Thanks girls for all the advice

Tell her that she can raise her child how she wants, and you are raising yours how you see fit. If she isn’t paying your bills or paying child support for your child, her opinion isn’t needed!

That’s exactly what I would say. It’s firm and gets the point across but it still has tact.

If your trying not be rude tell her nicely to mind her business, it’s not her child it’s yours everyone has there own ways to raise there kids some might not agree on how others parenting goes but at the end of the day you keep your comments to yourself if you don’t have anything nice to say maybe express with your husband an see if he could talk to his friend an maybe her husband can tell her to stay in her place @b.smith82815,

@noturprops i will try my husband has told her to stop and get over herself..

Hrm, politely tell her how it makes you feel, to see if she's just a ruthless twat or an actual normal person. Once you establish that, then I'd know how to handle it better.