is this cheating? I made the mistake of going through my SO's phone and found out he has been on a dating site talking…

Hell no. I'd be all over my husband if he pulled some s*** like that. That's not ok at all.

Edit: the "hell no" is to your "am I wrong?" Question lol. No you're not wrong. Yes that is cheating

To me that is basically cheating...

Umm that is cheating. He obviously is out there pursuing some other relationship if he's on a dating site. You deserve better!

Thanks. I'm so hurt

Your not work at all that's defiantly cheating !

My husband would be packing his bags....

He says it was just for fun and he never contacted any of them on the phone but that's something I'll never know the truth about

Yes that's cheating. I'm so sorry. :(

I caught my SO doing this three weeks after we had baby and I was DEVASTATED! I'm so so so sorry, I know it hurts, I didn't send him packing but I did ignore him for a week and it drove him insane. I still don't believe he's learned his lesson. I wish I knew a solution, I would share if I had one. I do consider it cheating as well, there's a reason we've been together five years and two kids later and I refuse to marry him. That reason is he may not be physically cheating but I do believe things like this could lead to that eventually. :( I'm so sorry.

@Rachel I think it'll lead to something else one day too. He told me there's people out there doing worse things and this is simple, but that doesn't justify anything to me.

HELL NO! This is not ok... You let something like this slide and what's next meeting these ladies?!? Nope!! Not ok at all!! Do these ladies even know he has a wife and child? Is he lying to them too???

I'm not his wife thank goodness

^thats what I'm sayin! Lol

Oh my gawd. I'm so sorry. I caught my husband doing this when I was 36-38 weeks pregnant. Caught him the first time with several numbers, then a second time with one or two. I didn't send him packing and he denies that it is cheating. But it is. Even to the day, 2 months later, I still have problems feeling comfortable during sex and it is so hard to push those thoughts out of my head, of what he did.

I don't think I'll be able to push the thoughts out of my head either. Things seem to get worse with us by the hour. I'm ready to just focus on me and my baby. I don't want a life full of pain and lies

Yes! Confront him about it

Yes it is!

My marriage ended when I found my husband on F**kbook.com. I was devastated. Online or in person, emotional or physical it's cheating and there is no excuse. The way I see it if they start out doing it online, they are working up to physically doing it. And once a cheater always a cheater. U will never be able to completely get over it. There will be no trust and with no trust there is no chance for the relationship. I haven't been able to completely trust a man since my husband and I don't know that I ever will again. And because of that I'm raising my boys by myself. It's hard and its lonely but I'm not constantly worrying and checking his text/web activity. That s*** will drive you insane. you may not find anything at first but you will never be able to stop looking because the trust is gone.

It's cheating. He is putting himself out there secretly. It may not have been physical yet but it's on the path.

Cheating. He has bad Intentions

Cheating. I'm with Rachel. My SO played the same card but on a non dating site like on a app called tango and ever since than even tho He didn't do nothing with them physically.. He hurts so bad to even marry him till this day

F## the whatsapp for that too. My s.o did it there and found Motel 6 on his cc bill. He had the balls to say he helped his mechanic by paying for his stay....motherfvker still denies. I don't trust him. My son was 10 days old