@ciara some things that children do are for a reaction. It's not guaranteed to work for your child or mine for that matter. But it's something we are trying. We have tried very stern no's and that hasn't made any difference. He used to gag himself and I'd react immediately. Once I stopped paying it any attention (I would make sure he was causing it and not actually choking) he stopped because I was no longer reacting.

I don't think ignoring hits are going to make them stop. Maybe a slap on the hand to catch her attention and let her know that it is not OK to be hitting. Show her how to be nice and gentle with her hands. Pretend to cry to show her that it hurts when she hits.

25 month old??? ? you can probably start saying he's 2 now. Lol

A newly 2 year old and an almost 3 year old (but still 2) are on different comprehension levels. Probably why she stated 25 months lol.

But it's hard to say for each kid. Some advice that I've gotten is to ignore the action (mainly hitting). If ds hits me I set him down or walk away from him. We just started this very recently. He only hits me, DH and my mom. Thankfully it's not an issue at school with other kids. There is also a good kids book called "hands are not for hitting". I've heard it's effective.

As far as throwing, that's a tough one for us too because my son is only 16 months and we've been teaching him to play catch. So it's hard to get him to understand you may throw balls but not toys. It's a work in progress.

When my kids were little I never bt them and and slap or spank but if the child bit me I would bite them back never causing marks never hard but enough to make them understand why I said not to.

This is something that works very well but you have to be very careful and know your child and know your self don't put your self in a position

I'm old fashion and I get the whole, "hitting them is teaching them hitting is okay." But sometimes, it takes being hit back for a child to understand that hitting actually hurts and to stop. That's why a lot of parents tell their kids to hit back when they're getting hit by other kids. I definitely wouldn't use full force or anything, but I've spanked my son for hitting.

A tap on the hand or legs won't kill him. But whatever you choose, be consistent.

Mine is the same way he's also pretty much the same age. I just continue talking to him firmly telling him no hitting and doing time outs. Time outs do work for us but for instance today I gave him 2 time outs for hitting in the matter of 10 mins. So I'm just trying to be consistent with it. I totally agree that hitting her to teach not to hit is confusing and it's something I would never do!!!
ETA just be patient and consistent with time outs and u have to remember it kind of comes with the age. Terrible twos lol