I need a little advice. I'm barely pregnant and my boyfriends family is already telling me they have to be in the room while I push. His grandma told me that it doesn't matter what I want because its her great grandbaby. I was not raised like his family. I was raised to have a choice and not let people dictate how things go. I get that they want to be there but I dont get why I have to completely throw out what I want. I don't want a lot of people in the room watching my in pain while I push. Is that really so wrong?
Just don't tell anyone you're at the hospital until after you have the baby. That's what we did, it was just my boyfriend and I. We didn't have visitors until the next day. It was amazing to have that moment to ourselves.
Girl! Do what YOU and your SO want and that’s it!!! Set boundaries, or once you have this baby they’ll be overwhelming.
You tell your dr and nurses and whoever else at the hospital that you do NOT what so ever want them in there! That is absolutely ridiculous. Baby’s great grandmother has NO right to tell you that it doesn’t matter what you want that’s bs. Sorry that made me so mad 😭😂
I appreciate all of this. My boyfriend even woke up still mad about it like its the end of the world.
you can tell the hospital not to tell anyone you’re even there. i did that with my birth just to ensure no one tried to be sneaky and pop up uninvited. you can’t have a party in the room anyways, and it’s not their birth, it’s yours.
I would be petty and not let anyone see the baby until I get home. Fuck that shit.
@karramae I don't think his family was there having sex with you creating this little blessing so they need to shut up and tell your man shush before you don't have him in the room too. 😂
@jaygirlsmommy, I don’t get why they would want to watch. They can all chill in the waiting area until mom and baby are ready lol
Wait until it’s time to deliver and have the nurses tell them they can’t be in the room. It’s ultimately your choice.
You can tell the nurses you don’t want them in the room and they will make them leave
It is not their choice. You can even prevent visitors from coming in by telling the staff. So if it has to come to that while you are on labor. Definitely do that. Dont let them ruin that special time by being there if you don’t want them to.
My daughter is the first girl in my SO’s side of the family. So everyone was excited to see her. But we had blocked anyone who tries to come until like 2 hours after i had given birth so we could get that alone time together. After that everyone just started flooding in. Definitely glad we took the time to just enjoy it alone with baby.
Oh geez! Nooo! Stand your ground girl!! It’s you going threw the experience and pain bring a baby into this world it’s your choice!
We didn’t allow anyone at the hospital at all either time. it was our moment with our new baby and our bonding time.
No, your choice! Don't let them tell you what's happening when you have this baby. This is your experience & your child's birthday.
I appreciate that so much. Youre right. Its my kids birthday and the first time I get to meet my little one. <3
No it isn’t wrong at all! No one wants the whole world looking at them while they are spread eagle and bringing life into the world. Let them think they’re gonna come in all they want, just tell the nurse on duty who you and do not want there and they will handle the rest. You don’t need stress while giving birth. Stand your ground.
Thank you. I'm happy to see that I'm not the only one who feels like this.
@karramae when i had my daughter almost 8 yrs ago. I was in the room all by myself. I wanted my mom but she said she couldnt handle it so she stayed with me until it was time 2 push. I was mad so i made everyone get out. They stayed at tge door and when they heard her cry they came rushing in
No it isn’t wrong at all! No one wants the whole world looking at them while they are spread eagle and bringing life into the world. Let them think they’re gonna come in all they want, just tell the nurse on duty who you and do not want there and they will handle the rest. You don’t need stress while giving birth. Stand your ground.