So my was Bf that was in jail left me for a 15year old and he’s almost 22 himself. I’m trying to enjoy my pregnancy but…

Uh yeah that’s some pedophille shit you better off honey..

4-8 years? He's missing everything anyway. By the time he's out the only mark he'll have on your life will be a faint memory of how you did all the work by yourself to make your baby. Let him date a child - why's she coming over anyway? He stepped out of your business when he decided to no longer be your man. Chin up girl there are far better men out there - and I promise they're gonna find you much more approachable if you're smiling!!

@kittycupcake that im not sure. When i had my son i wasnt married & they required my now husband to sign off he takes responsibilty as the father and be put on the birth certificate. Otherwise i didnt have to put him. & you def dont have to givr the baby his last name.

@scared_shtless, 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

@taylorsmommy1017, I don’t think they’d award visitation to someone in jail on those charges.

@taylorsmommy1017, Hmm 🤔 I didn’t know that. It sounds better to just get custody of my baby instead. For the long run.

@wheelercharle4 I'll have to do some research on that

@scared_shtless well, I think you were right technically if she's wanting to collect child support... I didn't read that until just now. But if she didn't she could just say she didn't know and they wouldn't push it.

@scared_shtless, Thank you so much 😊.

@kittycupcake I believe that's wise! Best of luck lady :)

@taylorsmommy1017, Thank you so much that was so sweet and beautiful!!

@wheelercharle4 oops thanks for correcting me! I may have some old information

@wheelercharle4, Oh?

@scared_shtless, That will be a hard day but if I can make it through this now I definitely will be able to then. Yes I love his Grandma!! But I’m working on letting him go a bit at a time it’s just going to take a little bit. I do have more thoughts about the child growing inside of me then anything else which is a plus.

@kittycupcake no you are not required to say anything about who the father is.

@kittycupcake maybe they do. I don't have a child yet so I don't know. However, in that situation in might be healthier for a little bit of heart break with the explanation that Dad wasn't the right man than a lot of heart break explaining why he still isn't the right man...

@kittycupcake I know it's easier said than done but forget him!! You're letting him live in your head and he's not even paying rent so fck that noise. It might be good to maintain a relationship with his grandma for some extra support - she sounds like a good lady. But that doesn't mean a relationship with him by any means! How'd you maintain a relationship with a guy behind bars anyway??? His interests have evidently shifted and if they don't align with yours and your child's then what's he doing in your headspace?

@scared_shtless, Very true and I’m going to make sure he doesn’t as much as possible. When they get older do they get curious about there Dad that wasn’t in there life?

But that doesn't mean he has any rights to the child!!!!

@scared_shtless, Awww thank you so much. It’s just my depression keeps trying to eat away at me. I do have a therephist that I’m able to talk to so it makes it a little easier. Lol she was talking to his Grandma trying to hang out even though she never did before and his Grandma does not like that his with a child she even told her that she should be doing child things like playing with barbies etc. 😂😂 His Grandma loves me and she even told her that it doesn’t matter I’m still family to her and if I want to come over I’m free to anytime I feel like it and there’s nothing she can do about it.

@kittycupcake some states maybe all require the dad to be listed - they can't escape child support anymore if you say "I don't know". They'll find him

@peanutbuttajelly27, I wasn’t going to but aren’t I required to have the bio Dad on the birth certificate regardless? I was going to try to get child support. I need as much support as I can get.

@ek620, Stealing a gun and violating his parole. Plus he has a history of getting out of jail only to return to jail shortly after. The longer it gets the better I feel about it all. I’m trying to think about the blessing I have inside of me. If there’s one thing he did right it was giving me the gift of life it’s self. I’m pretty certain after 4years he loses his parental rights.

Honestly i would move on, you dont need that negativety. And also if you dont plan on trying to get him for child support when he gets out of jail i wouldnt even list him on the birth certificate.

4-8 years? He's missing everything anyway. By the time he's out the only mark he'll have on your life will be a faint memory of how you did all the work by yourself to make your baby. Let him date a child - why's she coming over anyway? He stepped out of your business when he decided to no longer be your man. Chin up girl there are far better men out there - and I promise they're gonna find you much more approachable if you're smiling!!

🤔 I can't help but wonder wtf he is thinking. I'm 25 and I don't have hardly anything in common with 17 year olds much less a 15 year old. When I was 15 my bf was 22 though and I never realized that that was disgusting because more or less he was trying to train me to be what he wanted me to be. Looking back I have no respect for that grown ass man that dated me when I was a child.

What’s he in jail for?

You cope by reminding yourself you don't need a pedophile to be around your baby. As for the girl coming around, don't open the door to her unless it's to try to tell her that she's being used by someone who's a) too old for her and b) IN JAIL.

Uh yeah that’s some pedophille shit you better off honey..