@melissaortega1995 It's one thing to understand the word "no". It's another thing entirely to have the impulse control to think ahead before acting out. A child her age lacks that control in the moment, even if she understands what's expected of her.

@firsttimebabybump2018, exactly thank you

@x_graveyard_baby_x, thank u

I stand corrected. You said "assume the worst". I assumed the worst was abuse.

@x_graveyard_baby_x I'm not worked up. You said "you guys". Since I'm one of the people replying, and my comment was directly before yours, I thought I'd address it. Did anyone on this post actually call it abuse?

Nor did I ever use the term abuse.

@yayacarrington yikes way to single yourself out there wasnt even talking about you, chill.

@x_graveyard_baby_x I have never once called it abuse or thought of it as anything more than it is. Spanking, swatting, popping...are all different words for the same action. The severity of it depends on the parent. Without being there, I cannot possibly judge it. But I can say that the research is solid. It doesn't matter how gently or forcefully it's done.

You are doing a good job! She’s probably just hit that age where she’s a bit of a mess😉🤪 keep up being consistent with your discipline, and show her love also, and it’ll all work out in time❤️ cuz they do understand by that age when they’re doing something that you tell them they shouldn’t😊

I flick my kids.in the forehead .works great.

Blah blah blah, everyone parents different. No one wants to beat their kids, you guys hear the word "spanking" and automatically assume the worst, she's probably just doing a light swat on the butt. Our jobs are to teach them, but how well did you guys listen as children. I'm sure y'all were spanked and most of you seem okay. She's looking for advice, not to get ripped into. The best I could say is take things away, favorite toys, tv time, things like that. With my godson we would go to the park every morning but if he acted up we wouldn't go and he had to sit with me while I did house chores. Kid was bored shitless and stopped being a turd butt, he was also 3 at the time. But take away activities she likes and swap it out for something boring.

@melissaortega1995 Spanking is not necessarily discipline. It's punishment. Discipline comes from an internal motivation to do the right thing. My son learns discipline from playing piano and taking taekwondo lessons. Neither of those activities requires any kind of physical punishment, yet they are both extremely effective at teaching discipline.

Often times punishment and discipline get confused for each other because our parents didn't differentiate between the two. We have more knowledge about child development at our fingertips than our parents ever had access to. It would be a shame to disregard the advancements that have been made in regards to how we should discipline our children. I am here to offer advice and help you find alternative methods if you are interested.

@laniejay, ummmm first off u can hop up out of my comments if ur gonna be rude second off no body hitting her u make it sound like I’m abusing my child and I’m not u got ur way of parenting and I got my way ok get that strait it’s called discipline idk if u discipline ur kids or not but my baby will get disciplined so u can just leave the comments or get blocked I don’t wanna hear no rude opinion

She’s a baby. A baby. Unless you find it acceptable for your husband to hit you when he’s mad at you- quit hitting your baby. Our job is to teach them, not hit them.

@melissaortega1995 It's one thing to understand the word "no". It's another thing entirely to have the impulse control to think ahead before acting out. A child her age lacks that control in the moment, even if she understands what's expected of her.

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I’m not assuming nothing I no my daughter better then anyone she does no and again she’s super smart for her age she understands what it means when I tell her no or she gets in trouble

Because you are giving her control by showing her that she has power over you. Children don't differentiate between positive and negative attention. Even some adults struggle with it. Children are sponges of information. They will emulate what is being presented to them. It's challenging to try to teach someone to control their temper if we can't control our own.

A better approach would be to stay calm and show her by example how she should behave. It takes patience and creativity, but it works. I created a peaceful parenting chat group. We all struggle with certain aspects of parenting and it helps to find support from other moms who have faced similar issues.

Tried that it docent work she likes to do her own thing which means when she’s in trouble and knows she’s in trouble or gets told not to do something she smiles and goes and does it anyways that’s why she stays in trouble

@melissaortega1995, you are assuming she knows. Maybe she doesn't or doesn't fully understand. Just try to redirect her attention or take her away from whatever she's doing wrong. I know it must be hard! Hang in there!

@melissaortega1995 I'm trying to figure out the same thing with mine 🙃🙃

Agree with above, it’s not till like 3yr of age can you start timeouts. Children at this age still do things on impulse best way to deal with is to get her attention on something else like a toy.

Oh my daughter smart af for her age she knows what it means to get a spanking or in trouble but it’s like she does it on purpose and I no she’s little but omg the emotional part of pregnancy done hit me to we’re now I’m getting emotional having to deal with her behavior 24/7 and trying to find ways to discipline her

Because they don't understand at this age why they are being hit or the purpose of timeout. 🤷🏻‍♀️