I have a few things. They escalate from her reaction.

1. I tell her “Mommy isn’t hitting you, you are being mean! Please stop.”

2. I give her a warning, “You are going to get a spanking if you don’t stop.”

3. She has gotten two warnings, she gets a spanking and I say “see how it feels? It wasn’t nice to be hit was it?”

I did the same when my nephew was biting. He didn’t stop, so I bit him, he never bit me again. My toddler doesn’t hit any more, but she has gotten into the habit of throwing things, since I don’t want to throw things back at her, she gets basically the above warning then a spanking. Especially since the last time she threw a toy at me it hit my upper thigh and barely missed my pregnant belly. She got a spanking and sent to her room, a few minutes later she came out and had this to say; “Sorry I threw my toy at you mommy, I won’t do it again. It was mean. I love you.” I was a very happy mommy at this point.

Mine daughter 3.5 y.o. So she has more of an understanding of cause and effect, and a wide vocabulary. So keep warnings and punishments short, time out should last 1 minute for every Year of the child’s age. 3 y.o.= 3 minutes in time out. I took child development psychology in college and I am the last of 8 siblings to have kids, I’ve had lots of practice with punishments...

Hope this helps!

I hit my daughters hand obviously not hard, but enough so she knows you don't hit mama. She's a year 4 months and she's already testing me seeing how far she can get.. I believe in the spanking method. It's not for everyone, not judging mama you do what ever works for you.

My son is currently doing this except he hits himself my father in law said to hold his hands and talk to him and tell him there is no need to hit himself it’s day one of use starting it and we have had fewer incidents than yesterday

Time out, now learned to say sorry since he’s scared of time out