Tomorrow is the first day alone without my mom to help out and babys been screamy around everyone not just me the past two days :/ dreading it. What to do with a grumpy baby for 8+ hours alone?! :/ I went for a four hour walk with him last week just to keep him sorta happy that killed my legs though
baby wear, warm bath, gospel music, tummy time, gas drops, slow flow bottle, check for reflux, check for ear infection, if your ff it could be the formula, breastfeeding? could be your diet. Did you bring it up at his checkup?
I thought you said that you didnt have help and you lived with room mates and did everything all on your own? 😕
@tyrellp my bf lived with roommates for awhile and is planning on moving back with them
Take him for another walk, take him to a children’s museum (he’ll enjoy the different sights and colors), take him to a baby story time at the library, do sensory activities with him, read to him, sing to him, dance with him, cuddle with him, make him laugh, play nursery rhymes for him, just be a mama! This is only going to be as hard as you make it, and eventually you’re going to have to stop pitying yourself and figure this whole thing out girl! When’s the last time he’s had a checkup? When’s the last time you’ve had a doctors appointment for yourself? Something has to give.
@avianlouiebos i offered advice to you before and asked you if you haf parents that could come by to take care of baby so you could catch up on sleep...and you responded with you live with room mates and your parents are to busy to come around all the time so we never came up with a solution to your sleep deprivation...
If a walk kept him entertained then simply play with him?? If he’s screaming he needs something. Has he pooped lately? Is he teething? Could be hungry too.
@queenmeeks im not pitying myself it just sucks. I think most mothers havent been up with their kids for 12 hours straight before since most people tell me their baby cant go a few hours without sleep so they dont know how hard that is
@queenmeeks and yes i do all that we go on several walks everyday, we go to the library twice a week, its not like im doing nothing with him, we do activities everyday. And he had a doctors appt a month ago has another one on the 14th. All doctors ive seen have no concerns about him not sleeping but it still feels impossible
@avianlouiebos, sounds like he needs to see a doctor. It’s not normal for a child to constantly scream and not sleep. He could have an ear infection or something more serious going on.
@fakoffyeh no none of them were concerned about his sleep. A month ago and has another one on the 14th
@masseymomma16 doesnt work, yep poops and eats everyday, yes hes been teething for months but nothings coming through
@avianlouiebos I’ve definitely been up for 12 or more hours because my child was born 2 months premature and I was in constant fear of something going wrong, so I didn’t sleep. Plus she had to eat every 3 hours on the dot so there wasn’t much sleep to be had. Plenty of people know how hard it is and plenty of us have offered advice, but you tend to ignore it.
Again, when is the last time both you and your son had doctor’s appointments. If he still isn’t happy or sleeping after all this time, I believe something is majorly wrong. I also think you’re suffering from PPD/PPA or possibly PTSD and you need to get yourself seen about so you can turn things around. I’m just going to come out and ask: Do you truly want to be a mother or this just kind of out of obligation at this point?
@queenmeeks and yes i do all that we go on several walks everyday, we go to the library twice a week, its not like im doing nothing with him, we do activities everyday. And he had a doctors appt a month ago has another one on the 14th. All doctors ive seen have no concerns about him not sleeping but it still feels impossible
@avianlouiebos, have you tried tylenol? Or anything to soothe his teething?
@queenmeeks im not talking about you being up for 12 hours im talking about the baby up for 12 hours
@avianlouiebos so nothing at all works. Everything we suggest you’ve done and nothing is working, which is interesting and odd. There is something going on with your child and it needs to be figured out. No baby is just crying, fussy, and not sleeping 12+ hours a day. He’s feeding off of you and his environment, so something has to change mama.
@queenmeeks I never knew if I wanted kids or not and a bit of both i guess some days i couldnt imagine giving him up and some days i just wish i could leave and i know that makes me a wishy washy person cuz i cant make a decision but giving him up feels wrong
I don’t know your story or anything, so I went back and looked a a few of your posts. It seems like the majority of them are negative. A lot of complaints about your baby. Have you spoken to a Dr about ppd?
I definitely know how hard it is dealing with cranky babies and not getting in sleep. Most of us actually have been there. I have no doubt that you’re trying and doing the best you can, but something has to give. If there is no ailment in the baby’s side of things, it’s very possible that he’s picking up the resentment that you’re feeling. And some days are just so hard that it’s impossible to see a brighter side to things, but for it to be every day is just not normal. Your suffering is causing him to suffer, which is making things harder on you.
@fakoffyeh I cant get my parents on board either and I dont feel comfortable going over their heads cuz they think its wrong too to give up a kid. And they said if I did they would rather adopt him bit then nothing would change cuz parents would still be working and id still have to carw for him everyday
@avianlouiebos, but you don’t live with your parents, right? So if they adopt him how are you responsible for caring for him? Why isn’t he in daycare?
@avianlouiebos, I know it sounds cheese ball hun and maybe silly but have you tried a chiropractor? I have a friend in Edmonton who was really struggling with their daughter and weekly visits to the chiro really made some improvements to her constant fuss? Or maybe having him around kids his age for a play date?
If you want something to change, you need to take action. You need to see someone for your mental health. You as a mama and as a person would greatly benefit from it.
Baby needs to be seen by a doctor. It’s not normal for a 6m old to be awake for 12+ hours. If his current pediatrician doesn’t seem concerned, I’d get a second opinion asap.
@fakoffyeh, I just really know it worked for my friends daughter, and it’s worth a shot.
@avianlouiebos it isn’t your parents decision to make, it is the choice of you and your son’s father if he is involved. If you feel you cannot properly care for him, there is a family out there waiting to give him all of the love they have and to care for him. I know that is a hard decision to make, but nearly every post you make is something negative about your life or motherhood, and it’s sad to see. You HAVE to take care of yourself or this is just going to be what it is. Your mental health is wealth, and you need to be seen for PPD/PPA and possibly some PTSD. No mother should struggle like this continually and it’s infuriating when it seems like you just don’t listen to us.
@beakymcspence the chiropractor is a great suggestion! It has worked wonders for me, and I know plenty of kids it has helped as well.
@queenmeeks, I really think it’s worth a shot. I’ve actually been considering it for my little guy with special needs.
it can be rough sometimes. Just remember it won't be this way forever. If you feel like you are losing it it's totally acceptable to put him in a crib or pack and play and step away for 10 minutes. I do not like when people always jump to ppd but just make sure you are listening to your self too. Put hi down and take a quick shower, bring him in with you if you have too. I know people are against co sleeping but it saved my life with ds3.
Lots of great advice on this post. I hope you take some of it. Many people are concerned about you but it seems like every suggestion is shot down.
I have been dealing with this with my son for a few months now where majority of his time is spent screaming and fighting sleep. I knew for a fact that it's not normal, despite being told by two doctors that there was noting wrong with him. I kept persisting with taking him to different people and even took him to the children's emergency department at the hospital. They ended up referring me to the pediatrician at the hospital, who tailored a plan of action specific for us. He hasn't made some miraculous turn around, but slowly he is getting better. You just need to have patience and routine which seems to be something your severely struggling with. I agree with the other ladies that you need to talk to someone asap about the possibility of post partum depression. Getting that looked into and possibly treated, will drastically change the way you cope with him amd make it alot better for both of you. Don't give up on having him looked at until you get an answer either. That is not normal for him to be awake screaming for so long. Keep going til you find answers like I did. Alot of issues need to be addressed here and nothing is going to change until you take the steps toward improving quality of life for you both. You need to take action and not give up til you find a solution for you both. Taking him to a chiropractor is a great first step and they will he able to help refer you to other specialists if needed. Something has to give, you both can't keep on the way you are. It's sad to see you both going through this.
Being told over and over you are depressed can be just as damaging and isolating as actual ppd.
@avianlouiebos I think all the women here genuinely just want you to be safe and happy. you are going to have to figure out what it's going to take for you to have that.
Queen Meeks·
Take him for another walk, take him to a children’s museum (he’ll enjoy the different sights and colors), take him to a baby story time at the library, do sensory activities with him, read to him, sing to him, dance with him, cuddle with him, make him laugh, play nursery rhymes for him, just be a mama! This is only going to be as hard as you make it, and eventually you’re going to have to stop pitying yourself and figure this whole thing out girl! When’s the last time he’s had a checkup? When’s the last time you’ve had a doctors appointment for yourself? Something has to give.
Queen Meeks·
@avianlouiebos so nothing at all works. Everything we suggest you’ve done and nothing is working, which is interesting and odd. There is something going on with your child and it needs to be figured out. No baby is just crying, fussy, and not sleeping 12+ hours a day. He’s feeding off of you and his environment, so something has to change mama.