It’s so hard being a mom because everyone thinks that we have to do it all. And that’s really not fair. As I said before it needs to be a partnership. He can’t expect u to do everything

Ugh that’s frustrating. Have u really tried talking to him about it? Like a serious conversation. No yelling or judging? Maybe he needs to understand better how you’re feeling. Communication is key with every relationship

This is pretty passive aggressive, but when the baby is up all night crying, I'd take him and just sit right down next to my SO and do what I gotta do to console the baby. If you have to be distracted from sleep, he can be distracted from his game.

My husband LOVES his Xbox. My issue was a little different though. He is a SAHD and when I would get home from my 10 hr work day he would jump on the Xbox and be on until 2 or 3AM. It started taking a toll on me because I can't sleep with that on so I'd be up until 3AM to have to get up at 6AM to go to work. I really put my foot down about it and said honestly if that's how it's going to be with the Xbox you can take it and go live somewhere else because I deserve more respect. It took a conversation and explanation, but I got through to him. We came to an agreement that he needs to be off by 12 the latest.

Video games can seriously end a relationship, they don’t know how to stop !! It took my husband two years and for me to be pregnant again for him to calm down on the damn video games.

Do you have anywhere that you could go? Or he could go so he knows this is serious and needs to be fixed? I couldn’t imagine not having help from dh especially with such a young baby. It’s just not fair, you deserve a mutual partnership and this sounds extremely one sided. My husband works 80 hours a week but on his one day off you bet your ass he is helping around the house and getting up with the kids so I can sleep in. He used to stay home though so he understands how hard it actually is.

I dunno, my husband gets it. 🤷🏼‍♀️ He brings out the xbox once in a blue moon & usually asks first if I mind. Spends a minimal of an hour or two on it. He totally gets how hard the kids are and is always saying how much he appreciates me, even tells me to go rest in the bed with a book or my Nintendo 3DS sometimes.

Men they just don’t understand that just cause they are children they are a 24/7 thing

Good for you taking a stand! You let him know cause he may be working but he’s not helping raising the kids that’s for sure that’s what’s most important

Is it online games he plays? Change the wifi password, his console will disconnect lol.

Obviously that doesn’t get to the root of the issue, but I’m sure you’ve already tried telling him how you feel. There’s no way I’d put up with that.

I would seriously call and shut the internet off while he was at work. I just saw the ages of your two youngest and I would not put up with that.

I had a husband like that. Finally got fed up. He’s been my ex husband for 4 years. Lol I know it’s not really funny. But he didn’t get it either. Worked from 12-9pm, stayed up til 3-4am playing video games, slept til 11am, had to be back to work at noon. His excuse was the same. He needed “me time”

Obviously there were other things to go along with the video gaming and not helping out with our child that led to the end of our marriage. But that was a BIG one.

I now have a husband and no video game console or computer in my house 💃🏼💃🏼

@preciouslove, hopefully he will! If I lived closer I would help you out, I know it’s really hard at first 😕

@mommy_x3, it’s been so hard love I feel like I don’t get any sleep. Hopefully he will get better as he gets bigger.

@preciouslove, I’m sorry 😕 I wish you had more help, it’s so hard those first few weeks! Especially with two so young..

@mommy_x3, Saturday only and he’s off early I do make him but he stays glued to the game he’s like I’ll do it right now baby and doesn’t so I end up doin it:/

@preciouslove, does he work on weekends too? Maybe make him help then if not

@ss3mom, I hope so to or I will go crazy I jus cried today because I don’t know how to make him feel better:( none of my babies were like this. And thanks again

@preciouslove, my youngest was the same way. I couldn’t put him down

At all. He always wanted to be help and with an almost 2 year old it was so hard. Also I breast fed so I feel like that’s all I did for the first month or two. Hopefully things change once u get back to work!! Good luck

@ss3mom, yea exactly I love my kids and being a mom but I jus can’t do everything.

@ss3mom, Thank u hun I’ve tried talking to him so much. Even his mom gets on him about it and he’s a grown man. It’s 7am and he’s still playing he’s been home since 2am from work. That’s jus to much. Tomorrow I’m taking the Xbox out of the living room and hiding it. Our son is colicky I literally hold him all night and day almost with a 2 yr old and 2 teens. He thinks I’m an energizer bunny:( when I go back to work he will help a lil more but not really.

It’s so hard being a mom because everyone thinks that we have to do it all. And that’s really not fair. As I said before it needs to be a partnership. He can’t expect u to do everything

@mommy_x3, love I’m so tired I slept one hr my baby is fussy and woke up my daughter and on top of that I’m hungry I literally didn’t have time to eat dinner:(

@bemx94, right mine tries to act all nice and make a bottle between games all in a hurry it’s ridiculous. I told him right now if I leave him for him not to act surprised.

@preciouslove, oh that’s no good. So when u start working again have u discussed what’s going to have to change around the house? And with the kids? I’m really sorry he’s acting that way. It should be a partnership. All the parenting shouldn’t fall on your shoulders. That’s really not fair to u at all. He’s going to get a reality check when u start working again. Things have to change. U can’t do it all especially while working. My dh works about 8 hour days. He’s out of the house by 5am at the latest and him by 2-3 at the latest. But he never ever expects me to do everything. Again I’m so sorry he’s acting this way. Maybe have like a to do list for him for when u go back to work? Maybe he needs a little guidance as to what u expect from him in regards to the housework and child care?! Good luck hopefully he gets his act together

@mommyof3babies2016, yupp girl so true I’m getting real tired of his ass

I’m sorry!! I know you’re tired, he should be helping you instead of playing games 😑

@preciouslove, i just freak out on my man that clearly xbox is more important than hanging out with me. And if he keeps playing, i just straight up ignore him

@ss3mom, yes of course. He really thinks that moms should take care of the kids when they are small. I get that he works a lot but I’m goin back to work in two weeks and I will still do everything when I’m home! :(

@preciouslove, the right they think it’s all sorts of funny and take NOTHING serious until you leave then when you come back it’s the same as it was before

@tristansmama2015, no they don’t love:(

@bemx94, I seriously don’t know wat to do anymore. They don’t listen till you leave them

Ugh that’s frustrating. Have u really tried talking to him about it? Like a serious conversation. No yelling or judging? Maybe he needs to understand better how you’re feeling. Communication is key with every relationship

@mommyof3babies2016, lol yes I’m so fed up and he has no blanket or pillow...o well

Men just don’t understand

I know that’s right mama

I can relate to this so much

That’s awesome you locked him out of the room lol