this is getting old. I'm so sick of my parents and their stupid drama. My mom will not allow me to have a relationship…

You need build boundaries with your mom & tell her to never talk about your father in her presence. Or you'll have pull ties from her. She has no business interfering with your relationship with father as your now a adult women.

That's absolutely horrible PP. Seriously why would anyone think that's ok?

Your mom sounds like the one with the problem... Sorry you're going through that, OP. ?

Lol that sounds like my mom. She wants me to have a relationship with him ON HER TERMS ONLY.

My mom is the same way with me, and for no other reason other than she holds a 25 year old grudge that she left him, he moved on and found happiness, and he sued and won joint custody. She, with a straight face, tells me that I need to tell my dad not to visit me. Uh..why would I do that?!

It's hard. I'm going to have to have a talk with her.

My parents have been divorced 13 years. My mom still gets pissy with me when I mention doing something with my dad & I hate it. She also likes to go off about how we see him so much more & it's unfair. My dad lives 3 hours away, she lives across the country...of course we see him more.

My mother never has anything nice to say about anyone, literally in our family. She has narcissistic personality disorder and it has successfully pitted people against each other and created nice wedges. I try and redirect her negative talk or just disregard it and keep trying to work on my relationships outside of her. It's frustrating when they try to always get in the middle.

Same boat. My parents recently split up in 2012, I was in the middle of my senior year & it was horrible for me. The day after Christmas my mom told us she was leaving our dad.

I can't have any kind of conversation about my dad to my mom, even if it's something so small she turned its into a bad thing. It drives me crazy.

Like my older sisters birthday just passed & she posted some old pictures of her & my dad. I was telling my mom it was cute & funny because my dad wanted a boy so bad (my sister was in a bunch of Cowboys football attire lol), & of course my mom says "well you didn't get to see the whole story. That day he got into it with your uncle & we had to leave." Like ok mom ?? stop. I can't stand it. My dad never bad mouths my mom but my mom can't stop bad mouthing my dad.

I'm 22 and no there's no real way she can stop me but she still tries. Yesterday I asked my dad to babysit this morning.

She texted me AT LEAST 25 times between 10pm and 6am. I stopped responding but she continued to send text after text. It. Was. Ridiculous. She also called my dad and harassed him, trying to convince him not to come.

Are you over 18 op? How can she stop you?

My parents divorced when I was 4. My dad was in and out of my life constantly. Never once did my mom or step dad bad mouth him in front of me.

I think she really sees him as a horrible person she's "protecting me" from. They have NEVER been happy. I've been asking them to get divorced since I was 6. She (basically) didn't want him to get visitation so she stayed with him.

I agree wholeheartedly with your final statement in the OP.

My parents never have anything nice to say about each other. They're still married and live in the same house but my mom set up a tent in the downstairs living room as her bedroom. She was using one of the bedrooms but my sister just moved back in with them so she gave up her room. When I was a teenager I just wished they would get divorced. They're both stubborn and won't talk to each other about anything, instead they complain to us about everything going we'll talk to the other one.

Wait, your parents are still married and she won't let you have a relationship with him?

Why?

Ugh my mom is the same way, it's so beyond annoying. Like they just expect you to cut off the other parent because of a divorce? It's ridiculous.

I just ignore my mom and continue to have a relationship with my dad. Not going to cut him out of my life just because they got divorced, nope.

I just think it's so rude and disrespectful.

And my parents are still married and live together so they're all up in each others business, lol.

How do you handle it PP?

My parents are divorced. I've heard them talk bad about each other my whole life. Sometimes I don't think they realize that they are doing it. So I know how you feel ?

I love my mom and I try really hard to respect her but when she talks badly about my dad I just want to tell her to eff off.

Gah I hate it when people use their kids like pawns.

I'm sorry, that's not fair or right for her to do that ?