I'm so annoyed! Dd birthday party is on Sunday. We are having it at her gymnastics gym because they have bounce houses…

Crazy batch!

I'd be pissed! I'm pissed that my cousin invited her parents to my son's bday party tomorrow. No one should invite extras, ever. It's rude and you are the bad guy no matter what you do. I'm never inviting my cousin to a party again. My aunt is a facking loon and I didn't invite her for a reason!!!

My dad did this to me on my daughter's bday. I was pissed!!! It all ended up working out though. It meant more presents for her so she was happy and that's all that matters. Hope everything goes good!

Yeah if my SO wasn't telling his mom how it is, I would do it and not so nicely.

Don't let him pay, if you cannot afford it then don't make yourself struggle later on when that money is needed.

He feels like he needs to just pay for the extra family members. His mom is very manipulating and if he tells her to uninvite these people she would turn around and put the blame on us and make people feel like she was doing a good thing and we must not like them or something. She very much likes to play the victim.

What does your husband say?

Yea I would just tell her if shes wants to invite more people she can pay for them..

Ughhh this is so frustrating!!

I would tell the truth, what if she finds out you lied. Lol that would be awkward

You don't need an excuse, she went against your wishes and now she needs to deal with it. I'd tell her "sorry, its invitation only" and let her deal with the consequences of her mouth. Make her feel embarrassed so she doesn't do it again.

I would tell her the truth. I don’t hold back or sugar coat anything for anyone. Tell her that they aren’t invited plain and simple unless she pay for them. I wouldn’t feel right with them paying with their money so either she pay or uninvite them. She can choose whatever.

I texted her I'm sure she won't respond until tomorrow since it's late here.

Oh no. Tell her it is not in your budget and if she really wants all those extra people there that she has to pay all those extra expenses you didn't account for. Give her a break down of the expenses and if she doesn't want to pay then tell her to go open that mouth of hers again and uninvite them.

Yeah. Tell her that and that thats why you didn’t invite everyone -because you simply couldn’t.

Do it!

I'm going to text her and ask her who all did she invite because the gym can only hold so many people in the lobby due to fire codes and when she tells me I'll lie and make up a number. She will never know and it seems like a legit excuse right?

I'd ask the gym if they'll only allow those with an invitation in. Then I'd tell MIL she needs to tell those that she invited that they can't come because they won't have an invitation like the gym "requires". Why would she even think that it's appropriate to invite people you don't even know to your kids birthday party? I'd be upset about that for sure.

No way!! Our budget is our budget and that’s it. If my husband wouldn’t handle it I’d call mil and let her know I’m going to send her an email breaking down the costs that we’d be needing from her for her extra guests and when we needed it by. I’m not going to take all that extra money from my family to accommodate mil’s thoughtlessness over a child’s birthday party. Ugh ? I’m so annoyed for you.

He needs to tell her its not okay or she’ll keep pulling stuff like this because she knows she can.

I’d tell her she needs to let them know she made a mistake inviting them because the venue has a limit and she didn’t know or fork over the extra money.

@steph did anyone you didn't invite actually show up?

My SO is not one for confrontation and he said he's just going to pay the difference. I'm just pissed because she knew what she was doing. I told him I don't want her church friends to come because I don't even know these people.

MIL pulled this on me too once. I said invite entrance only and her guests had to be uninvited.

That freaking annoying I'm sorry OP this is something my mil would do. Tell her she can pay for the people she invited because you are NOT going too.

She way over stepped on this. I hope your dh atleast told her he was upset she did it.

@kathy no she actually invited 2 of her church buddies as well who I don't know.

It's not like she invited one or two more people we are talking 8 more adults and 3 more kids than planned. I just looked online and it says for each kid after the 10 max it's an extra $15 so that's $45 more on top of the $215 it was to rent the place for 2 hours.

You have every right to be! I would let her know she needs to explain and uninvite them or pay for those she invited!

I would be livid. Is her wallet going to pay for the damages her mouth did?? She knew what she was doing.