My husband has been getting on my nerves so much lately and I’m not pregnant! It seems like he…

What time does he come home from work? Can he manage for two hours a couple days here and there so you can get a breather?

@phoebesmommy, he goes to hang out after he gets off at 11pm at least 3 times a week. It’s just annoying cuz I never get a chance to go oh and even if I did I don’t know where I would go or who I would go with or what I would even do. Maybe it’s just me a lot of the time he says it and I feel like it’s me to I’m just not happy I love him and he’s a great dad and husband I’m just always feeling lost. He brushes off my feelings when I try to talk

@dreamyb it's not just you. You are trying to explain something that's bothering you, and being told that your feelings don't matter by the way he acts. I feel you on this. I'm a sahm with no friends, home all day every day with two Littles. Being such is an isolating, often lonely experience at times. It's even worse when your spouse just doesn't get it/is willfully oblivious to the fact that you are overwhelmed. What I've realized that is helping me is that self care is important and sometimes you have to prioritize yourself over everything, at least for a little while. It's okay to say "hey, I need time to myself. I'm going to take off for a bit" and follow through. Like I said, I don't have friends, so my "time to myself" is usually grab a coffee and head to the library to browse through books, sit and just have some quiet. After a particularly frustrating day, even just an hour of quiet is so helpful and being alone is so necessary. I'd encourage you to do something just for yourself, be it library time to yourself or even just walking around a store without all the kids in tow. It isn't selfish. I promise your husband can figure out how to handle the kids for a few hours so you can go do something. After all, you do it every day.

@techie_grrl, thank you for your encouragement I just been so frustrated lately and he doesn’t care at all it seems I’m definitely gonna try what you said and just take the time no matter how he feels about it at this point

@dreamyb he sounds like he might be like my husband. He's a great dad, but lazy unless he's pushed. He doesn't take the initiative to just DO things, or offer to handle the kids. I just have to tell him what I need, and sometimes, just tell him I'm going to go be alone for a while. Good luck!

Yup that’s him! Even tho he knows what I want and when I’m unhappy he doesn’t change things till I get upset. Thanks so much!😊

OMG! I'm in the exact same situation as you and your husband sounds just like mine does!!! I'm stuck at home without a car, trying to keep my 5 yr old daughter entertained as well as trying to keep track of my 16 yr old daughter. It totally sucks! Like you, I don't really have any friends.

So I TOTALLY understand and get what you're talking about.

Omg this hit me I’m going threw the same thing and I just found out I am expecting it’s killing me inside 😭😭😭💔

So I showed my husband this post... he got upset and said if I was to ever just go somewhere without his approval we would have problems and he would think I left and abandoned them. This was all brought on by watching Jerry Springer, anyway I told him how could u even say that I would never abandon my kids so then he’s like ok I see u would just leave me and I’m like no but I need a breather too! I need alone time too! I have to take 💩 and showers too u know! And I have feelings too and need to take care of myself mentally I need alone time I mean u hang out 3 time a week and stay out till 1am or later and completely disregarding the fact that I have been stuck here all day dealing with a 3 year old that throws a tantrum every hour, a 10 month old that won’t let me put her down, and since school is out I’m also dealing with my 10 year old who has autism constantly hurting the 3 year old so I have to monitor every second of their play because they insist on playing together even tho they seem to be mad with each other more then happy! Then he has the nerve to tell me when I get upset that I’m starting sh*t! I have been feeling this heavy feeling of aloneness and it’s just so depressing not to ever talk to another adult or even get to do anything I enjoy. I’m so tired of the crap and I’m not sure if its all a misunderstanding like I hope or he is deliberately disregarding my feelings

I've been feeling that way too. Different circumstances but the same Titanic scene