I’ve been with my SO for 4 yrs now, we started living together early in our relationship (3 months in) I had moved to a…
I’ve been with my SO for 4 yrs now, we started living together early in our relationship (3 months in) I had moved to a different state during that time to be with him and have taken in his 2 Kids from a prior marriage like my own and we now have a baby together. We manage to co-parent well with his ex and things somewhat are always in good standing. But I feel like I have always gone above and beyond for him and his kids and feel like something’s missing. I know we are happy and good right now but I want more.... I would want to marry my SO and I feel like we are ready for it but he hasn’t popped the question or talks anything about it😞 if I bring it up it’s because I said I wouldn’t want another baby until we are married and we start talking about plans about future baby but not a wedding. And I sometimes feel maybe he doesn’t want to marry (even tho he says he does) because of his past marriage but to me marriage is a big deal and I’m scared we will not get married and I don’t want to always be seen as the “other woman/second babymomma” I feel I deserve much more than that from everything I have always done and continue to do for this man and my family 😪 I know 4 yrs is still somewhat early to marry but I have done sooo much for him and our relationship has somewhat always moved fast because of how it started and obstacles we overcame. I would just want to know it’s something we both see in our future even if it’s 5+ yrs from now just to know he sees me as his future wife one day 😪
Ashley ·
that is completely a normal thing to want. it’s never to early to wanna marry the man you’re in love with. maybe you should just ask him to get married. i know his past you say might make him hesitant. but you’re not his past so he should move forward with you. especially since you say things are going pretty well.
Eryka·
Have you said all this to him? It’d be a good place to start so he knows how you feel. Maybe he’s scared of another failed marriage? But you never know until you fully express how you feel💕
Cheyenne Trent·
You need to tell him how you feel
Jelly 🔮·
Marriage is a big deal to every woman, you are not the only one, but ask him if it’s something you see in the future, but honestly it’s just a piece of paper me and my boyfriend been together 7 years and just started living together in September we have a one year old, don’t have him rush into something he’s not ready for . Just talk about it, if marriage is something u really really want and he don’t in the future that’s something you will be to figure out, just think what marriage actually means though, what would be different you guys live together have kids already ... I know it’s hard Momma but just talk to him see how he feels and explain how u feel men always change there mind , good luck ❤️
Donelle Brown ·
Мама двоих (1 год, 2 года)
PLEASE READ NOW Hey I understand cause im going though the same thing and I noticed it's not that he doesn't want to get married it's that he doesn't want to get married and then lose you and get divorce and maybe lose his kid out his life yes he has his other kids in his life but what if the ex would of told him that he could see his kids cause he was with you or she would of said I don't want you around at all. Stuff like that takes a lot out of some men they may not say it but they think it deep down inside. Yes he wants to be with you but he doesn't want to lose you remember that in do time you will be the main and only woman cause he feels that if there isn't to much of a title that you guys will be forever. And I feel how you feel about the second baby momma he says that isn't what I am that I'm wife but in my head that isn't what it is till everyone else sees that and doesn't thing that he will just dump me for her or someone new. I AM HERE TO LISTWN CAUSE I UNDERSTAND I GO THOUGH THIS ALL DAY EVERYDAY.