The cry it out method is considered "taboo" but it does work. You don't leave them for long, you can check on him a few times and try to calm him but that's how you sleep train. My son eventually stopped needing to be rocked on his own at some point and slept through the night

@modom16, it’s just so hard because he’s not crying from hungry or a soiled diaper... he doesn’t even want to be held... he’s just so used to going to sleep at a certain time and a certain way that me trying to change that is aggravating him...

@mitiacarolina3, I’m sorry your struggling! Just know it’s okay to give in sometimes, we’ve all done it. Keep doing what you started with tonight and eventually he’ll get it. It can be a slow process but don’t give up and think you’re stuck!

I’m going to start over tomorrow morning... tried tonight, gave him a bath around 6, read him a story, had soft music playing and tried to feed him but he didn’t want it.... I put him in his bed with his projector playing and sat on the floor next to him. At first he was quiet and listening to me hum but then around 6:50 he just started to yell... so I was petting him on the butt and trying to vocally soothe him but he kept going... so I put his pacifier in and walked out the room but kept going in every 10 minutes to calm him down... didn’t work... was going on and off for 2 hours until I said screw it and put him in his walker... then he started crying after playing so I put him back in his bed around 10:30.... 10 minutes into that and he was still yelling so I caved in and put him in the car seat to rock him and 5 minutes later he’s knocked out 😫😩

@sarah.s, just trying to help mommies out there just like you are 🤷‍♀️ no harm meant. I try to provide useful info that some moms could benefit from.

Anyways. We did it with my singleton, kids I nannied for. To each there own. No reason to keep bringing it up.

@sarah.s, hey I totally get it, you only have two arms. I just think your situation is unique to you or other twin/ multiple small children mommies rather than to the op. There’s a ton of research out there regarding cio and how it affects our babies.

@mitiacarolina3, definitely have to get rid of the car seat, I stand by my comment earlier. After a few days he’ll be fine without it.

I know she doesn't have twins, I was just saying.

@sarah.s, the op doesn’t have twins though. Just one baby.

I’m sure it’s hard as hell not saying you have to be super mom. I get you gotta let them cry sometimes when you have that many of them but if there’s only one you should be able to focus on just them. Cio only works because babies lose that sense of trust. No ones coming for me so there’s nothing left to do.

He doesn’t wanted to rocked in my arms, the only way to put him to sleep is rocking him in the car seat and it’s to the point where now he won’t even stay asleep if he’s not in there and you have to keep rocking him

I started CIO with my first son at 7 months and it worked in 3 nights. I did the one where you go back in every few minutes to check on them if they are still crying. Dont pick him up. Just go in and comfort him with words and a back rub. And stay in room no longer then a minute. It worked great for my son and he has been sleeping great since then. Im glad this time when I had my twins I never rocked them to sleep or barley co slept with them. I put them in crib awake and they go right to sleep. So I will not have to do CIO this time thank goodness. Good luck with whatever method works for you.

Try with Twins and a child 15mnths older. Can't always go in and rock. Anyway CIO worked for us.

Old school cry it out should not be used AT ALL anymore, and certainly not recommended. Even 5 minutes of constant crying feels like a lifetime for a baby who is literally calling out for their mom, who won’t come to them. There are plenty of studies on how cio is detrimental to our mental health and can cause problems in adulthood.

@taylorsmommy1017, your baby just wanted you and you sent someone else for her? Why break her trust like that? You were crying because you it goes against our nature to meet our babies needs.

Ladies I know it’s hard as hell in the beginning and we feel like we need our space back. Just because a baby is fed and clean doesn’t mean all of their needs are met. They have phycological needs as well and it’s our job to meet ALL of them.

Op, lay them down and stay in the room with them, there will be crying and when they become inconsolable, pick them up and rock them for a bit and lay them back down. It not going to happen overnight, it will take time but your baby will feel more secure and you won’t have to feel that guilt of leaving them to cry.

@mitiacarolina3 Good luck. Sorry your husband is like that.

@sarah.s, imma try it... gonna be hard when my husband undermines me

@mitiacarolina3 He will catch on

@mitiacarolina3 Well ignore them. It does work

CIO. Roommates or not. Each night gradually go longer without feeding

@mommytotheo, thanks

@taylorsmommy1017, when I try that, my husband acts like he has a bathroom emergency and sits in there for about a hour then comes out and falls asleep

@mitiacarolina3 oh no. I guess try CIO then. Don't let him cry for more theb 5 mins at a time though. Best of luck

@mommytotheo, when I try to talk him to sleep he treats it as a game and starts laughing

@mommytotheo, yup I’ve tried that to and he’ll take my hand off of him and try to play with it then tries to bite me

@mit310iacarolin310 it sounds to me like hes having a sleep regression on top of the transition. Just use CIO has that's resort. Have you tried placing your hand on him and talking to him?

@mommytotheo, he’s about to be 8 months on Tuesday and he still try’s to co sleep but keeps waking up 2-3 time to eat through the night even if I feed him before putting him to sleep and he wants to be rocked to sleep. And if I stop rocking him his eyes pop right back open and he starts screaming until I start back. He doesn’t self soothe even though he knows how. He wants me to do it for him

The cry it out method is considered "taboo" but it does work. You don't leave them for long, you can check on him a few times and try to calm him but that's how you sleep train. My son eventually stopped needing to be rocked on his own at some point and slept through the night

@mitiacarolina3 you could try it but its really not good for them. Hes still so little. Im just curious why are you trying to break it now and not later?

@mommytotheo, I’ve tried the shirt trick and all he did was grab it, gum on it for a few then flung it around while crying

The CIO is not good at all but if your tried everything you could give it a try. Have you tried putting your shirt you wore that day in the crib with him? He may just be looking for your scent which is why he's waking and screaming. I'd try your shirt or if he has a special blanket he sleeps with I'd cuddle with it so it smells like you

@taylorsmommy1017, Zach’s been under me since he was born... my husband kept making excuses even when he was off on why he couldn’t help me... he would be off for 3 days and would sleep. Mind you he’s a housekeeper mainly scrubbing toilets or buffing floors.. so he would come home, play his xbox or sit on his phone while I’m up trying to multitask... and now it’s worse because I’ll set a schedule and when he gets home or if he’s off from work he’ll come in and change everything and then falls asleep leaving me up until 1-2 in the morning

@taylorsmommy1017, my husband is always working so I’m basically raising Zach by myself so it mainly on me to put him to sleep and deal with the crying and screaming

@sarah.s, he doesn’t just cry then stop to see if I’m coming. He cries continuously

@sarah.s, I mentioned that on here before and got chewed out 🤣😫🙄

Cry it out method

@taylorsmommy1017, I tried that when he first turned 7 months and he through a fit even when I went in there to get him and he didn’t settle down until about a hour later then I would try again and he would scream as if someone was hurting him