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Ashley Roan

I'm so embarrassed!

I can't even believe I'm posting this because I'm embarrassed and on the verge of tears.

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deleted-user

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He will be happy if he knows what they are for or make your own account i have own account and it's not shady or anything it's just how it's always been

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deleted-user

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It will never be exactly the same but it will tighten a lot over the next few months. Have more sex and get those muscles working.

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countrybound77

Ashley Roan

If I order those, DH is going to get the weirdest Amazon confirmation email in his inbox.

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deleted-user

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I made a post about the benwa/ kegal balls asking if others have heard about them a family member mentioned how well the luna ones were in specific .

They said they use them longer then suggested usually a couple hours a day while doing stuff around the house and could "crack an egg" with the muscles .

But it does for sure take some time to go back a year sounds about right but use those balls you can get them off amazon

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deleted-user

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Op that was the best analogy ever!

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deleted-user

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My brother in law said it took my sister a year to get it back in order. I wanted an honest opinion because I was preggers so he gave it to me.

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deleted-user

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Pp my so has weighted balls and they are free! Great suggestion. ?

I should look into it though. I've always wanted a brolick vagina!

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deleted-user

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They make those weighted balls you put in your vagina to tighten it. I think they're called Luna balls. You have to tense your vagina to keep the balls in there so it's basically forcing you to do kegals. I heard they're really good and work. I'm sure everything will go back to normal your only six weeks pp. this could help speed it up though?

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countrybound77

Ashley Roan

Probably because I really like sex and it was honestly terrible. ?

But just like people can't control their boobs sagging or stretch marks, a lot of women still feel self-conscious about it.

I do appreciate the encouragement though! ☺

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deleted-user

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Why be self conscious about something that is out of your control?

We're animals, we poop, we age, we change. It will be ok!!

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Honestly I was the exact same way after birth. I just remember eventually one time we did it actually hurt and I couldn't figure out why. Apparently I just took longer to go back to normal

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countrybound77

Ashley Roan

Thanks ladies! I just shot DH a text with the good news! ?

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It will go back girl. Don't worry.

And I basically shot DD out. Felt like I needed to push & 6 minutes, one contraction later, she was born.

It'll go back. Just give it some time.

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deleted-user

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Definitely give yourself more time and try not to stress about it. I did hear that squats also help on top he the kegals. Be kind to yourself, you just birthed a new life into this world. :)

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deleted-user

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It was like that after my second! It's all back to normal now, but the first few times were pretty weird and awkward for me ?

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You'll be fine. Give yourself some more time. I'm on baby #5. All 4 of my previous births have been vaginaln and my hisband hasn't said a word about it. Try looking into some exercises that strengthen your pelvic floor muscles. If it is still an issue in another few months, especially if you regularly do strengthening exercises, talk to your dr about it. There might be some underlying damage they didn't realize was going on.

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countrybound77

Ashley Roan

LOL! Thanks Iris!

He's my 5th baby, but my first two were c-sections and my 4th was a 20-week stillbirth - so not really comparable to birthing a normal-sized baby.

That's why I was kind of shocked. 10 years of baby birthing and this is the first time it's happened. But you ladies are making me feel at ease!

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deleted-user

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If it doesn't go back there are pills he can take to make his penis grow out in girth. ?

Girl your vagina will go back to how it was. Don't panic.

My last of the 3 was a csection and I couldn't believe how loose I got. I had no idea that could happen after a csection. But after 3 births I'm all good now in the vaginal wall department.

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countrybound77

Ashley Roan

I was thinking it could be because of how different the births were. My daughter took 24 hours of labor and about 15-20 minutes of pushing to come out. My son came FAST. I was only in labor 3.5 hours and 3-4 pushes and he was out.

It's like a rain storm. You can get a few inches of rain over the course of a few days and everything's fine. You can get a short intense rain storm that puts out the same exact amount of rain and you get flash floods - and those can mess sh*t up!

Maybe that's a terrible analogy. ??

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countrybound77

Ashley Roan

Thank you, ladies! You have know idea how much better you are all making me feel.

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deleted-user

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I didn't have sex until around 3-4 months pp because of a traumatic delivery but it hurt BAD when I did. I can only attribute that to time. Give it a bit longer and keep doing your exercises.

If it's still not right after some time, have a talk with your GYN.

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deleted-user

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After I had my son, I was absolutely devastated at how I felt down there during sex. I was so so scared that was it, and it wouldn't go back. A few months later it went back to exactly how it was before. If not tighter.

I was actually talking to my husband about this the other day. He told me he freaked out too, but didn't want to tell me at the time because I was also clearly upset. But then he said he knew it would go back to normal, because it happened with our daughter aswell! My last baby was 3 years ago. And everything is great! Don't worry, it WILL go back to normal

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countrybound77

Ashley Roan

I guess I just didn't expect it since everything just bounced back to normal last time.

I just felt like, we waited all this time for this moment and it was so anti-climactic. ? In my head I was just thinking "Oh my gosh, what the hell? Can he tell how bad this is? Is it just me? I hope he doesn't notice!" and then afterwards I just rolled over and tried not to sob into my pillow. I'm sure it's just hormones.

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deleted-user

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I'm thinking it will definitely go back to normal. Just give it time! I had this same freak out though and literally bought a kegel master (I seriously can't believe I'm admitting this but I want you to feel better lol) and used it for a few months. I think it helped but I also think my vagina also just had more time to return to its actual size.

You're not alone, but I don't think you need to worry!

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deleted-user

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Definitely do not be embarrassed. You just pushed out a baby. I feel sad for you that you are embarrassed. I get it that you want it how it used to be. I do hope for your sake that it goes back but definitely do not feel embarrassed about it. Hugs ❤️

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deleted-user

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I mean you did just have a baby you're probably still healing maybe 6 weeks was too soon this time. I wouldn't look to much into it do some kegles and squats it will tighten back up eventually

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