Some of his mates went to one but he himself says it's disrespectful when you're in relationship

No!! I would hit the roof? I would go there and drag him out and punch every stripper in the face on my way out? it's not technically cheating but I just don't really agree with letting a naked woman touch Paul. If she wasn't a stripper and someone else was rubbing her arse on your OH I'm sure you'd think differently so don't see why it's any different just because he's paying. I know he wouldn't go anyway 1. He knows not to 2. He can't even look at the tv when some boobs are on the screen? and 3. He'd never ever go to a club

But I don't think he should be going (or laughing at you!) when you tell him you don't like it!!xx

When we worked in a nightclub it had a strip club as part of it downstairs which hubby and I sometimes had to work in (me bar, him security) and if the strippers in there are anything to do by it's not a pretty sight when the lights are on! Because of my experience I'm not that fussed by him going if he was on a stag do because he always has his security head on (even when drunk) so is more likely to be looking around in case of trouble then at the girls so I'm quite lucky. Because he's seen behind the scenes he wouldn't get a private dance but if he did I wouldn't like it...looking is fine, we all do it, but touching isn't xx

Guys are gonna look at other girls whether they're in a strip club, pub, on a train, at work. It's human nature to look and to admire, we all do it. Just because ur man doesn't go to a strippers club doesn't mean he doesn't look at other girls, let's be honest. As long as they don't act on it or have any desire to act on it then it shouldn't be an issue x

I find it more disrespectful that your oh still goes after you've told him you don't want him too

That's the problem, not the strippers lol x

No way!! The only boobies he should be admiring are mine, its a big no no for me. I just wouldn't feel comfortable knowing he's looking at another woman naked. Luckily my husband says he hates things like that and that he'd just feel embarrassed (or so he says lol) xxx

I can hand on heart say I wouldn't care him going to a strip club tbh id happily go with him ! Lol but private dance is a big no way! There's no harm in looking but letting someone grind up on you ??hell no ! Xx

No no no! I would never let him go to a strip club, I think deep down ladies, you hate the thought of your man seeing naked women dancing ? I don't really get anyone that says they don't mind, secure or not! But me and my oh are both jealous people, he would never let me go see dream boys or anything like that and I wouldn't want to anyway, I only think it's acceptable if you're single being around sexually natured places like strip clubs etc

I didn't mean that your not secure in your relationship by the way, sorry if it came across like that. Maybe speak to him again and let him know that it upsets you but also just try and see it for what it is - mostly just drunk guys going to somewhere that they think they should go to keep up a daft image....plus it has a late bar lol! Most of the time it's nothing more than that x

I'm very secure in my relationship too! I trust he would never cheat ect.. The only time he goes to strip clubs is when he's on a stag do which he has a few this year. He doesn't tell me where they go on these stags and tbh I'd rather not know if he went to the strippers cos il be wondering about private dancers. He's had them in the past and knows I don't like it. So I don't know 100% he's had one last time he went but I thinks it's disrespectful if he did knowing how I hate it. That's what I'm trying to say! X

I'm very secure in my relationship so maybe thats why it doesnt bother me. I would never tolerate cheating of any sort and neither would my oh, and we both would never do it anyway. We are both "allowed" to do what we want, I don't care if he wants to go out with his mates and get drunk or go to strippers etc and he doesn't care if I do either. We would never dream of telling each other what we can or can't do, I'd die if he actually thought he needed my permission for something as simple as a night out. He went to Amsterdam with his mates for new year while I stayed at home pregnant....I persuaded him to go as there was no point in us both having a quiet new year just cos I'm pregnant. And I regularly go for nights away with my friends, have just booked to go to dublin for a girls piss up at the end of the year. If anything I'd be more worried about a man going to a nightclub where people are drunk, come onto you etc and are up for 1 night stands than going to a strippers where they aren't allowed to even touch nevermind anything else x

I don't think it's any different to a man watching porn (which also doesn't bother me) there not actually fantasising about these dancers there just watching them dancing

If anything my oh said he wouldn't even want them to touch him lol sweating all night ?

Do u know for sure he still goes and pays for private dances OP or do you just suspects he does? I don't think going to a strippers in itself is disrespectful but I do think theirs an issue if he's doing something repeatedly that he knows upsets u so much x

No way would I like my OH going to a strip club and he wouldn't like me going to see men strip either. This is a no no for both of us. Its disgusting and disrespect to the other half.

Why would he keep going if he knows u don't like it ?

I think it's disrespectful when my oh knows I don't like private dances and still goes ahead and does it

A private dance would piss me off but if he was just there on a lads night out it wouldn't bother me at all. I don't think it's disrespectful, it's no different to woman going to male strippers. And u probably see just as much flesh on a night out these days anyway. Me and my friend went to a strippers after a drunken shopping trip which ended up in us going to the pub till closing time. Then onto the strippers because it was the only place open late and we weren't ready to stop drinking yet. She got us flung out cos she was dancing in front of the stage and totally upstaging the dancers ? I still cringe thinking about it lol! X

My oh wouldn't let me go to a strip club and I wouldn't let him and that is the end of that. I always think it's classless and the fact they have to gyrate on all types of different men to make moneu makes me want to vomit lol it pays well I suppose but I always think bet your mum and dad are well proud of you lol xx

I'd be so offended ? like babe I'll dance for you sit down

My husband thinks they are awful. He said he doesn't think it's sexy at all just cringey, awkward and embarrassing.

So I am safe there!

It is disrespectful when you are in a committed relationship to go out and have some random grinding on you, especially someone that you have paid to do so!

No bother at all on a stag do. As long as he didn't get a private dance. If he was going every week or just on a random night out I'd hate it. Luckily my OH usually props up the bar in a strip club, think his pervy years have been and gone thankfully!

Nope. It's different than male strippers as well. Men are aroused by the visual, women not so much. So a rowdy night with male strippers is just a laugh but having a naked woman's butt gyrating in a taken mans face is a big no to me. Plus it's all very well saying 'can't touch them' but the thought of wishing they could is annoying to me. It's a respect thing, my partner wouldn't go because it upsets me and I pretend to myself he wouldn't want to ?. Although years before I met him he booked a stripper for his own birthday party and when it came to it he ran and hid lol

I think it's disrespectful too!

Don't mind him going to strip club for a stag or something but not a dance, on my hubby's stag I jus said how would u feel if I had some guy dancing with his junk in my face! Think he got the point lol.....still went to a club but I know he didn't get a dance. I jus think it's really disrespectful but everyone is different I guess.

Doesn't bother me at all. He isn't able to touch and I trust him so not an issue at all. A lot of the girls do it to fund themselves through education so they are solely thinking of the money x

No, not for me! I hate the thought that my money would be spent on that? And let's face it! If it was a case of strip club or I do a diy one at one is rather do that! I wouldn't be any good at it mind? ? xx

I can't even watch lap dancers on tv I feel embarrassed for them ?

There not aloud to touch no but her nakedness touches them that's the bit I can't stand! Eurgh just angers me! Lol x

Wouldn't bother me at all lol there not allowed to touch, not cheating at all in my opinion. My oh and a load of lads went to Amsterdam and stumbled across a full on live sex show, the women called my oh's mate up to the stage and put a pen in her vajayjay and wrote on his chest ???? wtf, they were a bit grossed out haha said she was a minger. I haven't seen dream boys YET but I will ??? X

I ended up in a strip club on a work night out and it was the hottest place on earth! I don't mean hot women, I mean physical temperature. It was seriously boiling in there to the point I though I was going to faint! Which I guess is done on purpose to make men buy more drinks, plus cost of entry and cost of dances. So actually, I think I'd be mostly worried about how much money dh was spending by being there!! ?

Hell no. Strip clubs make me cringe. Can't see my oh enjoying them anyways, he hates girls that hardly wear anything.

And I don't know how you girls can watch the dream boys and such, I can't even watch Magic Mike it makes me so uncomfortable ?? xx

Wouldnt even like mine to go in the doors of a strip club! xx

But I also don't agree in him doing it if you don't like it, that is disrespectful and you have every right not to want him to, everyone can have different feelings on it but it won't change how you feel I think his friends are out of order if they know how much it upsets you xx

Doesn't and didn't bother me he went to one when in Germany and he said it was vile he was embarrassed for the girls and spent 45 mins giving a girl career advice he also sent me pics and it we the sleaziest place I've ever seen he has been to a few different ones on stag dos etc had a private dance once then rang me and said he was convinced it was a man ? he wouldn't go now this was when we where younger, but all in all he comes home to me so in not bothered at all xx

Absolutely not even if he was standing at the front door I would take his man off ? then I would probs go and find hot male stripper just to give him a taste of his own medicine xxx

I wouldn't like it at all! I'm a jealous gf too though x

No. Do it when you single. My fiance knows better than to go to those things.

I'm not the jealous type - but no , this is a no no . I don't think it's tasteful , and I think it's disrespectful to anyone in a relationship - just my opinion

It wouldn't bother me I don't think! I used to be quite jealous but now I don't really care what Ryan does haha! I would rather him tell me he was going rather than him lying about it Because that would piss me off xx

I'd hate it no experience but I wudnt be happy

My husband goes into the strippers when out with the boys or on a stag do and it doesn't bother me him going in as wouldn't want him standing outside on his own but I'd freak if he got a dance from one. I don't think he would but if he did I would hit the roof??xx

It doesn't bother me at all..

My OH went on a stag do last year and they went to a strip club, he said he thinks its quite awkward/ cringey lol he could just be saying that of course because he thinks its the right thing to say but he is quite shy and quiet.. I could just see him being really embarrassed by it all lol either way I'm not bothered lol xx

He just laughs I've told him a million times. It's not I don't trust him cos i do I just hate the thought of a naked woman touching him! It's just pointless I mean what's the point of it! Ok if your single fine but when your not why would you even do it! Go home and get your girl to do it and get something at the end of it!! Grr sorry I'm going on a rant now lol. X

I don't think it would bother me just watching them cos I think it's just sad lol in a way they are getting played the girls do it cos they get paid you know..as for dance I know Jim wouldn't ever do it as it makes him uncomfortable ? he once went to a stag do and they had a stripper that showed everythinggggg!he came home scarred lol he said it just made him feel awkward cos he knew she weren't doing it cos she wanted to do it you know lol very sensitive my OH haha id say to your OH that you don't want him to have a private dance else he'll be on the sofa for weeks and won't be touching you!x

I've been to a strip club and Brough my oh a dance of one of the girls. It's something he hadn't done before an as I was there I didn't mind. I don't really care as long ass it's not a prostitute that he'll cheat on me with! If I wasn't comftoble he wouldn't do it same with me. We both trust each other xx

It would bother me massively, I'm quite jealous though so I don't think that helps. I imagine them to be absolute stunners but in actual fact when I've seen documentaries on strip clubs etc they aren't all that x

I can't they cringe me out lol xx

Wouldn't bother me the normal strip club. I know his been on lads nights out, I've also gone to watch the dream boys, which I don't see much difference. But a private dance is completely different in my opinion. Which I believe he wouldn't do X

It'd be a big no no for me. Play him at his own game and go see the wonder boys they are touring soon with Scotty t?