(Some) Gender disappointment
I feel horrible for feeling like this but my SO and I had our hearts set on a girl and found out yesterday we're having a boy. He has 3 boys and this is my first and very possibly my last. I think my disappointment is mostly because I know how bad he wants a daughter but he's having another boy ? I also really had my heart set on a daughter I could never really picture a son. So when they told us it was a boy I did feel a bit sad ? I love my son to death and as long as he's healthy I am happy so I don't know why I feel like this ☹️
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This is so common with all kinds of different parents. I definitely wanted a daughter and could never find out in my 1st pregnancy (she was never in a convenient position to tell). I was so disappointed I didn't get to find out. This time it's my 2nd and last pregnancy and all I want is to find out. I won't be satisfied unless I do!
@twix omg if I never have a daughter and my sons do that will be the most spoiled little girl ever ????
@kelly that's how I'm feeling ? this is my first child but my SOs 4th so it might be my last. He said he'd be happy to have another kid and he knows I'll probably want another. I'd just feel bad because I know it's already hard on him ? but I really want the experience of having a daughter. Hopefully one day you get your son and I get a daughter!
@luna awww that sounds like how my daughter would be if I were to have one haha. I'm not girly at all! My SO and I were already talking about how she'd mostly be in black and red ?? so I guess it's probably a good thing we ended up with a boy! I'm starting to get over the disappointment I'm just happy he's healthy!
@leeitah awwww I'm so sorry for your little boy you lost! But congratulations on your baby girl! And that's how I'm trying to look at it, I was never even supposed to have kids because I have so many ovary problems. So just being pregnant is a blessing. And hopefully there will be a next time for us!
@loved That's how I'm feeling too!! I just had this whole idea of how it'd be having a little mini me and I got so set on having a girl I didn't even think about having a boy. But you're right the disappointment will go away! Either way that's my child and they'll be my little buddy regardless of what sex they are
It's totally normal! Especially if u have all the same gender. I felt so disappointment when we were told 3rd girl with my last. At that time we thought we were done having kids. And it was that thought I would never have a son. Now here we are #4 I'm still praying for that boy, but have come to terms with probably having four girls. Don't feel guilty about this feeling, ull forget u ever felt this way once they are here!
With my first, I was convinced it was a boy. Right up until the ultrasound. Girl. I'm, by no means, a very girly girl. But she came, she's perfect, and we get along just great. She wears less pink than other girls her age (we love purple), her hair isn't fixed most days (she pulls it down within 5 minutes), and she's content looking at books with me or playing with cars, tea sets and yes, dolls too.... You adapt. I've had so much fun being a girl mom, that this time around, it truly wouldn't upset me a bit to have another girl. Bonus, she's pretty chill. She has her days that can be rough, but the stereotypes of "girls are drama" isn't always true. I hope you come to terms with having your boy, and that it's more wonderful than you even expected.
I have 3 boys. I found out my last pregnancy was a boy and was upset because that was supposed to be my last baby and I really thought I was having a girl. At 14 weeks in April, I lost him. I was so mad at myself. Now I'm 14 weeks and I'm having a girl. We are over the moon excited. This is what I've always wanted, but I just can't help but think sometimes how life would be if I would have ended up with all 4 of my boys. There really is a special bond between mother and son, unlike any other. Congrats mama on your healthy little boy. You'll be well taken care of for years to come.❤️
For some reason I feel like whenever people are disappointed about the gender, it's because they are having a boy. My first pregnancy I was SURE he was a boy, and I still felt a little disappointed because a girl to dress up and be my little buddy sounded so fun. But I have to say after having a boy, I wouldn't mind a house full of boys! He looks just like his dad, which I love. He is way more mellow and not emotional like girls his age. He is the sweetest kid and he's just my little buddy that does everything with me! He loves trucks and bugs and I don't, but I love that he loves them!
I guess my point is it's fine that you're feeling disappointed now, but don't dwell on it. I promise this kid will still be the best thing to ever happen to you. :)
And that's what my mom said! ? she knew I was kinda bummed and she was like, "Hey, at least you won't have to pay for his wedding!"
@holly that's what worries me ? I have no idea about things like skateboards or sports or any of that ☹️ I feel like I won't know how to raise a boy. But that doesn't sound very cute! That's probably how my son will be dressed as well haha
Totally normal. Sorry girl ? With my boy I have learned to just soak up his boyhood! Like I have showed him how to stand and balance himself on a skateboard and teaching how to swim or ride on his swivel car like a crazy person! Everyone always compliments how he is dressed because even from the moment he was born I always had him in cute clothes, beanies, hats (zack and Winn have the cutest) I put him in skinny jeans and a nice Hurley shirt. I figure if I never get my girl it's ok! I have fun soaking up boys! You will love it! Later in life he will play pranks on you and extra bonus is you won't have to pay for a wedding!!!! ???
@payson I'm happy I'm not the only one haha I just feel so bad for feeling like this ☹️
@mireya omg I would lose my mind if I couldn't find out ? hopefully this baby is more cooperative!! My son was also being very stubborn yesterday ?