Today I made a run to Walmart because we forgot a couple of things when we went grocery shopping yesterday. Liam and I got our stuff, browsed around a while, and then went to the checkout line. We had only five items but the lady in front of us had a cart full of things. No problem, we are in no hurry and don’t mind waiting. As I’m explaining to Liam he can’t have the candy in the aisles because we had some at home and putting up the items he did pick up, a lady walked in line behind us with her (approximately) eight year old daughter. They only had one item. As we are standing in line this lady keeps making nasty comments about me. “Look how trashy she looks with all those tattoos. You’re NEVER going to allow yourself do nasty things like that.” “Omg her shorts are WAAAY too short. Just a little shorter and her nasty junk will pop out.” “That just makes you look so trashy, what was she thinking?!” “Someone should tell her she looks like complete crap,” and other comments similar to those. She wasn’t even trying to be quiet about it. She kept going on and on with these horrible comments. So I turned around to face her, noticed she had only one item, and sweetly offered to let her go ahead of me (since she was obviously struggling to look at me). She then looks me up and down and says “oh no honey, WE’RE fine,” in a super nasty tone. So I turned back around and played with Liam. She never made another comment. I have thick skin so her comments towards me didn’t bother me too much. What bothered me was the fact she was making these horrible comments to her young daughter. She’s teaching her daughter to be judgmental and mean. It shouldn’t have surprised me in the slightest but it did. The picture is what I wore to Walmart (ignore the mess, we moved to a new house and things still are not in order). Everything was covered. I understand that I have a bigger butt and normal shorts for other people turn into short shorts for me, it’s something I can’t help. It’s too hot for pants and above all I want to be comfortable in this 101 degree weather. Those of you that know me well, know that normally I have a temper and a big mouth (I’ve honestly been working hard on that), and know that normally I would turn around and be nasty back. Instead I chose to be an example for my four year old son and retaliate in a more positive manner. You can’t control the situation but you can choose how you react to it. I hope her daughter chooses not to act like her mother and chooses to be kinder to others. This is the type of thing that makes me sick to my stomach that I brought a child into such a cruel world. The world has enough negativity without another person contributing to it.
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Lady sounds like my mom. Can NEVER say anything nice about another woman. For as long as I can remember she has always put other women down. Thank god I did NOT take after her.
But you look good! Absolutely nothing wrong with what your wearing or how you look.
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@mamachey, maybe that’s what I was thinking of. Still cruel af and I’m sorry!
@breediddy13, no but i did comment and say someone yelled go home , the way i dress is most like maxi dresses and cardis so its doesnt stand out much but others who wear more traditional clothes do. Before i was muslim and wore a scarf i also got comments too lol so its a loose loose
@mamachey, I’ve been trying to make it a point to meet negativity with positivity. Plus, it rattles the other person most of the time when you do that. People want you to show them negativity back and I’m done feeding into it.
Didn’t you have a post one time about people being cruel about your scarf? Or am I thinking of somebody else?
People realllly need to mind their
Business i wear a scarf (muslim) and would never do that or would i say anything to my daughters . I also teach them to mind their business . You wear what YOU feel comfortable wearing never let others make you feel uncomfortable . You do not have to explain your self to anyone. No matter what you wear ppl will have something to say any way .
Im glad you did the gesture of kindness it let her know
You heard and you were unbothered !!
@kbbaybee16, I’m sorry 😓 bullies are the worst. And he does. I want him to learn it takes a strong person to build people up. The weak tear others down
@breediddy13, I got bullied in middle school. I blocked most of it out! I’m sorry. Yes your son needs to see thick skin and turning the cheek
@leahkay, 😂😂
@mommynes, 🎶 all I want for my birthday is a big booty hoe 🎶 I’m ashamed I know hat song because I never listen to that kind of music 😂
@oceanhalo, she was extremely rude! Thank you! 🖤
@theoriginalleah, at least you realized what you were doing and worked on it. Most people refuse to take responsibility for the way they are. 🖤
@caiticat., 😘
@kbbaybee16, I was bullied in high school so I’ve gotten thicker skin and learned people are just downright cruel. I refuse to let anyone see me cry over their words. And thank you, he deserves for me to be a better person.
@messybunmom, thank you 🖤 I was so shocked that she was actually teaching her daughter to say things like that!
@scruffy.nerf.herder, thank you 🖤🖤 I just pray her daughter doesn’t grow up acting like that 😓
You did an awesome job of keeping your cool and being a good role model for your child! Don't let others' negative energy get you down 💜💜💜
You handled it very well and with class.
Some ppl are literally idiots. Sad that she’s showing her daughter it’s okay to act that way. Kids learn by example and that woman is a horrible one. Shame on her!
I’m so sorry!! I probably would have cried. 😭 it’s so great to hear that you’re setting a great example for you’re son.
My mom is such a negative Nancy and I grew up to be just like her. Until I started paying attention to the way people reacted to me-which was not positively. I started paying attention to when I received these negative reactions and realized it was because I was so negative all the time. I have worked on that side of me for years and I try to be overly nice because you never know what someone else is going through. For that young girl, it’s Monkey see, monkey do. I hope that little girl will realize that it’s not right to speak to people or about people in that way and will set an example for her own mom someday and teach her to be kind to others.
Yeah she was probably just jealous of your big booty, because me over here with my flat booty totally is. 🤷😂
@fakoffyeh, yes!! I’m actually allergic to caffeine! Unfortunately chocolate contains it.
I love cake and I really love pie and ice cream 😂 cake also has to have ice cream as well
@fakoffyeh, oh my tummy has expanded tons. 😭 this moving houses shit hasn’t helped with that either. I’m actually allergic to chocolate so I wouldn’t know but I love me some cake 😍
@fakoffyeh, oh boy I don’t want to imagine, even though she was wearing a tank top 😂 honestly if I was comfortable with myself I would have worn less for sure.
Oh yeah, they’ll extend your ass 😂 the bad part about my ass extending is my stomach has too 😫😫 I really need to start working out again.
@ss3mom, I’m growing mine it now because it was cut just a tad bit shorter than I wanted but it was so damaged. I had an asymmetrical look for a while and I LOVED it!! You could totally pull it off! I go through phases with mine. I grow it long and then cut it off drastically, then get mad when I do cut it 😂
@fakoffyeh, all the junk foods 😂 I tend to binge eat most days. 😂😂 And it is way too hot for clothes period tbh. And the temp is still climbing. Hell, I almost wore a tank top instead of a t-shirt because it’s so miserable.
@breediddy13, I see yours is growing out a little bit!! I’m growing mine out now. I think I’m over the asymmetrical look. It’s either I chop it all off or grow it a little longer!! I don’t know what to do with my hair anymore!! I don’t have an appt for a while so I have time to think about it!!
@whitninicole, thank you!! I hope she realized she was being awful when I didn’t react to it.
@taymw11, I can’t either. And if she didn’t like the way I looked she could have just moved on, no need to comment on it, especially in front of her young daughter. And thanks!! 🖤
@murdock_, I really hope she does, not just for her sake, but for that little girl too!
@ss3mom, we live in a cruel world. We really do. And thank you!! I still love your hair btw!
@leowifey, I used to be a negative ass person but did some serious soul searching. I hope she does the same because her daughter deserves to learn better as well. It’s that kind of parenting that raises bullies, and then those parents act shocked their children are participating in that kind of behavior. I want my child to learn to build others up.
@ricky-bobby, she honestly just looked so unhappy and flustered..and angry. I still don’t know what to make of the situation or the hostility towards me.
@fakoffyeh, it really is such a terrible thing to teach your child! It’s 101 degrees here so far so pants and capris are a no go for me! Haha thanks! I ate a lot of junk food to get this booty 😅😂
@cams, I was also confused about that as well. I ALWAYS make sure my shorts cover everything before I walk out of the door.
@mommajules, I hope her daughter learns what not to do. She never said a word while her mom was acting like that and when I turned around she hung her head. There’s still hope for her 🖤
@lilnote, I have family members like that as well and it’s always so infuriating when they act so “holier than thou.” And thank you!! 🖤
@mrschanandlerbong95, thank you 😂 I’ve spent too much time giving into ugly behavior and I made a conscious decision not to do it any longer.
@csavage, 😘😘
@rowdy-vajazzy, I’m just way bothered that she was teaching her daughter that awful behavior! I used to be such an asshole but changed when I had Liam because he deserves better. I never understood making fun of people for things they can’t help!
Ugh wtf is wrong with people?! I think u look just fine!! I see nothing wrong with your shorts at all!! U did a great job!! Way to show your son an example of how u should treat people!!
@breediddy13, that would be cool if she did realize it. She needs to work on herself, and put positivity to her child.
I can’t stand judgmental people! And you look completely fine! People are so rude
Awe you look adorable!!! You handled that extremely well.
@murdock_, I honestly think it stems from personal insecurities too. I hope one day she realizes how wrong she was and changes. Initially I was angry about her comments but now I mostly feel sorry for her and her child.
What a serious ahole! I think you stayed amazingly calm and great job being a wonderful example to your child, unlike that woman. I’m so bothered by this! You do not look trashy whatsoever. In fact, you look awesome!
She’s jealous of your booty.
Seriously, you look fine. Good for you for staying calm, and not giving in to the ugly
Lady sounds like my mom. Can NEVER say anything nice about another woman. For as long as I can remember she has always put other women down. Thank god I did NOT take after her.
But you look good! Absolutely nothing wrong with what your wearing or how you look.
I’m sure her daughter will grow up to do the exact same things she was criticizing about you! I’ve seen it happen all the time with friends and family. I have an aunt who was always so judgmental growing up, and all her kids grew up to do the things she hated! Makes me smile every time I think about it!
Your asscheeks aren’t hanging out so I’m confused? What a psycho.
@ricky-bobby, I was thinking “I would have pulled my shorts up my ass crack for the rest of checkout” haha
It is so sad that her daughter is learning to be mean from her mother. Good on you for making a point of staying cool to set a good example not only for Liam, but for her daughter as well. That you don't have to give meanness to others.
Damn. People are fucked up. You look fine! I always feel like those comments stem from personal insecurities, so they have to lash it out onto others.
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@whitninicole, thank you!! I hope she realized she was being awful when I didn’t react to it.
@taymw11, I can’t either. And if she didn’t like the way I looked she could have just moved on, no need to comment on it, especially in front of her young daughter. And thanks!! 🖤
@murdock_, I really hope she does, not just for her sake, but for that little girl too!
@ss3mom, we live in a cruel world. We really do. And thank you!! I still love your hair btw!