I’m genuinely trying to do this self soothing thing. She’s screaming even though she’s clean, dry and fed, her…

Please dont take this the wrong way. She is way to young for you to "teach her self soothe." Way to young to let her cry it out. Cry it out method is not recommended until 6+ months. She is probably crying because something is bothering her.

I spoke to my pediatrician about this and the reason I’m doing it is because she won’t sleep in the bassinet. @hakunamatata09

@efesmama do you swaddle her?

how old is she?

can u soothe intermittently like after 10 min if she's old enough

@hakunamatata09, I’m legit in tears but it’s either that or SIDS, me rolling over her and all sorts of things that scare me

She’s still in the 4th trimester. She needs to be held and soothed. You’re all she’s known for 9 months. She isn’t able to self soothe yet. Crying is her only means of expressing everything she’s experiencing. Please don’t let her scream.

@hakunamatata09, I’ve tried swaddling her but she HATES it. She wants her hands free

@efesmama they have bed co sleepers. It's a little bed for them you can put on top of your bed. But she will have her own space and you will to. Let me try to link it.

@pookiedoo, I know but how do I get her to sleep in the bassinet?

@efesmama, have you tried swaddling her? Or using a T-shirt that smells like you as the bassinet sheet?

Have you tried holding her until she’s asleep and then transferring her into the bassinet?

@hakunamatata09, we used one of these for my daughter. It was a life saver.

@pookiedoo, the swaddling fails bismally

@pookiedoo, im going to have to get that right now. It’ll come in two days. But what do I do right now guys

How do you usually put her to sleep?

Sounds like colic, just try holding her up on your shoulder, rock her and ssh shush sshhh while patting her back, I know it could get frustrating but it won't be for long.

My daughter did it for about 3 weeks.

@efesmama, my kids weren’t fans of swaddling either, I understand that part

I breastfeed her and we fall asleep next to each other but I’ve been emphatically warned.

my lo hated being swaddled initially but after a few min was fine he wouldn't sleep well without being swaddled his movements would wake and scare him so swaddling kept him feeling safe

@efesmama, I would hold her until she falls asleep and then transfer her to the bassinet once she’s sleeping soundly. You can also lay her in the bassinet and just pat and hush her until she falls asleep. If she wakes up, pat her back.

co sleeping can be done safely also

@efesmama, do you sleep hard? Lots of people cosleep successfully. Who has earned you?

Warned, not earned

@kellyjc, she was fine being swaddled in the hospital, now she hates it. I’ll try again but from past experience it was a bust. I’ve been co sleeping with her but the pediatrician brought up sids and rolling over her and I just decided I’d rather she cries than me having that sort of tragedy

@pookiedoo, the pediatrician 😞she told me about funerals she attended and I literally chose my daughter crying

@efesmama do you also give her gripe water? Sometimes that helps too.

@hakunamatata09, I didn’t take it the wrong way, to be honest I just needed advice on this. I’ve been crying with her because this is so hard. You’re advice is appreciated

@mamasgirls, thanks so much. I tried the patting on the back. She seems fine when I’m holding her, the problem is when I put her down

@efesmama you have to hold her for awhile so she's in a deep sleep before putting her down.

Well drs don’t know what causes SIDs that’s why it’s called that,

Also breastfeeding and cosleeping can reduce the risk of SIDS. I only say to co sleep or bed share if you’re a light sleeper.

I co sleep with my daughter and have since day 1. She hated being swaddled and would not sleep in her bassinet. So we started with a cosleeper bed like what was posted then moved on to bed sharing at about 4-5 months.

I love Dr Sears. He was The pediatrician on The Doctors show. His Father and brother are also Doctors

https://www.askdrsears.com/topics/health-concerns/sleep-problems/sleep-safety/cosleeping-safely

Self soothing starts at around 6m +

https://www.parenting.com/article/ask-dr-sears-soothing-tricks

Newborns can’t be spoiled they should be held and picked up or you can baby wear if they are crying. It’s in possible to spoil a newborn. This time goes by so fast, I’ve never heard anyone say I wish I held my baby less. Most wish we could go back and hold our newborns against

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.whattoexpect.com/baby-behavior/spoil-a-newborn.aspx/amp

Yeah, lack of sleep really sucks and it’s hard, but unfortunately it’s part of the job.

@mamasgirls, so I get her into a deep sleep but when I put her down, she knows I’m not there anymore and she starts making these movements like she’s startled or scared. Spasm like movements. Then she starts crying and we are back to crying

@alyssa5792, I just ordered the co sleeper. I also ordered that mamaroo rocking chair. I honestly cannot deal with her crying. She’s so unhappy

Do you have difference while options for newborns, maybe try a few different ones till you find what your baby likes. Best wishes

@sweet_pea1, I actually have one like this. She legitimately cannot stand her hand being free. I will try the other two though, the zipper one

@alyssa5792, please do!

@efesmama I'm sorry hun, just try putting her down slowly. The swaddlers are good too, she needs to feel secure. Don't worry, this too shall pass.

@santistevanmommie, thank you for this. I’m actually a light sleeper. Any sound or movement wakes me up

@mamasgirls, thank you so much for this 😞

@efesmama, same for me girl! Even now if my daughter rolls or even makes a tiny movement I wake up. It helped both of us get much more sleep.

@efesmama yes mama. No problem. If it gets too frustrati,g, put her down, walk away and take deep breaths to calm down, cry if you must, then you go back and try soothing again.

I believe all the harms are warped or can be warped on unwrapped. She needs to feel Secure and safe. Plus, has the startle reflex still.

Arms, I’m not recommend that you harm any babies 😂

@sweet_pea1, lol I got you. Ok, I honestly had no idea what swaddling was for, I just did it because they did it at the hospital and it seemed to calm her

There was so much I learned from so many Moms and there is so much more I have to learn. Your doing great taking help and suggestions. There are a lot of people who care and want to help. It’s good you see that :)

@sweet_pea1, thanks so much! I’m always ready to admit when I’m lost. All help is welcome at this point and indeed there are a lot of people that care and I really do appreciate it greatly

@efesmama, Your doing awesome!! Keep up the great work