So my ex went to court and filed for visitation rights. I was served last week. I am not comfortable with our daughter being around him alone nor his mother which he lives with. I have proof of him asking me to take his drug test for his job for him in text messages and him texting me he was too high to drive and get our daughter milk. Is that enough to show the judge? As far as his mother she watches his son quite often and told us she gives him nighttime medicine if she has problems getting him to go to sleep at night. (Claims she did it with my ex when he was little too) And she FaceTimed us once mid day while taking his son back to his mother, she gave him night time medicine bc she didn’t want him talking the whole ride and wanted him to sleep. He was so out of it. It just scares me to leave her alone with them.
Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?
So over this feeling! Ever since I've had ds, OH and I have fought my mother on not wanting to give ds a dummy just cause we don't like them and find he self soothes. For the past three times my mother has had him, she has gone against our rule and given him a dummy and of course I spoke to her about it (that's all my knowledge on how many times she's done it). On Sunday we celebrated my stepfathers birthday and due to OH working I had to do it alone which isn't the thing that bothered me. The thing that bothered me was no matter what I said regarding ds I wasn't listened to. I told my mother to sit behind ds if she was going to sit him up on the floor as he hasn't got the whole balance thing down pact but she didn't and then ds falls and starts crying cause he hurt himself, I picked him up and my mother just came and took him off me! I told her he can't forward face yet as he is below the shoulder line in order to forward face but they did anyway. I get it's her first grandchild and she's excited but I never got to share the news about ds's first tooth or his first attempt at crawling to the family because she already done it. Yes I know, I probably sound petty asf! I had to repeatedly ask my mother to take me and ds home as he was tired and close to the over tired stage. On the way home ds fell asleep, luckily I was sitting beside him and looked at him cause he had fallen asleep and had his head facing down so I quickly grabbed his head and held it up till we got home.
@itsamemario, you deleted your post before I could hit send but this is my comment: I don’t know if this answers your question but this is my answer. My son is 7 and he knows race and color. Why? Because he himself comes from a family that is multi racial and because he has already experienced racism. I also believe as his mother it’s my job to teach him color and the cold hard truth about society. He knows what’s going on in this world. I’d be hurting him if I allowed him to blindly walk outside without this information. Children of color are being targeted and killed too. It’s not just adults. I let my son know we treat everyone equally and with respect. I let him know that we love everyone for their differences. In every aspect. Color, race, ethnicity, religion, sexual preference we love everyone.
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Do not let anyone watch your kid who drugs another kid, in fact if i knew someone was giving a healthy child cold meds id call cps.
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I would also be calling CPS that is horrible! If they are drugging that poor child then he needs to go somewhere that can handle him/raise him correctly.
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I wouldnt want his parents watching my baby either. Ahe isnt equipped to watch a baby if she has to 'drug' a 3 year old bc je is too mich, or make him sleep.
Im shocked your bf lets his mom so that to hia 3 yr old.
Ashley Row·
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Yes I was very shocked. His parents live in Florida and his ex lives in Georgia so the times he is unable to get his son they get him which is about once a month. Or they bring him when they come to visit. So they do not have custody of him. But now he says he feels I'm favoring my family bc I won't let his watch our little one
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Where is the 3 yr olds mother in this? Perhaps i missed that part of the story. Does she know about the issues with his parents. This has nothing to do with favoring, this is a safety issue.
Ashley Row·
Мама дочки-младенца
His mother lives in Georgia, I'm not sure if she knows they're currently in and out of court to try and get custody rights worked out.
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Everybody, regardless of occupation or state, is technically a mandated reporter. If you are aware of child abuse/neglect/etc. and do not report, you can get into trouble. I would most definatley call CPS. You can do it annonymously. Maybe you can talk with your boyfriend about allowing his parents to have your child for very short periods of time with very strict guidlines to the point that if they break a rule, they lose the option of being a caregiver. Maybe you can start off slowly with them coming to your home to care for your child while you clean the house or something? Communication is key. Express your concerns to your boyfriend and his parents and let them know the consequences for not following your directions.
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I wouldn't let your baby spend the night at all. If she wants to see her grandbaby, she needs to be supervised . You don't give kids med so they will sleep.
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You need to have a serious conversation with your bf and his mom.