just gave my son a pacifier for the first time. i feel terrible. i really wanted to wait til hes 1mo but i cant wait…

@lavender13, They don’t start fighting sleep until like 10 months and up. Maybe try soothing sounds, my daughter likes rain noise.

@lavender13 if you want to track his feeding, diaper changes, and sleep time I use an app called baby tracker

@lavender13 I just had his 4-month appointment and I have to feed him every two hours(4oz) because pediatrician says he's missing feeding throughout the night because he sleeps for like 5-7 before waking up to eat so he eats about 28-30 oz a day

@kmason17, im a big sleeper myself so i think that’s what it is at times. how many oz of breast milk u give him?

@lavender13 yeah we had to get readmitted to the hospital it cleared tho but think he just likes to sleep lol but he use to use me as a pacifier as well so I would just pump and give him a bottle... I can say taking care of a baby is tuff and tiring but its so amazing watching them grow which is fast !!

@kmason17, i’ve started trying to. i want to get into the habit of it so i can stop breastfeeding

@kmason17, my dr said his jaundice cleared up. i think now he just sees me as a pacifier mostly. he starts dozing after like 5min. i just give him formula so i know he’s eating

@lavender13 do you pump as well?

@lavender13 my son had jaundice so it was hard feeding him because all he did was sleep for the first month and a half

@kmason17, my son usually just falls asleep breastfeeding n doesn’t eat much even with me constantly waking him. i may just try doing 3oz before breastfeeding n see if it helps

They say 10 to 15 mins every hour to 2 hours on the breast I guess depending on how much your producing... I hate not knowing how much they are getting when breastfeeding...but when my son was 2 months I was giving 4 oz every 2 to 3 hours which I felt he was satisfied but I was told to go back down to 2 to 2.5 every 1 to 2 hours...which all babies are different I have a friend that has a baby three days older than my son and at 3 months my son was only taking 3 to 4 oz and her son was taking 5 to 6 oz

@kmason17, im really not sure how much he should have. i start with 2oz then breastfeed 10-15min. he’s usually still fussy so after an hour i give 1.5 then 1 another hour later if he’s still awake

@lavender13 its tuff how much does he eat ?

@kmason17, that’s a good idea. i just haven’t been in a motherly mood. constantly on edge and tense.

My baby fought his sleep around 1 to 2 months I would sing a song that I would sing to him when he was in my belly and he would go to sleep

She also liked when I lightly pat her butt or back, or rub her back gently

@lavender13, They don’t start fighting sleep until like 10 months and up. Maybe try soothing sounds, my daughter likes rain noise.

@sunflowerfields, i’ve given him gripe water a few times. just half the dose though cause hes a little young for it. i think he really just fights sleep

@lavender13, sounds like colic yeah. Try the colic medicine and see if he’s more comfortable

@sunflowerfields, i give formula as well. more afraid that im feeding him too much sometimes. could be gas though

@lavender13, Ate you sure it’s not gas he’s having ? Or maybe not producing enough milk? Call your pediatrician to be sure. Sometimes it could be something else.

@sunflowerfields, it’s just me him n my cat. i mostly stay in my bedroom. i feel like im just feeding him till he’s asleep throughout the day. he only stops crying to sleep n eat. i really don’t want to hold him as much cause then he’s just screaming in my ear and i want distance to cry alone. im used to being able to breakdown whenever. have a drink or cigarette or other bad coping skills. now i just try to dissociate

When I see this I get worried that a mom will get depression because it happened to me. I was alone most of the time because my husband worked all day was exhausted too. You will get anxious the first couple of times but you have to let him go from bit so you can breathe and calm down. Even if it’s an hour. New babies need to be held a lot so I recommend this because it helped me a lot to not cry every day. I strapped her to my chest and did whatever it is I had to do. Every time my husband came home she was asleep in my arms or asleep in the carrier. Until she was two months I didn’t have to do this. I was able to put her in her bouncer and as long as she seen me she was fine.

@theinkedmommy, yeah he usually uses me as a pacifier n so he doesn’t eat well being breastfed. i just feel bad passing the burden to someone else. i got myself into this n just feel i have to take responsibility

@lavender13, I didn’t have a breast fed baby, but he may just prefer your real nipple to be a paci. A break will certainly help you, I promise. Leave him in the care of someone you trust 100% and take a break. Doing it all by yourself will make you go batshit crazy, it’s happened to me. You’d be amazed at what a good nights rest/time away (even if it’s an hour) can do for you physically, mentally and emotionally.

@theinkedmommy, i breastfeed him and do formula. mostly formula cause i haven’t wanted to be close that much lately. people offer but i don’t think a break would help. id just be anxious about having to go back to him.

@lavender13, It takes a village, mama. Can anyone help you sometime so you can rest? I found that my daughter didn’t like certain paci brands. He may just not like the brand you’re using. Is he breastfed?

he just spits it out😭