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Why Did She Yell at the Baby to Be Quiet?

" She slammed her hands on the table and yelled at the baby to be quiet. The baby shut up, but the couple was outraged."
20.07.2015

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And hey, seriously, the child did not scream for 40 minutes. The diner owner was annoyed for 40 minutes. She cried as they finished their meal for a couple minutes.
And I don't care how amazing and attentive of a mother you are, your kid will cry sometimes.

They are part of society. Just like the elderly. Just like anyone with a disability. Just like rude, annoying a****** s. They're all out there. If you don't want to deal with the general public, that's on you. Not them.
It's time to treat children like they have value as a human instead of like they were a "life choice" for their parents to deal with. Or an inconvenience to your "experience." They are people. They are learning. Their parents are people too, also with value. And from what I've read, they were generally conscientious people at that.
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What is the snowflake thing?? I've seen it around and I don't know what it means.
Is it just thinking your child is unique or special or what?
Seems mean spirited.
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Sounds like I'll have to make a road trip to get some pancakes. Look, yelling at kids is bad. Not being a responsible adult and thinking of those around you because your precious little snowflake is screaming is worse. Her diner, her decision. They don't have to come back.
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This whole thing was weird. I think she got her undies in a bunch over their order or something and then just hated on everything they did afterwards.

For one, she said they ordered the food for the toddler. Then said that the parents ate the pancakes and "threw the baby scraps" on a "stupid little placemat they brought." I mean, obviously the food was for the whole table and they gave her small bites she could handle rather than slap a big pancake down and let her trash the place.
And then there's the fact that there was a torrential downpour happening. The 21 month old had been good for a solid hour, they're finishing up, she starts to fuss and then cry. I would not have stood in the street in the rain with the baby. I'd have finished up my food and gone.
Add on top of that the fact that other customers and the parents in their interview said the baby wasn't having a tantrum but just kind of crying for less than 5 minutes...

The owner was pissed off and overwhelmed that her grill was held up with their order and wanted them out. She heard the kid crying and fixated on that.
She sounds kind of miserable and mean.
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I was reading through the replies on Facebook, some of the people that were there responded and they said it wasn't 40 minutes it was 4 minutes. I don't know which is true but either way the owner should have approached the parents not yell at a 2 year old. No one is allowed to yell at my kids no matter their age.
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If the parents weren't doing anything then yell at them, if someone yelled at my child, I don't care what they were doing, I'd hit'm
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Getting in someone's face doesn't always mean literally in someone's face. I've seen plenty of women get into each other's face on this app. I believe the owner, honestly. If she was going to lie she wouldn't make herself out to look bad. However, nobody wants to be the parents that get called out for allowing their child to make a scene.

Regardless of the owners actions, there was a scene already in progress due to the parents allowing their child to scream. The owner just added to it. If I was the owner, after they asked "Are you really yelling at a toddler?" I would have responded "Are you really letting them act like that?" The parents were offended she acted that way, but they clearly didn't think of the other 100 people in the store at the time. They're inconsiderate.
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All I know is that if your child is doing that for 40 minutes then you're doing something wrong and I don't care what you say, you don't have a right to sit there and subject other people to it and then get mad when others get upset at you or your child. People nowadays wanna cry and get butthurt for everything and victimize themselves. The world is not a nice place. People need to embed this in their brain. Things will not always go how they want it to and that doesn't give them a reason to cry about it
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I love it when people accept a teachable moment with grace...

Personally, I appreciate when someone corrects my spelling... Saves me from looking stupid AND littering my arguments with improper spelling in the future.
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Holy.. cow! 40 whole minutes? Really? Id be pissed off too if the staff of a resturant yelled at my baby but clearly the parents shouldve handled it within 40 minutes so the owner wouldnt have had to.

After 40 seconds, id have smacked the owner if shed have made a scene like that but after 4 minutes, id have left the resturant or put the kid on the wall or spanked him or something. The child was disturbing the peace long before the owner did anything about it.

My kids throw tantrums nd arent perfect but i dont let it go on that long in public. Even if it means getting a box nd eating at home while the kid is sleeping or checking out my groceries halfway through the store. I get embarrassed nd leave.
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40 minutes? That's a long tantrum. My sons I don't think have ever lasted that long! Then again, he has only shown out a couple times in a restaurant. She could have handled it differently besides throwing a tantrum of her own though.
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Lol whew close call, now people will know what the entire conversation was about.
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Kosh I wanted to say that so bad.
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Just saying, you can slam your hands on any table that's five feet away. Did she specify if it was their table or not? Because like I said, there are more than just one table in the restaurant.
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Guys...

It's "hearsay."

Carry on.
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You used words like "claims and accusations" I think your having a communication problem because that's not concrete proof that either one of us knows what happened. Therefore it's HERE-SAY.

Were you the mother at the diner?

Either way when my children act disruptive I handle it without needing other people to get involved. If I chose to not care that day I think I would be ridiculous not to expect someone to speak up.
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I know people with a severely autistic child who refuse to let them act out in public. Parents shouldn't make the rest of the world at mercy at their child. IF 40 minutes went by, the parents were doing something wrong. There is no reason to let a child scream that long. Other people are trying to enjoy their day as well, in peace. I expect to hear an occasional misbehaving child when I go out, but 40 minutes is beyond crazy and just negligence on the parents part. There's no excuse for it.

The owner went over the top too. She should have calmly asked the parents to control their child or leave.

I'm so sick of kids being ridiculously disruptive in public today and parents acting like other people just need to "deal with it." No. You need to deal with your child. I know a lot of older people who say children acting that way was very very uncommon several years back.
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Well if someone posted it on her fb page it must be true. ?

Unless you were there it's here-say.
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All here-say, bottom line don't go back if your not satisfied with the service. This is not newsworthy, no one was hurt, feelings don't count. I'm sure the 2yr old will move on from this.
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Both the parents and owner were at fault.
Owner for being unprofessional and yelling towards or at a toddler and the parents for not dealing with a screaming toddler.
The owners Facebook rant calling the child a beast, a demon and saying the child was something along the lines of a bad kid was uncalled for and wrong, that she should apologise for. A 2 year old will have meltdowns or cry, it happens, not their fault.
Either way hopefully the toddler got some pancakes.
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So I'll stand alone on this but I think what she did was fine. It takes a village and if my kid was being ignored by me and disrupting others and that lady got her to stop screaming id totally get it.

She wasn't vulgar just loud. Parents these days are too sensitive to everything. When I was a kid, other people had no problem telling kids not their own when they were out of line, these days you might get sued. ?
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She shouldn't have done that at all, went so far past the line, the line is a dot to her.
But parents should learn to control their kids better. If it's misbehaving or crying uncontrollably, take it somewhere private as to not disrupt everyone else's peaceful day. I'd be mortified if my child was screaming & crying uncontrollably in public.
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downtherabbithole
downtherabbithole
I agree with you @pumpkin

I think both parties failed.
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downtherabbithole
downtherabbithole
I looked it up on YouTube and posted the link in the op. Wow...
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I thought she yelled "this has to stop", while slamming her hands down.

I think the proper way to handle that situation would be to talk to the parents. She over stepped her bounds.
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