So I showed my husband my past post about how I been feeling.... he got upset and said if I was to…
So I showed my husband my past post about how I been feeling.... he got upset and said if I was to ever just go somewhere without his approval we would have problems and he would think I left and abandoned them. This was all brought on by watching Jerry Springer, anyway I told him how could u even say that I would never abandon my kids so then he’s like ok I see u would just leave me and I’m like no but I need a breather too! I need alone time too! I have to take 💩 and showers too u know! And I have feelings too and need to take care of myself mentally I need alone time I mean u hang out 3 time a week and stay out till 1am or later and completely disregarding the fact that I have been stuck here all day dealing with a 3 year old that throws a tantrum every hour, a 10 month old that won’t let me put her down, and since school is out I’m also dealing with my 10 year old who has autism constantly hurting the 3 year old so I have to monitor every second of their play because they insist on playing together even tho they seem to be mad with each other more then happy! Then he has the nerve to tell me when I get upset that I’m starting sh*t! I have been feeling this heavy feeling of aloneness and it’s just so depressing not to ever talk to another adult or even get to do anything I enjoy. I’m so tired of the crap and I’m not sure if its all a misunderstanding like I hope or he is deliberately disregarding my feelings. I’ve noticed that I’m not the only mom feeling this way either I’ve been looking through the post and see a lot of moms going through very similar situations. I’m not sure how to get him to realize or even care about what I’m going through
Krisna·
That sounds rough, mama😥😥
Oksana·
В ожидании первенца
Can you trap him there with the kids a few times by himself so he knows how it feels?
DreamyB·
Мама троих детей
I wish I could but behind what he said earlier I don’t really trust it. He said he would leave and take my kids with him and go to his brothers house.
Layne Helen·
Мама сына (1 год)
Excuse me for being blunt and delete this if it's too much, but fuck him! You're holding down the fort all day everyday with a preteen, a toddler, and a baby and if he doesn't understand how much that seriously is then I think you need to make it clearer. When my SO didn't realize how much our son was I sat in the living room with both of them for the whole day and just told him what he was doing wrong and I didn't lift a finger. (Yes I know comparing/ complaining about my situation doesn't seem like much, sorry.) After that he saw how I basically had the bad guy role and he was happy fun dad.
Also if he's that insecure where he thinks you'd abandon him maybe he should put more effort into being a partner.
Sorry if that was too much, and nice to meet you I'm Layne. I hope everything calms down. 🖤
Cams ·
Wait a min... let me get this straight. He gets to go out 3 times a week and get home around 1am but the min you want to go somewhere by yourself for a bit you’re abandoning him? He has serious control issues and is manipulating you.
Joy Perez·
Yeah thats not right of him to not let you take a breather. Id be mad. Hope he opens his eyes to the situation.
L·
Мама двоих (младенец)
Girl, no part of that is okay. At all. And it isn't a misunderstanding, you are being deliberately disregarded. You told him exactly how you feel, showed him in words on the post AND discussed it, and he told you you'd have problems/abandonment?! That's just insane. It is in NO WAY abandonment to tell your spouse "I'm going to take an hour or two to myself" and leave the house for the set time. That is self care and frankly, a break from all the mentally and physically challenging things that you have done all day. If he can't figure it out for two hours by himself even though you do this daily, I'd be rethinking the relationship and asking exactly what he thought becoming a parent entailed.
Melissa ·
Мама сына (3 года), беременна (20 нед.)
You can talk to me. I'm alone all the time too. Even more so when he is here.
DreamyB·
Мама троих детей
@mhbb3, thanks 😊