I feel like a single mom emotionally through this pregnancy! My partner won't engage much when it comes to talking to the baby. He says he thinks it's weird. He's a musician and he somehow can't find time to play her some guitar or anything. It's always a quick hi baby and good night baby, he's so distant even with me. I've been telling myself I should work at this relationship for my baby's sake but it's really really difficult when I know I wouldn't be with him if it wasn't for our baby. I am grateful he wants this baby and has stuck around to help but I can't stop feeling like we aren't meant to be together.
Sorry emotional rant :/
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@katiehofer01 communication is so important, I'm happy you've found a steady flow of it. Thanks for sharing your story and it's amazing to see and admire such strong women thank You!
Yeah for sure, it wasn’t my first miscarriage so it was a bit easier for me, and he was very insensitive towards the whole situation. We’ve developed so much communication over the last few months just takes time.
@katiehofer01 It's Understandable that a loss like that could make it hard for him to get excited again. This was my issue as well. What they need to understand is that we too had gone through that loss and we need there support more now than ever. We r scared too but that doesnt change the fact that a baby is coming right now.
My partner is very distant too, he once said to me he doesn’t want to show his excitement because we lost our first one before I got pregnant with this one. I’ve freaked out on him a few times saying that I need him to be a part of it. He’s slowly getting better, I hope your man comes around.
Wow that's crazy, you're so strong. It's nice he came around eventually, I hope mine will soon too. I'll ignore it too and focus on my health, thanks for sharing
He was the same...maybe worse. I know its something hes always wanted but he totally closed up. He could barely talk abt it. It was hard for me. But I tried to ignore it so I can focus on being healthy and having a positive pregnancy. He came around when i was about 7 months.
@pnutbutta yes it's his first baby, I know it's crazy how much we have to go through as women.. our strength is amazing!! Yea once he sees her he will participate, just wish he had a bigger picture type of perspective you know? How was your partner with your first baby?
I think it's a guy thing. My hubby had a really hard time connecting with the baby when I was pregnant because he couldn't see it and feel it. Once my son was born it was like a complete change. He was so in love and involved because it was suddenly real to him.