This thought has been on my mind for days and I just need to let it out. People need to realize how rude it is to ask if we are using the same hospital, this time around, after the neonatal death of my first born 4 years ago. Commenting "good" or anything for that matter is simply out of line. If anyone understands how traumatic it would be being back at the same hospital, is ME. The only thing that this question makes me feel is guilt. Nobody asked that question 4 years ago. And BTW, the hospital was wonderful in managing the situation, sometimes bad things just happen. Everyone is quick to say "everything happens for a reason" until the real judgment comes out. 😡
This is exactly why I don't want anyone knowing when we're going to give birth. I just want to enjoy that moment with my husband. Every week that we get closer, makes me sick. I'm not ready. I dont want to deal with people (family or not) on top of that my PTSD.
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@liza286, I’m here if u ever need someone to talk to. We are both mamas to beautiful angels❤️
@liza286, Maybe they are not meaning it in a bad way hun. I kno how hard it is :( I lost twin boys 3 years ago. I think people don’t understand how hurtful it still is mama unless you have gone thru it.
Well if u ever just need to talk I’m here. I hope everything turns out great for u and ur family!!
Honestly, just close friends and family are the only ones that know we're expecting. It's just sad that I always get the same 3 questions from them... 1) is it a boy or a girl? 2) what's the name (proceed to give unsolicited name suggestions) and 3) are you going to the same hospital 😑 EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. It gets old.
I also HATE confrontation. So many times I've been wanting to snap... but can't seem to let it out. Specially with family. So much unresolved drama connected with my first pregnancy, birth and loss. 😪 its emotionally exhausting.
That’s so sad mama I’m so sorry for ur loss. I’m sorry ppl r so insensitive.
But like pp said u don’t have to tell anyone who don’t need to know anything at all.
Try to stay focused and positive u got this!!! And we r here for u.
((Hugs)) I had a traumatic birth for my second. Many things were mishandled. However, I personally saw how those issues were corrected. When I had a subsequent pregnancy we chose to go through a sister hospital that was closer, but in the event there was another issue we could easily go to the other hospital. So many people questioned that decision. It triggered my PTSD so much. We ended up not telling anyone other than the family members that needed to know.
No one needs to know that information unless you want them to be there. Otherwise- it’s not their business. I’d just say something snarky when they ask: say, no we’ve chosen a Florida hospital so we’ll be guaranteed warm weather.
@preciouslove I agree, people dont get it. They don't understand, and how can they. I'm very vocal and try to explain things the best way I can, sometimes the feeling of grief just lingers. Than you 💗