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Amber Strader
koshadillz
Amber Strader·Мама двоих (7 лет, 10 лет)
my son hates me....

I feel like my son hates me. He's 3 and about 3 weeks ago he started telling me he wants his daddy. Whom has visitation on the first, third and fifth weekend of every month. I was happy he wanted to see his daddy and that they're building a bond. But now he hates me. He tell me he doesn't like me and that he likes daddy, and that he doesn't like Mommy's house. All he talks about is his dad(which I don't mind) but I do mind him telling me how much he dislikes me. I love my son more than the world itself and I try to be the best I can be for him, but for some reason he just doesn't like me anymore. For example, we went to the zoo today and walked the entire zoo. And once we got in the car I asked if he had fun with Mommy and he said no. Then after he woke up from a nap on the ride home the first thing out of his mouth is that,"he can't see mommy and that he doesn't want mommy house" . I don't know what to Do. It's breaking my heart. No matter what I try and do for him(within reason) to make him like me, he just doesn't..... Is it just me or is it because hes a toddler? I read online that toddlers have a hard time being attached to more than one person. But my son LOVES his nanny, and grandma, and daddy. Everyone but me.... Sorry if the post is everywhere but I'm just at such a loss..
13.10.2017

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I agree with the women here, I think its a phase and perhaps something dad is trying to convince him of, especially talking about not liking your house, that sounds like something being told to him. Just know he does love you and will get passed this keep your head up
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Oh hun, I'm sure that's heartbreaking for you! Hugs, I hope things get better soon!
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koshadillz
Amber Strader·Мама двоих (7 лет, 10 лет)
His father is a very abusive person. Both physically and mentally.. I've had numerous restraining orders on him protecting my son and myself. And after many many times of him violating those and going to jail numerous times. We finally went to family court and I fought for custody and he was awarded time with our son. So we get along ok on the surface but he literally scares the shat out of me otherwise. So our relationship is ok as of right now as long as he and I just act like the past never happened
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I also agree with pp. How is your relationship with his dad? At his age, the things his daddy says about you would have a big impression on him. My little sister went through a similar stage around 3-4 when my dad was telling her things to make her feel ill to my mom... I hope that is not the case for your DS!! It is always awful when the parents use the kiddos against the other parent.
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If his dad lets him do whatever he wants that could be a big reason why he’s saying those things. Also how’s your relationship with his dad? Could he be feeding him negative ideas about you out of spite?
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I think that's what it is. That is similar to how my nephew acted. My mil basically is raising him but when he was smaller my sil would come and take him and when he came back he would say he didn't love my mil and would be so disrespectful.
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koshadillz
Amber Strader·Мама двоих (7 лет, 10 лет)
That could be. His dad wasn't involved for a while and I think he feels like making up for his time by giving my son everything he wants
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It would be b/c there's more structured in your home and when he spends time with his dad he gets to do whatever he wants and there's no rules or consequences?

Just know he does love you and his provably going through a faces.
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