@mimixtmn, yea that’s why i said I was on the fence because if I reach out will I get negativity or if I don’t I’m spiteful. Overall it’s a tough decision

I would make contact just to be cordial it’s kind of a sticky situation and he could think you don’t want him to contact. So I would suck it up and reach out let him know the sex and then leave it up to him to be involved or not.

@flamingomom, oh no i would never keep him away. We have a 4 year old that he still spends times with since this all transpired.

I personally think labor is about mom and the baby. You don’t have to have him there, especially since things are rocky. It’s about what will make you feel most comfortable on your special day. That doesn’t mean you’re keeping him from his child.

@fakoff.diehexe, far as labour I’m not sure how it will go. Like i mentioned I’m on the fence because it can go either way. If I don’t include him because I feel there so much going on, I could be coming off as spiteful. If I include him and it’s a lot of negativity, I will regret it.

@fakoff.diehexe, yes i have gender reveal cards that i was sending out this week. So it will be very plain and simple.

@cams, the cops stated since they seen 2 small scratches on me that it had to be reported as “domestic violence” the call was just to have him removed. So the entire issue went left quickly. When he was released that’s when I was told a no contact order had to be placed.

That seems extreme for an argument. Was there violence involved ?

Long story short, got into an argument, cops called he was arrested (case will be dismissed) Court enforced no contact order. I only had the power to lift it.

Who issued the no contact order? That should determine who should communicate first. Depending on the situation, depends on what should happen.

I also am assuming he knows you are expecting.