So my unborn daughters dad wants to keep her a secret. None of his friends or family knows, just one of his cousins! It bothers me, I’ve talked to him and he says “well she’s my business, not anyone else’s.”
I hate it so much! I feel like she will never know who her fathers side of the family is!
@masseymomma16, I tell everyone. I post about her all the time. But he found out 2 of his friends was on my snap and he was like take them off they don’t need to know. It’s my business. Like it makes me feel like shit. Plus he left when I told him I was pregnant.
@mommyof3., he is trying to deny her? Surely more than just one cousin knows then. Sounds like an asshole.
@moifait, it honestly sucks! I asked if he was embarrassed because I was having his kid. Makes me feel shitty.
@moifait, girl, it’s so hard! I’m in tears over it constantly. I wish he know what it felt like to be in my shoes.
@mommyof3. It has to be a reason. But try (I know it's hard( but try not to stress out yourself and baby hun. U can inbox me anytime.
He’s probably just a really private person about his personal life, maybe his family is really opinionated and he doesn’t want to deal with it right now. I think he’ll come around to it eventually.
Im the bitch thatd tell them for him. Your like what, 6 months pregnant? Theirs no excuse for them not to know.
@momzillaof3, I mean my whole family has to know, why doesn’t his?! I asked a guy friend why he would keep her a secret, and he said “if I kept mine a secret, then I wouldn’t think it was mine.” Makes me wonder if that’s why he left and is keeping her a secret.
@mommyof3. Could be, or he might try and not be in her life 😳 his family is gonna be so hurt if their just finding out when shes born. Thats their grandchild/niece/cousin. Hes for sure being pretty weird about it.
@momzillaof3, I’ve been trying to question him and he just ignores me!
He's an ass. Good thing y'all are not together. If he was treating me and leaving me while pregnant i wouldn't want anything to do with his family and them knowing would be the least of my worries.
@mommyof3. Honestly id just tell him either he tells them or you will. That MIGHT get him going lol. A baby isnt meant to be hid, thats your little blessing 😊
@veemndz, I careless about his family knowing, it’s for her sake. She deserves to know who her family is!!
@momzillaof3, we were together for 10 months and I only met his mom and brother once, so I don’t know his family.
Does he mean keep her a secret forever? Or just the pregnancy? My pregnancy isn't necessarily a "secret", but my husband and I still haven't officially shared the news with anyone. We wanted to enjoy this ourselves and not get any extra attention because his family specifically can be a little over the top.
@emily526, I asked him if he will ever tell them and he said “idk. Maybe, maybe not.” So who knows. It just bothers me; a lot.
Wether they know about her or not, you can't force a relationship between them and the baby. He's the middle man in this situation and hopefully he changes his attitude once he has his daughter in his arms. Dont stress it😊
God is big, have faith
@veemndz, he just said, “it’s not my decision on who knows about her. That he will not tell anyone about her, because it’s not their business.”
Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?
So I’m not a fan of my fiancé’s family. I want you all opinion on what you would do. His family wants to throw me a baby shower. Yet they haven’t invited any of my family and friends and none of my fiancé’s friends. My fiancé and his niece haven’t spoke since May since I got into an argument with her and supposedly this baby shower is her idea. Would you go to a baby shower that no one you know or friends and family won’t be apart of? Would you just not show up? My fiancé has already voiced his concerns and they were ignored. I’m thinking about not even going.
IF WHEN I HAVE MY BABY I DONT WANT MY BD OR HIS FAMILY TO EVER C HER WHAT DO I HAVE TO DO???
@itsamemario, you deleted your post before I could hit send but this is my comment: I don’t know if this answers your question but this is my answer. My son is 7 and he knows race and color. Why? Because he himself comes from a family that is multi racial and because he has already experienced racism. I also believe as his mother it’s my job to teach him color and the cold hard truth about society. He knows what’s going on in this world. I’d be hurting him if I allowed him to blindly walk outside without this information. Children of color are being targeted and killed too. It’s not just adults. I let my son know we treat everyone equally and with respect. I let him know that we love everyone for their differences. In every aspect. Color, race, ethnicity, religion, sexual preference we love everyone.
MassMomma16·
I'd be telling everyone myself! 🤷🏻♀️