Mom Advice: Would I be wrong to ask/tell my daughter biological dad if he sign over his rights I will cancel child support..... ONLY!!! Because he has not seen my daughter NOT once since she has been born ( which she will be 3 in July) My current boyfriend/fiancé has been in my daughter life since she was 4 months and that’s who she calls daddy. He wants to adopt her and give her his last name.... would I be wrong or am I going about this in all the wrong way?
To do what you want for the last name, you’ll both have to appear in court (you file the papers). He can agree or disagree but a judge will most likely decide things in your favor seeing as the man doesn’t see his own child and doesn’t make efforts to. Also she’s three years old. That’s a long time to know you have a child on the way, know she was born, and never see her.
I would make sure your lawyer mentions that you are willing to end child support as well. It will make it look better knowing that you’re just trying to help your daughter be a part of a whole, happy family.
It would be best if you don’t do this until you’re married. Or if you wait, it would help to tell them you waited for marriage so that your child will also be able to take your fiancés last name. It wouldn’t look the best if this was a new relationship or marriage but it really depends on who’s looking at y’alls case.
Last but not least, you have to talk about the father role that your fiancé plays in your daughter’s life. He’s the only father your daughter has. That’s a strong point to make.
Good luck dear!♥️