So I seen some text messages in my Fiance phone that bothered me but he just said he was joking…

Men don’t see it as we do if it was us doing what they supposedly were joking about

So I'm in a interracial relationship. So the messages were between him and his friend they were calling each other Nigger and I was really bothered but he just laughed it off

Nahhh I'd be bothered too. I'm also in an interracial relationship too. I'd put my foot so far up his butt lol.

That's wild. He needs to realize that just because it's his friend it's not a funny word. And that's disrespectful to you.

He's like he called me one first. I'm like how do you even feel comfortable saying it knowing you have kids that are half black.

Oh and there was the whole "why you going through my phone crap"

Yea no not okay would he be okay with his friend calling his kids nigger??!

@ljsmommy22 that's what I said he's like your wrong i shouldn't have said it. I probably was high anyways. Still kinda brushing it off so I just walked away.

@fakoffyeh i know i tried to explain how that word was offensive to me and he kept brushing it off saying he didn't mean it we always joke like that.

@fakoffyeh oh for sure.I'm looking at things differently now Because if I hadn't seen the messages he would have kept saying it.

I would try to tell him that we need to have a serious talk and discuss what is not okay in the relationship. I'd say if you can't figure that out I don't know if I should stay I wouldn't want my kids to be around that

@ljsmommy22 yes we're definitely gonna have a talk tonight. I calmed down a little I'm not gonna yell or anything.

Cause girl when he started laughing I saw myself punching him dead in his jaw but I didn't want our kids to see it

Out of curiosity, what race is his friend that called him that first?

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@mojobebe He's white too

@mother_of_girls, SMH. Today it’s hahaha I was joking and tomorrow it might be him calling you or another black person that out of anger. Nip that shit now. If he can’t understand why you are so upset then he doesn’t need to be a fiancée.

@mojobebe Yeah were definitely gonna finish our conversation

@teresha_h Crazy right?

🤦 not okay, ever... Hopefully now that he understands how deeply offensive that language is to you, he won't speak like that again. Hopefully him "brushing it off" was out of embarrassment for having to be told something that everyone should know by this point. Regardless, hope your talk went well and that he "gets it" now.