These two men here and my daughter r my life ♡ Me and hubby became friends with him and ended up falling in love. We have been dating him now for a month and a half and we seriously feel like he fills this missing part that we never knew was there. Our daughter warmed up to him right away (which is very rare especially with guys) and just adores him. He is so sweet to her and has patience with her that even my husband doesnt. We celebrated our first Thanksgiving as a family of 4 and are excited to spend Christmas together this year and to see what the next year brings.
(I realize not everyone is going to agree with this. It took us sometime to wrap our heads around it as it all fell into place before any of us knew what was happening and feels so natural so we figured why fight it especially since he makes us happy ♡)
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So long as you remain vigilant in your daughter's safety, I see no problems with this. This type of relationship is unorthodox, so I imagine it takes a lot of courage to be open with it to the public. The people who see this as being wrong, are usually the ones who are uncomfortable with it themselves. Society tells us we're monogamous, but that doesn't have to be for everyone. You all look happy, and that's what is important.
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Also, I'm failing to see how your dd looks uncomfortable with the situation in any of the pictures you shared. Looks like your average squirmy toddler.
Thank you. Yes it is unorthodox and def not something we were looking for. But it happened and we cant deny the feelings and happiness this brings. I kno we will face our share of stigma and such and we will deal with it when the time comes. Thank you for seeing her as the normal busy and squirmy toddler she is. Our daughter will always come first to me and my husband and so her safety is always number one. If anything even a little seems off we will def be investigating it
So long as you remain vigilant in your daughter's safety, I see no problems with this. This type of relationship is unorthodox, so I imagine it takes a lot of courage to be open with it to the public. The people who see this as being wrong, are usually the ones who are uncomfortable with it themselves. Society tells us we're monogamous, but that doesn't have to be for everyone. You all look happy, and that's what is important.
Hey whatever floats your boat. If u guys are happy that’s all that matters. Hell I can’t get pics of my kids all the time. They hate having pics done. They tend to look like that sometimes lol!
Well he was pretty much moved in before then. He works the same days and such as my husband so he would crash here on his nights off and such so he could hang with us on his days off. Like I said we were friends before that so we have known him longer then 2 months lol
I understand your concern for my daughters safety but this isnt some random guy off the street. We were friends before and so he had already been in our daughters life before anything more then friendship happened. I would not bring someone that I didnt feel comfortable or trust around my daughter nor would my husband.
I don’t say it to offend you. The pictures and the speed at which he moved in, coupled with how enamoured you both seem to be with him, made me feel quite uncomfortable so I had to say something. I’m glad you’re looking out for her though, it eases my conscience a bit. I’d say just continue to keep a close eye, it doesn’t mean he’s a bad person or anything but you just never fully know someone !
The only thing that makes me uncomfortable is him being so close to your daughter. She doesn’t look comfortable in the picture and it must be a hard thing for her to get her head around. I just hope she’s safe and despite your feelings for this new man I would be sure to keep a close eye on her more than anything if I were you. Just to be safe !
@emmamarch16th I understand that that's why I said I understand ur concern. The thing that bothered me was the judging by the picture and thinking my daughter is uncomfortable. I would never force her to be around someone is is uncomfortable with.
@lillyb, that’s my opinion based on the pictures you have shown
@emmamarch16th I dont kno how falling asleep on him makes her look uncomfortable but okay 🤷♀️
I say whatever makes your family whole, is the only thing that matters. ❤️
Have you guys discussed kids, maybe in the future, and who would be the dad? Or is your family complete?
We have actually. He wants kids and loves kids. My husband didnt really want a 2nd but was gonna allow it cuz I wanted one. Now he is okay with a 2nd down the road. As for the father me and my husband had to use a donor to get pregnant in the first place so this would actually make things a lot easier for us in that respect. But that's not for a while anyway lol
@lillyb, that’s so interesting! So if an oops ever happened, you would know who the dad is.
@penelope127 oh yes def lol no guessing there 😂 but we r using birth control cuz as much as I want a 2nd I want not daughter to be a bit older lol
I’m not trying to be rude & I’m definitely not judging, but I do think introducing him to your daughter after only a month and a half is too quick. I would say this to anyone in any type of relationship.
That’s what I was thinking. I know they’ve been friends for a while but already a family after a month and a half?
@caiticat. @ek620
Well he already knew my daughter since he was a friend to start with. She knos him as uncle. I kno it seems fast to be a 'family' but I felt the same way about my husband and only my husband until now and we got engaged only 6m into our relationship and have been together for almost 9 years now. Our daughter is a big part of our life and like I said we all hung out before this so he already had spent a lot of time with her before anything.
If it makes y’all happy and everyone consents, do you! I do have a question tho. Has your husband always been into men or is this something new for him?
Not really. He could find men attractive to a point but never could date or be with one until this one. There is just something about him. There was this instant connection. He actually voiced his attraction/crush for him to me first. Me and my husband have never felt this way about anyone except each other before.
@lillyb, got ya. Well I wish y’all the best of luck with everything! Always remember that people will judge, but it isn’t their life to live.
I truly admire people that are unapologetically themselves. So so happy for you and your family!
So do you both ( you and your Husband ) sleep with him or he has
A
Separate room?
@alishap1212, she put her personal business out there. She should expect personal questions. @momofemersonbliss, wasn’t rude.
@bigmama18 @momofemersonbliss @alishap1212
I did expect some questions like this and while it is personal it's not super personal of a question and she wasnt rude about it but I do appreciate ur comment :) I'm open about my relationship (tho we havnt gone fully public yet for some reasons that I'm not going to disclose) tho some questions if thru r too personal I may not answer
@bigmama18, i never said she was rude I just said it’s a bit personal to ask . I would never ask that even thought she put her perineal business out there
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I’m not trying to be rude & I’m definitely not judging, but I do think introducing him to your daughter after only a month and a half is too quick. I would say this to anyone in any type of relationship.