Not sure how much more i can take......
So since Nahla was born almost a year ago. Not one person from my boyfriend side of the family has come to visit or see her. His parents came once from Florida. Then they moved 45mins away from us. Since they moved here they haven’t come to see her. So Nahla won’t even go to his parents. We have gone to their place once but i feel they should be making an effort. Josh always wants to take Nahla around and meet people and i say no bc no one has made any efforts or attempts to meet or see her. Am i wrong for how i feel about the situation? Also he’s not very involved. He plays with Nahla and I know loves her but he has never changed a diaper maybe one since she’s left the hospital, not feeding her a bottle, never been up at night with her. Any of that. He went the last two months without giving me money for her diapers clothes or food. Then when i asked him for money last week he said you wanna go half? I said do i ever ask you to go half so why when i finally ask for money it’s can we go half. So I’m not comfortable with him taking Nahla anywhere by himself bc he’s never done any of this. He get frustrated when she throws a little fit but that’s what babies do. I’m so stuck right now smh
no you're perfectly at your right to feel this way why should he be taking your daughter for show off he doesn't even support her and take care of her. reminds me of deadbeat dads/moms that will show off on social media their children but won't drop a dime or time to show some effort.
and to the grandparents if there's no effort to see their grandkids why should I be taking them around so grandparents can see them if they don't seem to care
My husbands family doesn't ever come around. They live in Washington both his parents are retired so there's no job stopping them and we have offered multiple times to pay and/or come pick them up. When I was pregnant with my first and second baby they never called or texted to ask how I was doing. They never call on their birthdays and now I'm 26 almost 27 weeks along and we decided to not say anything. I told my husband that I felt like it try and try to get them to be a part of our family becaue after all we are but they don't care. So he said we're done and it sucks but if they're not putting in the effort why should you or why should I?! They're the ones missing out.
Thank you for your input, he’s making me feel so bad and I’m not trying to keep her from his family but I also see it as it’s not my job to take her around. We are together but he’s making it so hard. This is becoming such a deal breaker for our relationship. I am considering putting him on child support but seems kind of pointless because he’s behind on child support for his son. Which is something I just found out.
So since Nahla was born almost a year ago. Not one person from my boyfriend side of the family has come to visit or see her. His parents came once from Florida. Then they moved 45mins away from us. Since they moved here they haven’t come to see her. So Nahla won’t even go to his parents. We have gone to their place once but i feel they should be making an effort. Josh always wants to take Nahla around and meet people and i say no bc no one has made any efforts or attempts to meet or see her. Am i wrong for how i feel about the situation? Also he’s not very involved. He plays with Nahla and I know loves her but he has never changed a diaper maybe one since she’s left the hospital, not feeding her a bottle, never been up at night with her. Any of that. He went the last two months without giving me money for her diapers clothes or food. Then when i asked him for money last week he said you wanna go half? I said do i ever ask you to go half so why when i finally ask for money it’s can we go half. So I’m not comfortable with him taking Nahla anywhere by himself bc he’s never done any of this. He get frustrated when she throws a little fit but that’s what babies do. I’m so stuck right now smh
My mother in law and two of my partners sisters visited my son once when he was first born he’s now 6 months and since they haven’t come over once. They live a 15 minute drive away and constantly call to say ahh we’re just down the road but when we invite them over they say no we can’t we’re busy yet we go to see them at least once a week and have done since he was born sometimes if we don’t go when they invite us they say what’s wrong why don’t you come to see us it’s pathetic they even brought his brothers baby a gift that cost 5 times the amount they spent on my son for Christmas I know because she showed me the gifts they brought her with the price still on they brought my son a crappy outfit that’s too small for him and cost £7 I only know that because I went shopping the other day and saw it with the £7 price tag on it! Honestly you need to stand up for yourself set an amount and tell him the money you need or your filing for child support and if your in laws don’t come to see your baby cut them out your life which is exactly what I need to do too! Lol