I used the shower a lot! It helped so much with the pain. As well as bouncing on an exercise ball, positioning, and having someone do counter pressure and massage on my back.

As for the tearing I did perineal stretching using coconut oil starting about a month before delivery. I did it 2-3x a week in the shower. If you google it, it will give you instructions. I swear by it because I didn't tear at all.

@hippiemummy, i didn’t lol. I just listened to my body honestly. I didn’t scream at all until the last few pushes. Which is absolutely normal. Who cares how loud you scream. You’re doing something miraculous. Scream as loud as you need lol

staying out of bed helped a lot

Im doing natural this time around and water birth. Im so nervous!

Girl I never practiced and I did great all 4 times. Your body knows what to do. You will do great.

I seriously screamed my head off and didn’t give a fuck 😂
It’s all about breathing through the contractions!!

@sammymclaughlin77

Did you do any practice breathing to prepare for labor? I'm afraid I'll be in the moment and forget what to do . Even with my epidural I had a panic attack with my last and ended up needing oxygen

I had both my children naturally. Honestly breathing and moving work best for me. I did stay in the shower for the last hour of labor with my daughter and only got out when it was time to push. Focusing on my breaths and the warm water was great. I didn’t tear with either. My midwife coached me while I pushed with my second though

I would love a water birth but I'm not sure if it will be an option at my hospital

Not that I’ve tried it, but I hear natural and water birth are supposed to be perfect together! My coworker had two natural water births and she only tore slightly with one. Maybe it’s great for relaxing!