Every month ... Every month my ttc mind tricks me into thinking I feel bloated, have light cramps and sore boobs. Every…

:-( I know that's what everyone is going to tell me, but it's not what I want to hear.

Spotting started today so af is on her way. I am not even kidding myself this month that it might be ib!

We've got an RE consult booked for July 12.

You may be best off saving yourself all the heartache and hassle and just going straight to ivf with icsi. I think they can do amazing things with icsi and it sounds like you've got plenty of sperm for that to work!

Yes. I hope to. I'm curious how supportive the Drs will be. DH's count is so low (2.8 million) that I'm sure they'll tell me it won't work. I'd like to try an unmedicated iui, but they might laugh at me!

Me too! I'm hoping to try 1 course of iui first but not sure what our chances are, so will discuss this with the clinic when I have my appointment with them. It's all so expensive though, so trying my best to spend wisely!

Do you think you will try iui too?

Hi Sharon. I'm sure they'll tell us ivf with icsi is our only chance too. I'm hoping to try some less invasive methods first though... :-/

Wow that's quite a distance for you to travel to the RE clinic. It'll be worth it though, I'd it all works for you ?

Hi Laura, my name's Sharon. I'm 34, in London in the UK. Been ttc#1 for 20 months now. So far it's unexplained infertility. All my tests came back fine and DH's SA was fine too. Next step is to be referred for IVF. I'm hoping it won't be necessary, but being realistic, I know it will be.

I've forgotten what life is like, when ttc wasn't all I thought about every waking hour!

Where are you located?

How long have you been trying?

Name, age, diagnosis?

:-)

I'm in Wisconsin. Been trying 10 months. My name is Laura and I'm 34. We are dealing with severe MFI.

I have a DD, who is 11 from a previous relationship, but DH has no bio children.

No appt set yet. :-(

We got referred to 2 different REs. One from my obgyn and one from his urologist. Our insurance doesn't cover anything so we're free to choose any clinic. So we're currently researching. We've got 4 we are considering... And DH wants to ask his friend who used ivf where they went. The RE I like the best is 3.5 hours away. :-/

Lillass - me too! I do that every month, even though I know how it's all going to end! Have appointment to be referred for ivf at start of August and am also excited to start things moving. When are you due to meet with your doctors?

wanta I gave spotting before af too and it is super confusing. I usually try to hope it's ib even though I know it means af is coming. :-(

The thing that has helped me get less anxious each month is knowing of our MFI. I know there is a next to nil chance so I've kinda given up on natural. Can't wait to meet with the docs and see what our options are!

When your ttc your just more in tune w your body. Pms mimics pregnancy symptoms. So what your experiencing is pms. Agree stop thinking about it if you can and just assume AF is on her way. If she doesn't show, bonus.

It's that time again!

Had very light brown spotting Friday and Saturday (7 & 8 DPO) and it seems to have stopped. I get my hopes up because my spotting started a day early and isn't anywhere near as heavy as normal. Then I remember I had my HSG his cycle so it's probably changed my cycle a little.

Have zero symptoms (even though my imagination is working as hard as possible to try to invent some) and keep asking myself "What is the most likely outcome of this situation?". Answer : AF on Thursday. Possibly heavier than normal because of the HSG!!

AF was super mean this month and came on Wednesday instead. One day damn late. Spotting had almost gone and i was getting my hopes up more than normal,then ... bam. AF arrived. CD3 now and feeling better now that I'm in (yet another) new cycle. What cd are you on?

Have just bought TCOYF and going to start temping when my thermometer arrives, as have convinced myself that I have a luteal phase defect, because of the spotting. Always use opks but they're clearly not helping!

Do you temp etc already?

15 months what cd are u on? Did af come in tues?

Wow nin that's amazing! I am relaxed for most of the moth, it's just those days before and during af that things get to me.

Only 19 months but it feels like forever. How about you?

Am waiting for my hsg appointment letter and then it's onto IVF. Dh has been tested and all ok and my b/w and u/s were all ok too, so it's 'unexplained infertility' so far.

How long have u been ttc?

Congratulations nin! Very pleased for you that your wish has come true. ?

Have tried that approach for a couple of cycles, when we were due to go on holiday the month after. Got my hopes up so much, that i would fall pregnant anyway and got very upset when i didn't. We had a lovely holiday but I'd have given everything to have had morning sickness the whole way through it! God I never thought I would want to be sick so bad!!

Tamtam-I know! I spent around 17 years of my life thinking that I could get pregnant at any time of the month, after just having sex once-using two forms of contraception at all times and now this...!

Sherbiecat-I'm doing exactly that right now! I'm not having the usual pre-AF ewcm that I usually have, so I could be pregnant. As if!!!!

Am currently waiting for AF to arrive (coming Tuesday) and trying my best to convince myself that, just because my pre-AF spottng is far lighter this month DOES NOT MEAN THAT I AM PREGNANT!!!!! ?

I know this may sound stupid, or that you've heard it before. But honestly the sooner you stop thinking and obcessing about it the sooner it will happen. I have been ttc for just about 6 years now. Doing everything I could to get pregnant. Med keeping track of every lil thing. And nothing ever happened. So i finally just said Im done if it happens it happens. Im not going to keep killing myself thinking about it every min of every day. And a month later Im pregnant. I have my first apt on the 4. I hope that this can help u in some way. Fx and baby dust for u. I know exactly what u are going through.

Omg u sound exactly like me. Last week was the worst ever. I was convinced even tho I tested negative 2 days b4 AF. :( last month I had NO pms symptoms which is very unusual for me. So I was convinced I must be preg :( but no.

Me too! I keep thinking i might scare myself into a hysterical

Pregnancy or something lol. Oh ... And it's so silly all the years I was scared of a bfn now I'm wishing I'd had an "accident" oh how things change.