I need mommy advice I have a nine-year-old she’s my oldest she has gotten into being a real moody lately I have an…

I had the same problem with my kiddo after his dad and I got divorced. It will eventually subside but her dad needs to be on the same page as you when it comes to parenting otherwise it will just keep getting worse. Stick to your guns when she get punished. Otherwise she will try to walk all over you. Good luck!

That’s the sad thing me her dad me and him don’t talk because he was abusive to the point where he was threatening my life and they are basically forced to have to go to the visits because my lawyer screwed things up for nine hours every other Saturday he don’t even pay attention to them and when he does it’s yelling and screaming at them his parents are supposed to foresee the visits and they don’t do it like they’re supposed to causing the girls to have a hartache and hurt and that is why she don’t want to go so she throws a fit the week before because she says she’s angry at me for making her go but I have to make her go cause otherwise I can get in trouble cause it’s court ordered

My 10yr old daughter id's kinda gong through the same thing. This age is really tough for girls now days. She's the oldest out of my 3 kids and i share 50/50 with her and my sons dad and shes the oldest at her dads house out of 5 kids her being the only girl.. All the sudden out of the blue in September she started to refuse to go to his house and we are in court now because of it. The county in California we live in doesn't allow any form of spankings or anything of that nature. I was raised old school.. They rarely got a spanking from me or their dad but she knows that there's certain things we cannot say or do because of the court orders so she uses that to get advantage.. Her therapist thinks she has separation anxiety.. Her pediatrician let me know that because my daughter hasn't started her period yet but body wise she is showing signs of starting soon that to expect really up and down behavior for months to a year even before the period starts. Its so much of a challenge parenting a young girl in todays society especially when custody/divorce is a factor. My mom has been married 5x and what i took from her growing up watching her deal with custody and crappy fathers to her 3 girls that no matter how hard you try to do things right for your children that yet may not fully grasp the situation at hand until they have kids of their own. I can't begin to tell you how many times i acted out when i was younger due to my mom and dads relationship and not until i had my kids did i realize and grasp the situations I grew up around. Just show her some tough love but make sure that you are honest and real with her. I don't baby my kids from most things. Kids now days are a lot more knowledgeable than we think. Im here if you want to talk 😊

@1family1, thank you for ur encouragement and support it’s so hard cause this last. Visit they came home and my six-year-old told me that her grandmother her dad‘s mom said that she hates her mommy me and that I was stupid and then I broke their family and a bunch of other words and my nine-year-old confirm that she said it to both of them my mom had to call their grandfather and tell him To please not say that stuff to my kids because I won’t deal with the father myself because he scares me very abusive he still stocks me once a while so his parents have to have be there at the visit to supervise cause he is not the safest person in the world and I’m still trying to get this put back in court and it’s hard and thank you for your words of wisdom