You ask for advise on this app and get a whole bunch of judgmental women coming at you. 🙄

You can insert the word judge in place of bash. It’s important to learn the difference

@chasinghappiness, I never assumed anything, I asked you a question. I also never judged. You’re going hard for no reason. Reading is fundamental, I feel as if you’re missing what I’m saying as it’s more meaningful for you to put up a defense than to be open minded.

i can’t advise her on something I’ve never used. You’re assuming shit. You don’t know me or her or what we’ve done but you still assuming and judging from what YOU assume is happening here. Makes no sense. And I’m defending her because she’s not here to do it herself.

you asked questions, I gave insight. You got worked up because you didn’t like my answer... not sure how that reflects as me having a problem. Perhaps some self reflection would help you navigate this app a bit easier.

lol and somehow you still think you know me or her or the events that led to me asking a damn question. I am not disagreeing with the fact that’s it’s dangerous. So what’s your problem??

yes judging. We live in a world with hundreds of credible resources with legitimate facts at our fingertips. “Talking” with other women is not educating yourself, relying on others to tell you Information is not educational. A quick google search will tell you all the dangers. Also, I didn’t call her a bad person- you did. I also said “some will judge”. You seem to be quite defensive and passionate- were you one who gave her bad advice?

This day in age- pure ignorance isn’t a valid excuse. All the information is at our fingertips.

Choosing not to look for it an properly research is willful ignorance and negligence.

JUDGING! Did I tell you she’s willing to put her baby in danger???! Nooooooooo because she wasn’t. She didn’t know her baby could die! We spoke to other women who have successfully induced with castor oil. Women still recommend using it. She’s not a bad mother for not being educated properly. She’s a first time mom who’s excited to meet her baby and stop being in pain how the hell is she such a bad person for that?!

Lmao I should have known huh? 😅

you can ask should I wash my baby’s clothes and people gonna be like there’s dangerous stuff in the warehouse blah blah blah Lml

@chasinghappiness, don’t let that stop you this app is a good place to come trust me and the ones doing the judging are really a small select few of women .. the good out weights the bad .. ask awayyy !! And girls like me will always come and educate you or we can get educated together lmao I thought castor oil was a valid method to start labor up I’ve never tried but I heard of so many girls doing it then again last time I was pregnant was 6 yrs ago

thank you ☺️. Yeah you’re right. This is my 3rd pregnancy and I’m just now learning that castor oil is horrible. Maybe these women should write articles to educate women better. It’s still being recommended

@nap.queen, get that but as I’ve explained that wasn’t the case here.

Didn’t know clearly. I wouldn’t have said anything. I’ve never heard of castor oil being dangerous. Every woman that’s taken it recommends it. There are women here literally assuming things about her and they don’t even know her. Of course I’m going to defend her. I’ve never said anyone was wrong I’m not asking for any facts to be sugar coated. I’m talking about the women that are literally calling her careless and selfish.

you’re right about that. It’s not fair to assume she’s selfish if she didn’t know but it is a little careless to not consult your doctor before trying to induce labor. That’s not a little thing! Careless doesn’t equal bad mother though because we all make mistakes. Hopefully the info everyone has shared can prompt y’all to research it on your own if you’re still not convinced and then you can be the next link in the information chain, warning the next woman who may not know because it takes a village... from conception.

oh no with the first comment we got about it being dangerous she looked into it more since last night. It’s just that no one has ever told us the dangers. I’m on my 3rd pregnancy and I’m just learning the dangers. She thought it was as simple as the other ways to induce. Clearly we and other women were wrong and it sucks that she already took some.

@chasinghappiness you’re welcome. Castor oil is always extremely controversial and a sensitive subject on mom apps, as it should be! It’s really dangerous for mom and for baby. She now knows for her next child!

i really wish I knew that earlier 😅

it’s okay that you didn’t. It’s good to seek out knowledge and advice on things!

I wouldn’t be making it a big deal if people WERENT being judgmental. You haven’t read all of the comments. People are making assumptions that’s what my issue is. I’m not asking for anything to be sugar coated.

I’m sorry but there’s no excuse for being judgmental. How’s someone (a mom in need of advise) supposed to feel comfortable going to other moms if everyone is going to judge her and make her feel like shit for making a MISTAKE? It’s not helping. I’m sure people can take a damn breath before being jerks.

I didn’t say there was a good excuse to be judgmental. I didn’t see the op, but I know from experience that these women, myself included have very strong feelings about castor oil.

i know you didn’t say that I was making a statement. Just like you are able to tell me that you have strong feelings about the topic the others are capable too. That’s all I’m saying. Since last night I understand why people would be passionate about it. It’s dangerous. I’ve learned, my sisters-in-law has learned. All that BEFORE people started being judgmental 🤷🏾‍♀️ js

Assuming that she doesn’t know what pregnancy is and that she’s putting her baby in danger willingly, and that’s she’s being selfish is being judgmental 😑 and that is what women here are doing. I didn’t say sugar coat anything but also don’t assume anything about someone you don’t even know.

Assuming that she doesn’t know what pregnancy is and that she’s putting her baby in danger willingly, and that’s she’s being selfish is being judgmental 😑 and that is what women here are doing. I didn’t say sugar coat anything but also don’t assume anything about someone you don’t even know.

is just touchy so you fly off the handle. Im sorry shes probably a great person. I hope her baby comes soon and healthy. Tell her to try natural things. Dancing, squats sex walking .

@momof3dragons, thank you so much

I know now

The problem was that we have women that we asked that had taken castor oil and they made it seem safe or don’t even know the dangers themselves. Before taking it she didn’t know it could kill her baby. I’ve never even heard of castor oil being unsafe because so many women recommend it.

that’s because some woman have induced labor with it and it used to be recommended until more studies were done on the effects of it. Kind of like when medicine gets recalled for defects and health risks so it’s not safe anymore. Woman that think it worked for them recommend it and most of the time don’t know the extent of danger they’re putting others in because whereas they have a success story doesn’t mean anything when they could be causing a loss for someone else saying it’s okay. My sons Mom also gave him orange juice at 3 weeks for constipation and baby cereal at 3 months for diarrhea without my consent. He know has so many stomach lining issues as well as dairy allergy which are all linked to open gut. There’s many ways to try and induce but nothing will work if baby isn’t ready. Semen is a good way to soften up that cervix and cause a bit of dilation. Walking afterwards helps a lot too. I was 5 cm dilated and super effaced at 35 weeks and our son still went past 39 weeks.

i can’t advise her on something I’ve never used. You’re assuming shit. You don’t know me or her or what we’ve done but you still assuming and judging from what YOU assume is happening here. Makes no sense. And I’m defending her because she’s not here to do it herself.

I never assumed anything, I asked you a question. I also never judged. You’re going hard for no reason. Reading is fundamental, I feel as if you’re missing what I’m saying as it’s more meaningful for you to put up a defense than to be open minded.

You can insert the word judge in place of bash. It’s important to learn the difference

I’m sure she wouldn’t have done it if she knew it would put her child at risk. We have 5 women all who have induced with castor oil and have came back fine and healthy with their babies. All I’m saying is there’s a way to go about educating someone without being bitchy 🤷🏾‍♀️ I’m not upset I’m not trying to argue, I’m not saying anyone’s wrong for what their saying it’s how it’s being said. There’s no way I should feel attacked or belittled by asking a question. Lol it’s not even about the castor oil anymore. I educated myself on all that.

I’m sorry that no one sugar coated their advice to your standards.

@jhalsted1995, wow I literally said multiple times that I didn’t ask for any facts to be sugar coated. I asked that no one be judgmental and assume shit. That’s all. Is that too much?

People still take it because it works. I guess that’s the problem. And it’s perfectly fine to not agree with something. But you can do so WITHOUT being judgmental. Of course educate me, tell me your experience that’s what I’m asking for.

it can kill babies. Is having a dead baby worth no longer being in pain?