Honest opinion am I overreacting....so my mother in law and sister in law didn't call my son on his birthday on Wednesday. Yet they knew it was his 2nd birthday. I was so upset and hurt because we've lived with them so I considered them like my actual family. My mom threw a surprise party for my son that night it was literally only my sister,brother,mom and aunt and one of my friends and of course us. Well my mom decided to go fb live with us singing happy birthday. My mother in law comments that why didn't we tell her anything so I tell my mom if she really cared she would've called him to say something.Even family members that I don't talk to often messaged him a video singing to him! So the next day I receive a message from my sister in law asking me why I didn't invite them. I then explained that either of them called to tell him anything. So then she was like well you could've still invited us and then I explained that it wasn't my right to do anything since it was my brother sister and mother throwing it for him! So then I told her that they were more than welcome to throw him anything if they truly wanted to needles to say they were mad because they weren't invited to my son's surprise party. And I apparently should've told them to call my son super frustrating. Well I'm so glad my family loves my son and spoils him they do everything for him so I am truly blessed. Just gets me upset because birthdays are a big deal in my family.
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@hazelnautumnsmomma125 that's how they are too my father is like that Too.
@alejandra1x right that's why I'm like why are they upset lol
@jovromero I'm sorry to hear that. My in-laws have only seen my girls a handful of times since they were born... (Their choice)
@hazelnautumnsmomma125 I hope so we had such a great relationships and they messed that up.
@jovromero, well yeah if she’s not inviting you to their things they can’t be upset either.
@jovromero you're welcome. I hope you're in-laws learn to understand
@alejandra1x I just don't feel right inviting them if it wasn't at my house. Plus they only made enough food for us they bbq. Also it was literally last minute they live like 45 min away. And they didn't even call him what so ever. Yet my mother in law makes post when it's my sister in-laws kids birthdays and makes them a party and yet it's a problem when my mom throws one for her grandchild on top of that we never get invited and I don't get upset.
@jovromero, your mom wouldn’t have allowed them to go? Would it have been too many people?
@alejandra1x The Thing Is That It Wasn't At My House It Was At my mom's.
@sherrynygirl yes true! My dad did the same thing! But he is practically out of my life!
Personally I would have still invited them since your husband is there they are also family. My in laws don’t call me at all but when it comes to outings especially for the kids we set things up, if they can come they come if not I wouldn’t take it personal.
@roses702 I'm lucky to have my brother and sister they are amazing. They literally divided the money in between my mom . Spending almost 600 dollars on toys for my mom's yard so he could have a blast when he goes over now that he spends his time over there.
@jovromero aww lol I don't blame you I hope he has fun!
@jovromero that's dope, the only ppl who spoil my kids are their father and I that's it
My siblings are pos's and so are his lol
But I tell my siblings they are cheap and shitty uncle's and aunts .lol
I give all my neice s and nephews gifts no matter how broke I am and no matter how far they are..
Don't feel bad.. They could've done there part... Let's see what excuse they use for next year or Xmas
@jovromero if they had called anytime in the day I would have been nice enough to call them over for a get together..NOT calling at all or calling a young child late in evening=fu@#$& that bs ! Means your not seeing my child
@sherrynygirl I'm not sure why they got mad in the first place since the party wasn't even at my house it was at my mom's. I'm not going to invite them to my moms
@hazelnautumnsmomma125 I'm petty so I told them that they are more than welcome to throw him one if they really wanted too. Too bad my son is going out of town with my mom tomorrow. My side of the family spoils him a lot. Since my brother and sister don't want any kids my kids are literally like their own.
@jovromero I'm an adult they can tell me anything... Don't hurt my child's feeling's no matter how small they are it's his special day birthday comes around once a yr...what are people Soo busy doing they didn't call or even show up to your house...no one is that busy
@roses702 I agree. I felt so bad but honestly I thought it was my hormones since I just had my other little one.
@sherrynygirl that's what I thought even my husband was upset because my son knew that there was something special going on.
@inkedsouthernbelle I'm very petty that's my problem I admit it. I even told them that it was my mom throwing it at her house at last minute literally my mom called at 4pm and we got there at 6pm. I didn't know they were going to throw him a surprise party. I wasn't planning on doing anything this year for him since I just gave birth. Plus the party wasn't at my house it was at my mom's.
@jovromero wow that's crazy. tell your in-laws to throw him a little one
That's so mean, if they wanted to they could've called you and Asked what are your plans for your son but they choose not to... They are grown. Just making an excuse
@hazelnautumnsmomma125 oh that's another part of the story I didn't include my mother in law literally added my mom on fb so anytime she sees my son doing something with my mom she knows. So she was able to see the live feed and had the audacity to comment and say why didn't we tell her anything 😂😂😐🤔like wtf! Made me so mad and my mom being the sweet person she is comment back and said she was sorry but that it was last minute.
#1 they didn't call at all regardless For his special day his birthday! your mom and family threw him a last min b day... They didn't need to invite those people
I think both of y’all were hurt but all feelings should’ve been set aside for the child. That’s the focus here. That’s the most important thing and when someone chooses to let emotions and petty stuff get in the way and effect their relationship and commitment to that child it’s wrong. I’m playing devils advocate here because yes they should’ve been invited. I’m sure they were hurt by that but more importantly they should’ve honored your sons birthday in another way and showed they care ON his birthday no matter yalls differences and arguments. The child only sees who’s there and who isn’t. He doesn’t understand proper party etiquette and know what’s going on with yall and your relationships so bottom line, they were hurt, you were hurt but that shouldn’t matter when it comes to potentially hurting that child and everyone from both sides should’ve recognized his birthday and celebrated it
@jovromero I don't understand how they don't understand that.. Tell them if they have A problem to talk to your mom lol I would 🤷🏼
@hazelnautumnsmomma125 the thing is that my mom threw his party last minute. They weren't invited because for one it was last minute and two it's my mom's house.
Same thing happened on my daughter's second birthday and I was mad and hurt too. And only my mom dad sister us and one friend showed up but we told our in-laws not to bitch anymore about not seeing the girls since they didn't call on her birthday so I guess they took that and they showed up half way through her party but I honestly wish they hadn't..
@jovromero I hate when ppl are like that🙄