Hey moms! So I really need some feedback on this personal situation. I’m 24 mother of 3.. My fiancé just got a new job…

It’s totally acceptable for you to be offended by that, because stay at home mothers are under huge amounts of stress because they’re expected to do the cliché of take care of the kid, clean house, cook, etc. There’s a lot more behind the scenes it’s not just sitting on the couch all day watching TV.

@thequeen, thanks thats exactly what I was trying to get her to understand

Honestly, you shouldn’t need to explain yourself. Do whatever makes you happy!

Girl it’s your life she’s just being a hater cause her ass has to work and she can’t be supported by her man..

@thequeen, your definitely right, I think it was more so offensive because what I took as good news she thought was dumb just didn’t expect that reaction

She must not understand because she does not have kid's...

@redheaded_inkednurse, yes she’s definitely a independent women by all means so I totally understand her point but saying that stay at home moms are doing nothing was just irritating kinda lol

@loving_the_mommy_life, yeah she just stated that a women should have her own and not depend on a man for anything such as bringing home the money, but he’s my fiancé not just some random guy we’ve been together 3 1/2 years but I kinda get what she means

@jennrudy2016, my sister said the same thing but it’s crazy cause you’d expect for your best friend of 11 years to be happy or more understanding but hey oh well

I would be super offended. It's not even her business anyway.. She's not the one being a stay at home mother.

@rikki., right I told her because I actually was happy lol I been working since the age of 16 & now with 3 kids it’s like everyday is a new adventure getting to have my fiancé say baby just stay at home and take care of the kids and house I was ecstatic

I'm "THAT" SAHM that judges people that think being a SAHM is dumb.. It's still a job! One that never ends. Our breaks are short. Our hours, very long. We don't get to negotiate days off. Do what makes you happy!

@mississippi.mama, you said it all mom it’s a job that I’d do a thousand times over every time if given the chance

@redheaded_inkednurse, your right I’m not one yet and gessh when I get home from work it’s like I’m going right back to work not complaining but I definitely can’t wait to be able to spend more time with my girls cause we’re both always working long hours & barely get any family time

I think your right for being offended cause I’m offended by what she said and it wasn’t even said to me. I hate when people down play what a stay at home mother does. Like yes I do sit on my ass and watch tv you damn right but that’s after I’ve cleaned and cooked and did laundry and still taking care of my child. Being a stay at home mom isn’t for everyone but if you feel it’s something you’d wanna do then why not do it. Not all mothers are as lucky to be able to have a man that can provide while they can be home with their kids I’m very grateful for that and that’s why I’m a stay at home mom. Haters are gonna hate and she don’t got no kids when she does tell her to come back and say that. And there’s nothing wrong about a women having her own and not being dependent on a man but you know your man and you know your relationship and you do what works for you.

Honestly being a stay at home is one of the things that doesnt get much praise you just get the "oh your a stay at home" when people ask what you do. I'm 19 and currently a stay at home mom and some days are good and some days are rough. You have your kids literally 24\7. You don't get a break even sick you take care of them and the house. Its rewarding as well never missing a milestone and watching them develop into their own person everyday I wouldn't trade this job for anything

@parismommmy, thank you so much for that, I totally agree I just hate that because she’s been hurt by men she’s stereotypes all men. I’ve been hurt as well but I found him and finally understands what love actually feels like.. ik she doesn’t understand not being a mom but it didn’t give her any room to say being a stay at home mom was dumb

@mommytotheo, thank you, and that’s what I think makes me so happy about it because right now I work long hours and I kinda feel that I’m missing so much. I just have to not be so expecting everyone to be happy for my decision but oh well it’s my life my family and I’m definitely going to embrace it all

@alexisblocked2018, one thing I learned is people ain’t gonna understand till they in your shoes. She ain’t gonna get it till she has kids and has found a good man to treat her good and show her that he’s capable of providing for her and the kids that she can enjoy being home with the kids. You don’t gotta explain yourself to her about your choices. I’d just say hey I know you won’t get it till your a mom so I’m not gonna explain myself it but it did hurt my feelings that you’d judge me on a choice I’m making and not being supportive

@alexisblocked2018, oh no girl there are no true friends out there I had one for 16 years and once I became pregnant where was she no where to be found she forgot who I was

@parismommmy, that’s exact how I felt about her reaction & I’m definitely going to express how I felt because we’ve been friends for 11 years I just wasn’t expecting her to react in the way she did

@jennrudy2016, yeah she kinda always saying in a sarcastic way that she know I wish I would’ve waited to have kids because I’m not able to do everything with them anymore but I don’t at all.. my kids were honestly the best thing to happen to my life..

@alexisblocked2018, wth tell her what does she expect you to do now that you have kids.. jump off a cliff .. wtf .. you can tell she’s a selfish ass friend who only thinks about herself and now a true friend who loves you or your kids..