My husband yesterday witnessed a co worker get arrested for child abuse and i guess he was saying how he was into corporal punishment by use of belt and I legitimately wanted to find him and deck the guy. There's not much of a difference between being an abusive asshole and corporal punishment. Using a belt for example is being an abusive asshole. I'm glad this random co worker was arrested. Saved me from having to deck him. Apparently my husband had to hold back too bc he kept referring to the kid involved as literally "the kid" and not him/her or by their given name. "The kid" is degrading and coming from the background my husband did and me having to see some of the abuse I just wanted to ask that a hole if he knew the impact he has on that child's life and that being a dick to his kids is not going to change their attitudes or make them better. Idk who all believes in corporal punishment and your good to have your own opinion but f you if you think using a belt is affective punishment with children.
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To me that's not un needed. I would be defending the child who can't defend themselves. Self defense or defending someone who can't defend themselves is fine. That's different. In the eyes of the law where I live is actually the same thing as self defense. You won't get arrested for it in other words. I'm a trained fighter. We're trained on when it's appropriate to use violence. In that case I said I'm glad I wasn't there bc I'd probably have to hold myself back from defending an innocent child seeings as they weren't there it wouldn't make sense to use violence but I'd sure feel like it.
If its being done when there is no immediate threat it is not called defense. Its called retaliation.
Oh sorry wasn't trying to call you a drunk. Probably came across wrong and it's cool. I just don't think I could ever do that with my daughter. I'd never want her to feel the way we did. I also grew up a women in the Mennonite culture so I got randomly hit for stupid stuff mainly bc I was a women and wasn't allowed to have a say in edge wise. I get some people are fine coming from backgrounds like that but they also we're most likely punished for a legit reason. I just don't feel comfortable punishing in that way is all. And I don't agree with the use of weapons. It actually makes me cringe and cry when I see a kid being hit in public.
Your preaching that you don't agree with hitting but your also saying him being arrested saved you from decking him... Contradicting yourself there.
I don't believe in either being used on children. Popping or beating. To me using anything like that on a child is wrong. There's other forms of punishment. I'm really not trying to be offensive or tell you how to raise your kids. I'm coming from a stand point of someone who came from a family who believed the same thing and TBH your level of "popping" may be and usually is incredibly painful and not usually affective towards the kid. I came from that background and so did my husband accept his father was worse and literally almost killed him a few times bc his level of what he considered to be not very painful couldn't be regulated drunk. Not comparing drunk to none. Just saying. In my opinion hitting a kid is NEVER okay. Hands, belts, spoons I don't care.
👍. I'm not a drunk and don't do it every day and I was spanked growing up and I'm fine now. Never have I hurt kids. Each parent is diffenert. Sorry for your and your husband past.
Sorry no offense but that doesnt make sense. If you don't believe children should be beat than don't own a weapon to be used on children.
There is a fine line that. I don't beat my child there is a big difference if beating and popping. You say don't own a weapon that can be used on a child. What about your hands and I've heard of people using a spoon and shoes so guess we shouldn't own those either.
I'm just saying would you prefer to be talked to or smacked with an effing paddle? I'd prefer to be talked to. And honestly I don't preach that type of behavior. I preach walking away from scenarios if you feel like hitting. TBH there's some people yeah I'd really like to smack but I walk away instead bc idk I'm being an adult. Unless of course I'm defending myself completely different story there. Honestly just bc kids are smaller than you doesn't give you the right to hit them for being difficult. If adults get arrested for hitting people for being difficult without the use of self defense than by all rights schools and parents who hit kids for being difficult should also be arrested. Your not above the law bc it's your kid.
I said we have one and used only twice. But no I don't believe anyone should be hit with a belt or beat. A child should be talked to and other acts should be taking first.
Why the hell is a school using a paddle? And nothing. He didn't. He had to walk away. It's just something that seriously pisses both of us off. He came from a very abusive family. So he gets angry quick when it comes to people talking about their kids in that manner. I don't even think it was the best part that pissed him off the most although it was part of the reason he was mad for sure. The part that pissed him off the most was calling his kid "the kid". It's like the child called "it". That type of degrading behavior towards children makes my husband fume. But for real what kind of asshole school uses paddles on kids? Would you like to be smacked with a paddle?
Corporal punishments in schools is legal in 15ish states (I’ll give you a guess which geographic location they’re all clustered in). Most schools don’t do it despite it being legal. The ones that do have an option for parents to opt out.
I have a paddle if needed as the last resort. I mean if the school can use it so can I. My 8 yr old has got it like twice. Time out or grounding normally works.
I definitely don't agree with hitting children at all but what would your husband decking him solve? Absolutely nothing. Solving violence with violence isn't the answer.
Yasssss so true