You know when you tell someone you’re pregnant and then they go into a long story about how they CANT get pregnant!? 😣 That’s extremely sad and I’m very sorry for you! In fact I know how that feels! But what am I supposed to do! It throws me off guard and I don’t know whether to hide my pregnancy from you or feel I’m rubbing it in your face by telling you 😫 it’s a horrible situation for both of us. I can’t just say I’m sorry I’m pregnant? I don’t feel that way!
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I had a coworker that would ask me about my pregnancy and then cry all day long every time she saw me and tell me about how she miscarried the one time she was able to get pregnant and then she would say that she couldn't wait for the world to end to meet her angel baby... I was always like well I'm sorry that you feel that way but I personally want to see my children grow up, so I don't really want to hear that. I felt heartless but I finally told her not to ask about my daughter or soon to be son anymore because it caused her too much stress and I really just didn't want so much negativity surrounding my pregnancy at work.
@yayacarrington, yes that’s great advice thank you
If it's someone you're close to then I think you should have an honest conversation with her about it. I don't think you should hide your pregnancy, but you may need to be considerate about how much you mention it around her. Or she may need to separate herself from you entirely for a while. Infertility is such a hard road and not everyone handles it the same way.
@angelfoodcake, that makes a lot of sense the venting thing. I do encourage it because I was in the same position before this pregnancy I’m not rude I just feel a bit awkward. I always spend time to talk with them about it. And I’m sorry for your loss
Maybe they are not looking for you to do something about it , or even to make you feel bad... I think it's more so of a trigger subject for them, and makes them think about it, and vent. It could also be a opportunity for you to encourage them as well. Not trying to be mean or disrespectful, just stating my opinion in a kind way, I hope. And obviously you have some sensitivity in your heart to think more of it... It actually happened to me from a nurse, I felt so bad she had been trying for 20 years. I ended up losing the baby btw. But yeah I felt bad for her.
I know exactly what you mean! My mom is one of these people! Except she only tortured me, like I wasn't supposed to be excited about my pregnancies because she became unable to have more kids after me. I honestly feel like those who are truly struggling to get pregnant won't say things like this, I feel like those who do are just looking for pity and trying to rain on your parade, it's bullshit and childish.
That's true sometimes I mean women's that can't get pregnant or they having trouble getting pregnant and sometimes I just share with them the times that I struggle and I didn't think that I can become pregnant but it happened in God's timing I was at my daughter's School talking to her assistant principal and one of the ladies at the front of the desk as she Didn't Know I Was Pregnant and I told her I'm 7 months and she asked me how many children had I said it's my 5th one and she said God bless you like in a funny way and I told her I thank God for blessing my womb to Bear children to have children because some women can and she didn't say anything else and the other lady next to her said that you right some people SMH
The awkward feeling is definitely understandable.
When I told one of my managers about being pregnant she told me about how she had lost a child. I don’t know what that feels like, but I do feel for her. I worked with her my entire pregnancy, and she would sometimes ask about the baby while I was pregnant, but after I had my daughter.. she’s the only one who wouldn’t hold her. She refused.
My daughter was 2 months, almost 3, when I brought her to my job for the first time.