@itsamemario, you deleted your post before I could hit send but this is my comment: I don’t know if this answers your question but this is my answer. My son is 7 and he knows race and color. Why? Because he himself comes from a family that is multi racial and because he has already experienced racism. I also believe as his mother it’s my job to teach him color and the cold hard truth about society. He knows what’s going on in this world. I’d be hurting him if I allowed him to blindly walk outside without this information. Children of color are being targeted and killed too. It’s not just adults. I let my son know we treat everyone equally and with respect. I let him know that we love everyone for their differences. In every aspect. Color, race, ethnicity, religion, sexual preference we love everyone.
Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?
So I just woke up from my nap to this very rude message from my baby fathers sister this is the second time one of his sisters has said some very rude disrespectful things to me , I already told him about it & he addressed the situation but I feel a type of way , I'm so upset I don't even know what to say back to her without getting real rude & disrespectful how would you ladies handle the situation ?
I'm so upset my husband just informed me, that my 16 yr. Old daughter told him while I was gone that I was a bad Mom with too many kids, that I was dumb because I dropped out of school, that she wanted to part in meeting her new sister in December. I'm so broken and don't know what to do!
Nikole Evansss ·
Hell no
Newlyironman·
Мама двоих (1 год, 4 года)
Personally, he hasn't earned that right
Leslye Velarde·
Мама троих детей
If you don’t wanna inform him don’t. I mean at some point you are gonna have to but it can be on your time since he decided to not be present
Nikole Evansss ·
Two weeks since you asked how our little girl was doing then you wanna be present for this one & you don’t even know anything about this pregnancy. No
Sammi Frank·
В ожидании первенца
I wouldn’t inform him. If he hasn’t been around for the kid you have already and hasn’t asked about the one in your belly, he has no right to ask to be there
Brittany·
Мама дочки (2 года), беременна (11 нед.)
My daughters dad left when we found out we were having a girl. When I went into labor I never told him or any of his family because they never asked about her or anything while pregnant.
And here she is 2yrs old and he still has yet to have anything to do with her.
He moved to a different state an everything.
Ashley Row·
Мама дочки (1 год), беременна (38 нед.)
Thanks ladies, I mean I plan on telling him but on my time. This is my moment and my family that has supported me this entire pregnancy. Not something I feel he deserves or I feel I should have to share.
Deaja·
Nope not at all
Brittany·
В ожидании первенца
I’m telling my baby dad after i have the baby. He’s been a dick this whole journey he knows nothin wen it comes to my unborn son
itzel·
Мама сына-младенца
Yes he definitely doesn’t deserve to be there when you have your baby!
itzel·
Мама сына-младенца
Make sure to also tell your parents or anyone else that’s in contact with him to not tell him, you’ll tell him when you think it’s right
Pork Chop ·
You’re not wrong at all. He can’t pick and choose what he’s there for, parenting doesn’t work that way. You deserve better girl!
Deaja·
He dont need to be there for what
Lanie Jay·
He has a right to know as it is his child. He does not need to be in the room as it is your birth experience, but once the child is born- it is both your child and he has rights. The courts will not look favorably on you if you make decisions to keep the baby from him should he decide to take you. It doesn’t matter his lack of involvement during pregnancy as the way they see it, baby isn’t here.
Kaelynn·
I'd tell him to fuck off.
You can tell him you're having the baby but you can ask the hospital to make sure he's not in the room when you give birth.
Don't keep the baby from him once it's born but he doesn't have to be there if you don't want him there.
Ashley Faulkner·
He has a right to know because in the eye of the courts he has as much rights as you do as a mother. Maybe they will b more in your favor but just keep that in mind. He doesn’t have to b there at delivery but he has the right to know