Mom Advice: Would I be wrong to ask/tell my daughter biological dad if he sign over his rights I will cancel child support..... ONLY!!! Because he has not seen my daughter NOT once since she has been born ( which she will be 3 in July) My current boyfriend/fiancé has been in my daughter life since she was 4 months and that’s who she calls daddy. He wants to adopt her and give her his last name.... would I be wrong or am I going about this in all the wrong way?
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@coffee.leggings.target, Thank you for the insight I really appreciate it.
If he doesn't have anything to do with her now i don't think it's wrong. Just be cool about it. He may not do it but doesn't hurt to ask.
It’s not wrong, but he probably wouldn’t agree to it. I wish there was a way to make that easier 😒
I dont think it wro g but its something you should talk to him about if he not wanting to be envolve with her
@milnera2014, he want even talk to me. I’ve tried reaching out to him a few times. He want respond to me. He even block me off his social networks so I can’t reach him
@tierrafelton26 the. I see no reason not to go through with your now fiance to adopt her
Do you receive any kind of assistance? If so, many states will not end his child support obligations even if he relinquishes his rights.
They well bbn let him if her fiance adopt her cause all responsibilities will go to him now Nd not the biological father
Does he ever ask or talk to her ? If not then I would totally do it. But make sure your dude understands that this is permanent even if lord forbid you guys would ever split
@_sheriee, No he never ask to talk to her. He has never even seen her besides pictures. When I try to reach out to him he want even respond to me.
@nachely12, why would it be wrong
I did that but he wouldn’t agree barely pays and never sees them
First off, there is no such thing as “signing over rights” to a child. You can give up or lose custody but as a biological parent, you are able to at least try and get it back at any point in that child’s life. Usually doesn’t work but all he would ever have to do is file papers to take you to court. Just know that’s a possibility.
To do what you want for the last name, you’ll both have to appear in court (you file the papers). He can agree or disagree but a judge will most likely decide things in your favor seeing as the man doesn’t see his own child and doesn’t make efforts to. Also she’s three years old. That’s a long time to know you have a child on the way, know she was born, and never see her.
I would make sure your lawyer mentions that you are willing to end child support as well. It will make it look better knowing that you’re just trying to help your daughter be a part of a whole, happy family.
It would be best if you don’t do this until you’re married. Or if you wait, it would help to tell them you waited for marriage so that your child will also be able to take your fiancés last name. It wouldn’t look the best if this was a new relationship or marriage but it really depends on who’s looking at y’alls case.
Last but not least, you have to talk about the father role that your fiancé plays in your daughter’s life. He’s the only father your daughter has. That’s a strong point to make.
Good luck dear!♥️