realtreegirl131789
Crystal Darnell
Ok so last night me and my husband and our kids were at my in laws. My daughter was throwing a major fit. She was kicking and slapping her daddy. Well my fil doesn't like my daughter being disciplined at all. He thinks that a tap on the butt is beating. Well my husband tapped our daughter on the butt to calm her down and his dad drew his fist back as if he was going to punch my husband. Fortunately my husband had his back turned so he didn't see his dad draw his fist back. His dad says just because my daughter is his granddaughter that she doesn't need to be disciplined. He has spoiled her so bad to the point that she doesn't listen to me or her daddy. She will scream at us when we ask her not to do something and when she wants something sweet like a cake or candy before she eats her food first and if we tell her no she throws a fit and screams at us and my fil says it's ok if she eats something sweet first right after me and her daddy said no. We have told her that if she doesn't stop that she will not spend the night with him anymore but that doesn't help. I don't know what else to do. It's just to the point that nothing at all works.
6.2 лет
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Grandparents need to take a seat and allow the parents to discipline the children as they see fit or the children will not be visiting the grandparents.
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@realtreegirl131789, then be just as stubborn back. If it doesn’t work then at least u did your part to try. But if continue disciplining infornt of him. That or when I get home with my kid teach them to not listen to him when he says the opposite of you. Time outs and home. Take away toys. I’m psycho 😂
@kaylaxxxxx I have told him many times that if he doesn't start respecting my decisions then him seeing her will be over but that didn't work.
@ashtonndamon, don’t feel bad mine live maybe 8 mins away and never ever stop over. But my dad will park infornt of my house for work. (He’s a student driver teacher)
@kaylaxxxxx My fil is so damn stubborn that I doubt if telling him that would work.
@kaylaxxxxx hell I live with my parents and they dont barely see him
@realtreegirl131789, then I’d say looks like I’ll only see you for holidays/birthdays since you don’t want to listen. Just because they’re grandparents doesn’t mean they automatically have privileges to see your children.
Going off of what@kaylaxxxxx. Was saying its not just a power trip like its my kid ny rules. No im trying to raise a decent person. If she grows up to be a brat and doesnt knoe what no is thats going to reflect on me not you. Let me teach her my way.
@kaylaxxxxx Exactly. We have told my fil so many times that we are the parents and if we say no then it means no but he won't listen at all.
@realtreegirl131789, my mother in law babysits one of the grand daughters all the time (not mine) and she’s a god damn demon! Because she’s constantly babying her. No way my child will be like that. Personally she can get out of my daughters life if she’s trying to over step my parenting. When momma says no then it’s firm straight no. You just have to make it well known you don’t play games and mean business. If come off rude then who cares. Youre trying to raise a decent person.
@kaylaxxxxx Amen girl. Everytime we discipline my daughter and she cries, my fil always says come here honey and starts petting and loving on her and I think that just shows her that it's ok.
@lovelily Exactly! We decided that we were going to send our boys to spend the night with the grandparents but keep our daughter home and my fil said that wouldn't be right and that she would notice that the boys are gone and she would get upset. I told my husband that it would be good and maybe then she might actually stop all the fits .
I feel you. My mother in law is like this. I know through my nieces and nephews over the years. She will give them whatever they want and baby them when they are getting yelled at. I’ve got into it with her numerous times over me yelling at a kid for breaking my shit. BUT now that I have my own and when the day comes where I’ll discipline my daughter and she’s there I’ll either tell her to get out of my house or deal with it. I don’t play when it comes my child.
Grandparents need to take a seat and allow the parents to discipline the children as they see fit or the children will not be visiting the grandparents.