I have that feeling 100 %

Omg this is exactly me! Been on my own since 17 in college! Come from a line of independent women even though they have husbands so I get insecure at times and embarrassed. But my husband says the same thing yours does!

Mine makes me feel like crap so I went back to work 25 hours a week and still deal with both kids and he still complaining but I feel ya

I totally understand how you feel! I feel the exact same way especially when I see bills coming in but we have the hardest job and that’s taking care of the kids and the house

Ooooh man do I feel you on this! I always feel so so bad, and I have a degree too so it makes me feel useless. The holidays or birthdays are the worst, because I get expensive and nice things and all I can do is make him something or the way I think about it, “he buys his own gift”. It’s a reaaaaally hard position to be in. I work 1 Saturday a month at my old job just when they need coverage and for me to get out of the house but that’s nothing. 😫

I was there ! In your shoes until I found myself a part time job 3 hrs a day where I was able to atleast have a little bit of money where I didn’t have to ask Alex for money to get whatever it was I needed. And it helped when we just got another debit card to his account and I just now buy what I need stuff without having to ask for the cash or his debit card. Now I work at the daycare where I have my son where I make I little bit more money where I can help with bills plus have a little extra money for myself. I’ve worked since I was 17 so it was a hard transition to depend on someone even though it wasn’t a huge deal for him it was for me. I found a job once my first born was 2 because my aunt was helping watching him for the 3 hrs. Now this second time around I didn’t want to feel like that so I started working at the daycare where Amari is in now. So I get the best of both worlds. Watch him grow and teach everything plus make money at the same time.

Totally understandable. But youre so lucky to have a partner that supports you like that. Enjoy the baby years of your child and you'll have plenty of time to work when he's older!

YESSS ! Same, it’s like that over here ! I hate asking for money even though he gives it to me without a problem, I wish I can make my own money but his hours change throughout the week so it’s almost impossible to find something that will work around his schedule ! And I have two that are two & under so I absolutely do not trust anyone with my babies right now 😭 !

I am not a SAHM but those are my exact reasons as to why i dont know if i could be one unless i have to be. I honestly would feel so helpless if i was not making my own $$$ &’ ive already put in years into my job. Already have the 3 weeks off for vacation plus great benefits for me and my family. How can i just quit. I was on bedrest my last pregnancy from my 2nd trimester - 3rd trimester. I loved how much time i had to myself, and for us. But hated the fact that i had no money. He was giving me monthly $$$ which was more than enough. Once i went back to work, i literally worked my butt off. Shopped to my hearts content, got my hair did, got lash extentions again 🤣 I had to check myself because of how much i was spending but felt so good not feeling guilty.

@tiffanyf, that can definitely make things difficult. Just keep on doing your thing girl! Your man is holding it down and you can’t get these years back once they’re gone. Once he’s at a communication level you’re comfortable with, then go back to work! Your career will be there when you’re ready.

@tiffanyf, I am Pinterest addicted.

@charlottebellesmama, I love that kind of reassurance!! Makes me feel a little better . & girl are you kidding look how cute that is 😍 do you look things up on Pinterest ?

@craftygm, the worst feeling!! But in reality we do more than a man could ever take on 😂🤦🏼‍♀️

@tiffanyf, I definitely suck. Lol but a few people have bought them. And they are easy! Yesterday I went out a bought a gift for a party we were invited to and I was like don’t look at how much I spent. He’s like, I don’t even care.

@queenmeeks, I do ! But he works rotating 12 hr shifts 6 days a week .. and I am one of those moms who doesn’t trust random people to watch my son , hence why he isn’t in daycare . I feel like once he can start communicating with me.. explaining what’s wrong .. that’s when I would feel comfortable with the whole childcare situation

@charlottebellesmama, omg YES! I always tell him how much I’m spending and he’s like I don’t care take what you need 😅😅 & understandable I hate when holidays/birthdays come around and I can’t get him anything 😩 I need to start with the DIY projects but I’ll probably suck 🤦🏼‍♀️

Do you want to go back to work? If so, could you maybe pick up a couple of shifts as a floater and work weekends or something?

Yes! It’s such a role change because before we had Charlotte, I was the main earner. And now I’m just useless. I feel terrible spending money because it’s not mine. I always feel like I need to ask permission even though my husband is so supportive. I’ve started selling DIY Christmas wreaths just so I can have a little cash to spend and I don’t always feel like I take it from my husband.