career because it required traveling and I couldn’t be away from my daughter. I FELT THIS IN MY CORE!
Julianna J·
Мама двоих (1 год, 3 года)
Yes! Staying at home for a year I realized it wasn’t for me. There are pros and cons to everything- but anyone deserves a break away from their kids at some point. It’s like staying in your place of work 24 hours a day 7 days a week.. it’s enough to drive anybody mad! Vent away
- Caleen 🇯🇲·
Мама двоих (1 год, 3 года)
I love this 🙌🏾🙌🏾
LaShonda··
Thank you!
Robyn·
Beautifully said!! I've been a stay at home for almost 17 years on and off until about 9 years ago when hubby and I made the permanent decision to stay home with the kids. I earned a college degree and put off utilizing it so I can be a SAHM. One day I'll use it, when my kids no longer need to depend on me but for now, I'm so grateful for the opportunity to stay at home with them and watch them grow and learn. All the facts you mentioned are all so true and it's scary as hell some days, ok, most days.
LaShonda··
Thank you!