@linacorral1562, I was asking him because he never called or texted to check on me or our daughter unless I would complain about it then he would for a week then go back to waiting on me to text him or when he did text it was because he wanted me to call and see why the Internet wasn’t working

Well we not together he messaged me today saying we might as well end it now since I am having bad thoughts after me saying he needs to get the bills in his name Incase this doesn’t work out. I am just trying to protect myself. I did also ask why do you like me and his answer was the same. I honestly think it’s for the best that we not together I love him but I think with so much that has happened and all the fears I have and have talked to him about over the last two weeks and he says he will do better but never makes an effort it’s for the best

My guy was like this about 8 months back before we became pregnant.

I think your question was a bit vague for him, why are you with me gives an opening for him to say anything vague as a response. “Why do you like me?” “Why do you want to make this work?” Are direct questions for the answers I think you’re looking for.

My guy doesn’t handle bills very well and spends money fruitfully on video games and whatever else he feels like.

Deep down he’s not owning up to what he “should” be doing and you haven’t set clear boundaries.

If you want him to be around as a supportive father, you need to define what supportive is to you and lay down the rules.

If he can’t work towards them, then there isn’t any sympathy for a man that lives off your income, doesn’t pull his own weight or chip in because honestly that’s not a man at all, that’s still a child.

When he does put effort towards helping you, it’s imperative you show him how much it means to you and how appreciative you are.

Men are like dogs, they want the treats but they still need a lot of training to your specifications.

I hope you guys work it out.

Honesty and vulnerability, trust and dedication all come with the balance of partnership.

Oh no girl I'd move on he's being silly a child doesn't mean you have to be together lean on your family for support and move on.

Honestly, I'd make the decision for him. Going back and forth is exhausting, not knowing where you stand with him is infuriating, and his complete lack of commitment indicates he either isn't wholely into this relationship or that he's staying out of some misplaced idea that you must be together because of your child. And it's not just that he can't give a satisfactory answer. His actions will always speak louder than his words, and his actions are showing that for some reason or another, he just can't/won't be fully committed right now.

At his house....we moved in together a little over a year ago then the end of January he called me to tell me he couldn’t marry me we were broke up about. Month in half we got back together in July I went to move back up there and the end of July he broke up with me and a month later we got back together

Staying up where alot?

I am also dealing with him not wanting to get the light bill payed I haven’t been staying up there a lot but now we’re behind and it was due the 3rd and it’s $475 also the month we were apart and I brought up his spending habits he said I was single and had extra money but he didn’t help pay for nothing of our daughter and the light bill hadn’t been paid but he baught two new games and spend about 150 or so on in game lurches for the pa4 but he couldn’t pay the light bill my head is just so confused

Just ride it out be the best mom you can be and the best you you can be don't bring it up dont stress him about it. If he wants to leave let him just don't allow him to come and go as he pleases.

@justic3, that what I am wondering. Right now we are together but I am having all this second thoughts like is he in a couple months because I yell going to say oh we’re good parents just good together again like he has done in the past

Is to vague I want to know why he likes me I don’t want us to just be together because we got a daughter

Stop taking him back and see what happens he may just be lonely

Why he wants to be with me. Like why does he want to date me. And to me I want us to work out is a vag

He wants it to work out I think it is what did you want him to say?

I tried that he just keep saying I want us to work out then hasn’t put forth no effort since that day. And ever time we have broken up he says we’re good parents just not good together then a month later his wanting to work things out