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Elizabeth Cruz
liza286
Elizabeth Cruz
Possibly a long rant

This is an update on a previous post. To get you up to speed, my husband "planned" a surprise sprinkle to celebrate our rainbow baby. I was furious when I found out because I have PTSD from losing our first daughter at 38 weeks, and we talked about not doing anything this time around. We had a big baby shower with our first, and this is a major trigger. Weeks pass by, we talked it out and the idea started growing on me. At the end his intention was good and I do feel this baby needs to be celebrated. We agreed on something small with close friends and family. He insisted on not stressing me out with any of the preparations (I can be pushy) so he reported to be "in charge" and having help. He even booked an appointment for me to get a pre natal massage that day so I'm not in the house while he works on this. (I wasnt supposed to know anyways, after all it was a surprise.)

The event is THIS Saturday. My family is flying from out of state for this, along with some of my friends. I'm asking for updates and come to find out... he put his sister in charge, sister put her girlfriend (who I met only once) in charge and she has bailed. Apparently she's to shy for the job. So NOTHING is prepared and nobody seems worried. His family who was going to help with the food, dont have transportation. So we dont even know if they're coming. He feels terrible and doesn't know what to do. Now I'm stuck planning something I didn't even wanted to begin with. Is too late to cancel and I feel sorry for the people that is traveling (specially with the hurricanes and weather this week) 😤

I'm grateful for having people in my life that want to be here for us and this new baby after all we been through. And although some of you might think, is just a shower... for me is a sensitive topic. Nobody understands the trauma behind it. Just the fact that I'm being forced to face this chapter when I was not ready SUCKS.
11.09.2018

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nomli
nomli
Ugh, I'm sorry. That sucks, especially finding out last minute. Order a bunch of pizza and chicken wings, and run to Party City and get those corny but fun shower games (if you want the games.) Your friends and family are coming out for you, not just for a party. They just want to see you.
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liza286
liza286
Its definitely going to be something small and simple. It definitely sucks, because I didn't wanted anything but at the same time the idea was growing on me. I'll figure something out. Thanks
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penelope127
penelope127
Can you still have a party, but change the topic to something else? Even like a family bbq. I’m so sorry you have to go through this. I can’t even imagine what you’re going through. This is a time they really should have respected your wishes.
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leowifey
leowifey
So sorry momma this sounds absolutely awful for you. 😞
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